Mumsnet is blowing my mind

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Literally blowing my mind and getting me thinking about so many different topics/ different opinions etc so much so I feel I have a mini debate in my head over everything now 😂
Do you find this to ?
Which topics / discussions have really spoken to you ?

It keeps me laughing (and weeping at times) Started with the Relationships board - the supportive compassion, the tough love and the insight is a wonder to behold. I so wish I'd got there sooner in my life. MN is better than google for answering questions on all of life's twists and turns!
Like many, I have gravitated to the feminist boards where the sheer insight and intelligence of so many women is awesome. Every day is a school day on there and I love the determination that women will not have our rights stripped away from us and that we will protect our children from those seeking to groom them for their own ends.

I've become seriously gender critical, I've used the advice from Relationships to help two very close friends escape from abusive partners - but the single best advice was and remains The Nitty Gritty Louse Comb !

I've learnt loads of stuff! Mainly that people are different and that I was actually really judgemental before. I'm a lot less judgemental now.

Also, that people wash their towels after every use I wash mine when I can't remember the last time I washed it, LOL

Couldn’t agree more with all of the posts above. Came for the miscarriage board, stayed for AIBU and Feminism. Found out about the Trans chauvinist movement here and became a born-again feminist.

There's a long-running support thread in Bereavement that has helped me immeasurably since the loss of my beloved dad in December. Similarly the miscarriage board was a lifesaver for me (possibly quite literally) a few years back.

On the brighter side, I can lose hours in Classics. I also love the Doghouse for advice and cuteness, and Style and Beauty for a peek into a world that is completely alien to me.

Oh mine too. I love it all. I wish I had known about it at the height of all my PND despair and also when I returned to work without a clue as to my rights.

But now I adore Style; relationships; AIBU and the feminism chat. I also browse housekeeping regularly - particularly when I am trying to avoid said housekeeping in my own home!!!

The trans issues are a revelation - particularly useful when dealing with woke colleagues or family.

I now identify as a Gender Critical Radical Feminist who loves style and beauty, housekeeping, Marie Kondo, Property, AIBU and relationships.

I love getting the inside stories on Brexit from the other side of the sea (I'm Irish) and feeling part of a community with someone - particularly those who are having a hard time in their personal lives at the moment, the hand holds are great.

YANBU - I never meet people in real life as interesting as on MN.
Which sounds a bit sad but I think it's true about a lot of us.

I dont know if there is another platform like Mumsnet where you get such a brilliant mix of people. My fave section is the Feminist board that has the most amazing, intelligent, funny and kind women on it. I go on but dont post because Im way out of their league but Ive learned a massive amount and had my eyes opened to all the crap women and girls face every day. Life would be crap without this place

MN is a lifesaver

What a brilliant insight AIBUtopick that we’d have been closed down ages ago if this place was called Womensnet rather than Mumsnet. We’re hiding in plain sight (almost) and just about getting away with what men have always hated women doing - talking and organising.

Mn opened my eyes to trans issues. If it hadn't been for MN I would have no idea ( thanks BBC, Guardian, Labour Party) of what was going on
I was having a chat with a lovely young mum the other day and was astounded that she wasn't on MN. I so wish it had been around when I was a lonely young mother.

Not in the UK, I'm mainly here for the Rightmove links

Been on here 8 years and MN has opened my eyes to hidden disabilities, toxic relationships, narcs, gaslighting (told my dad to Google gaslighting and he was devastated to recognise what my mother had been doing to him for 37 tears), FOG, boundaries- with partners and with friends.

It's a wonder I functioned at all before MN 🙈

The only reason we’re still getting away with it is because it’s called ‘Mumsnet’. If it was called ‘Womensnet’ it would have been targeted and either shut down or ruined by incels and MRAs years ago.

Yes! Having the word mum in it is like an invisibility cloak. Which is fairly revealing all on its own.

The wonderful thing about mumsnet is the pooling of experiences, resources and insights. It's truly powerful.

And gives you an indication of the strength of women's combined forces. Something that, in a modern world, isn't always obvious. I'm fairly down-to-earth, but even I get the hint of an almost mystical quality to it sometimes.

Fab, isn't it? Love the fact it's anonymous and open to all comers, no social media bubble filtering here. Love it, I've lost too many other supportive forums to Facebook, so it's my last bastion.

I know so much more about everything. Some of it I wish I could unknow.

AIBUtopickanyoldname

Agree with everything you're saying. Yes to feminism and relationship boards changing the world. Yes to us only getting away with it because it's dismissed as "a bunch of silly mums". FWR in particular has made me both hate and want to fight for this world in equal measure.

Some of the forums like AIBU can be a bit of a bear pit and I'd advise caution if you're a newbie!

But a lot of the forums like Style and Beauty, Relationships etc - have really good, sound advice etc. I've not dared to set foot on the feminism boards but have seen a few of their posts in Actives.

With some of the advice given and questions answered though, I wouldn't take it all as gospel - make up your own mind too. It is great though to have, on the whole, a wide range of varying questions and answers.

The feminism boards mean so much to me. I have looked but am unaware of anywhere else on the web that is similar. I read the Brexit threads and am stunned at the level of knowledge and detail some of my fellow Mumsnetters have on the subject.

"Born again feminist" is a great word for it ferntwist, exactly how I feel. I found MN after googling something like "useless partner never does the dishes" and found a thread where the OP was talking about her partner doing the housework "for her" or "helping out" etc. The absolute pile on that followed, pages after pages of women saying "he's not helping, it's his bloody house", "he's not doing it for you because it's not your job". Sounds like such a small thing but it was like all the lights went on in my head at the same time. MN inspires me to raise my standards every day for the behaviour I expect from men, and my partner is now in no doubt that he can either meet those standards or find a new relationship. This was also the first place I came across the idea that feminism should be about, y'know, women. And concepts like internalised misogyny. Looking at the world through the lens of "women centred feminism" has been like stepping out of the matrix, and I sometime's wish I could unsee some of it, but I really believe this place could change the world.

Me too! The parenting section has saved me at times when being a new Mum felt so lonely and scary.

When my baby is napping I sit and read classics sometimes. You won’t find anything like it anywhere. I love how weird people are.

Literally blowing your mind?

The unwavering support & kindness from people who only know you from your words on a screen ,it means a lot when you've all but given up on people.
And like many others ,the feminist board !
I don't post ,but I read & I have learnt a lot.

It's been eye-opening re abusive relationships. In hindsight a good friend of mine was in an EA relationship with a textbook narcissist - wish I'd had MN then to talk to her about rather than just 'oh, that doesn't sound good'...

Also how common IVF is. I thought only a few people had it in extreme situations (before I had it myself!)

Sorry to invoke reddit, but it's absolutely been the red pill of my life. It helped me survive my incredibly abusive ex and begin to unpick the family abuse which effectively served me up to him (and his abusive family) on a platter. Thank you mumsnet (and mumsnetters!)!