To say fuck off comments like that don't help the situation!

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DD (nearly 2)has woken up coughing, crying each time she coughs so it's clearly causing her discomfort, asked DP to come help me give her some Calpol. He said I don't think she'll have it. I try any way she kicks up a fuss starts getting really upset. While I'm trying to settle her down he pipes up with "I told she wouldn't have it she's to unsettled"

AIBU to say that saying I told you so isn't really necessary while I'm trying to help our child. She's a toddler she's not going to know what's best, she's just getting upset that her sleep keeps getting disturbed.

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I don't really see why he did wrong tbh.

I have said the same about my kids on many an occasion, it doesn't mean anything

Totally normal to be honest I would just put it down to the both of you being tired. We all get ratty when the cherubs won't sleep or are I'll.

Why did you need him to help you give her calpol?

Anyway, agree with others, he was right, she wouldn’t take it, he knew that, he told you that and you persisted. You’re only annoyed because you upset your child and he pointed out it could have been avoided.

People say it.

Doesn't make it less irritating.

Hope DC gets better soon.

Try putting Vicks on her feet. It helps with th coughing. I've tried it myself and it works wonders.

I was annoyed because instead of helping settle her he decided it was more important to say I told you so

I needed his help to give her meds, he was holding her while i got the dose ready

She always wriggles and refuses meds when shes upset

Anyway she's had her meds now and surprise she's stopped coughing and is settling back to sleep

You were already settling her. Why did you need him to also try and settle her? Sounds like overkill tbh. The whole lot. One of you could have dealt with the whole situation and avoided any “I told you so” or snapping at each other. It really wasn’t a two person job.

I've been known to cuddle a sick dc and ask dh to get the medicine. Perfectly normal to ask for help if dh is nearby. Stop making the op feel like she should have done it herself - getting medicine on spoon while holding a flailing dc isn't easy. Doable if necessary but not everyone insists on being a martyr.

Dh's comment was unhelpful but nothing to stress about. Agree you're probably both tired. Hope dd is better soon.

Calpol comes with a little syringe these days. Much easier than spoons. Very quick and easy to do.

Anyway just seems like a lot of drama created when it could have been avoided.

I’m with you OP, someone saying I told you so is well annoying. Especially when there’s no way he could’ve known for sure, it was just a guess. But - not worth falling out over. Hope DD is better soon.

One parent to cuddle and help to soothe the unwell 2-year-old small child, while the other parent sorts out the Calpol and the correct and accurate dose? That would be the ideal situation, if both parents are present.

It seems that your DP did not get any of this, though. He just criticised your attempt to help your child? Is that right?

Having a sick toddler is awful, and you are all exhausted. Hopefully you will all have some sleep post paracetamol and things will look brighter in the morning. Sleep as well as you can.x

One of you could have dealt with the whole situation

You obviously didn't have 2 year olds that were overtired, ill and refusing medicine. They wriggle, cry, knock the syringe out of your hand, hold their breath, spit it out......I could go on. It was often a 2 person job in our house.

OP-Your partners comment was unhelpful but probably due to frustration and lack of sleep maybe. I would just sarcastically say, "well thanks for your input" and roll my eyes. I hope your daughter is feeling better soon, everyone I know seems to be poorly at the moment.

You obviously didn't have 2 year olds that were overtired, ill and refusing medicine. They wriggle, cry, knock the syringe out of your hand, hold their breath, spit it out......I could go on. It was often a 2 person job in our house.

I had two of them. On my own. But I’m probably not supposed to say that because it’s a two person job!

God yes, the syringe is your friend.

Just open her mouth and squirt it down her throat...but not directly (towards the inside of her cheek).

As for the rest, just put it down to two knackered worried parents bickering. It's not worth stressing about.

Hope she's well soon

I had two of them. On my own. But I’m probably not supposed to say that because it’s a two person job!

But maybe your children were easier to give medicine to. My niece was much easier to give medicine to than my own children who always fought it when they were very poorly and tired. At times my children have missed a dose of antibiotics because I have been on my own and literally could not make them swallow it. It wasn't 'quick' or 'easy'. You may have asked your partner for help if you had one to try to make it easier for yourself and your child when everyone is shattered. It's very normal for both parents to help care for a sick child if they live together. Why try to knock another mum trying to do her best? Her child is poorly and she most probably shattered.

Giving medicine was definitely a 2 person job as far as DS1 was concerned, he used to fight taking medicine as much as he could. We were still using the syringes to get medicine into him when he was 5, because otherwise it’d be knocked all over the floor before it got anywhere near his mouth.

DS2 and DS3 are so much easier in that respect, they’ve always just obediently opened their mouths and taken their medicine with no fussing at all.

Anyway. There’s nothing at all wrong with asking a DP for help giving medicine if you’ve got a child who fights taking medicine.
His comments were unhelpful and I’d have found that annoying, but I guess you’re both tired and worried about her.

Ha. One person job. DD with ASD got admitted to hospital once on a drip because even 3 experienced nurses couldn't get meds into her orally. She was 2! So I can see where you are coming from OP if you struggle to get Calpol in. It's not about the Calpol but about him trying to score points.

YANBU

It's a two person job to do medications at our house too, one to get everything ready, then one to hold hands and child and the other puts the medicine in to the medication refusing child who has suddenly turned in to the strongest person on earth lol.

Pretty normal in our house for us to get snappy when running on no sleep, I would just let this one go.

@ilovemaxi , plenty of things can be done with one person but they are easier with two, think heavy lifting, long tiring drives, doing the supermarket shop by yourself while someone watches your children and of course getting medicine in to a non co-operative child.

Instead focus on the positive, rather than who was in the right. Your child is feeling better

No not helpful to make daft comments that just add to stress.

However, why are you giving calpol for a cough? Does she have a fever?

Personally I prefer honey/Lemon mixes for coughs.

I can relate - my child is 4 now and still meds-resistant! Using a syringe was life-changing. DH - slightly annoying yes, but you were all tired and doing your best