DD boyfriend

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My Dd has a DP of 18 months, and we got card, and cake, but no present?

DD, DP is upset but we just feel we shouldn’t have to buy a present! At Christmas DD, DP got a present?

Don’t understand why it such a big deal?

DD is 23
Boyfriend 30 own house cat dog.

I would assume his family get DD presents, but that shouldn’t set a precedent.

I was expecting a teen at school not an adult working.

He is being a knobhead. You cant say 'I don't do family' then expect them to buy you a present.

DD did say they all got presents from his family for DD birthday.

But boyfriend lives 10 minute walk from his sister, would assume they see her a lot.

For argument sake, I think it to do with possibly a bad childhood, and he only chats to his sister.

So in 18mths you've met him 3/4 times, he doesn't come to family events as 'he doesn't do family' but expects a birthday present? He sounds like an immature idiot.

OP, thats no excuse.I had a shitty childhood and I don't expect presents. I buy my own!

Well if he 'doesn't do family' then how can he object to you not buying him a present. He sounds like a selfish pain in the arse.

But you got him Christmas present, so doesn’t make much sense? Your DD get birthday/Christmas presents for her, does look odd?

Tbh I don’t like family events, i would go see them 1-2-1, has he got anxiety issues?

He's 30!!!!!! He needs to grow up. I thought he was going to be 17 or 18.

He sounds a little bit odd really, doesn't "do" family but expects presents from family.

Get him a Lego set as he is behaving like a small child.

let's hope she doesn't marry mr entitled or god forbid have a child with him, if he 'doesn't do family' he's a bit of a knob imo for using that expression even before the rest of his silly attitude.

so what did your dd bf's parents do when it was her birthday? maybe the bf is assuming whatever his parents do is the norm

Get him a Lego set as he is behaving like a small child

haha!

I wouldn't have got him anything, hes nothing to do with you.
If you have only seen him a handful of times and hes said he doesn't do family then why should you buy him stuff?
Tell your daughter to tell him where to go.

He's a knob. We aren't into gushing over birthdays for anyone in our house. Both my sons have partners (of 2-3 years) they live with, the partners got Christmas presents and for birthdays get a card in the post. No one gets upset.

Does he buy presents for you?

Are you saying you didn't buy your daughters boyfriend a present and he is moaning to her about it ?

That is the issue here. Not whether you were unkind not to buy him one.

My sons girlfriend turned eighteen when they been together 3-4 months. We gave a card and a gift. Why wouldn't we? She's important to my son plus we really like her. Thank

My family we buy both Christmas/birthday, anniversary cards!

We bake cake when they’re visiting?

Maybe different family styles.

Fuck me, I thought you were going to say he was 17 but 30?? He sounds like an absolute arsehole, to be honest.

He sounds very high maintainance for a 23 year old medical student to put up with. What thirty year old man whinges about only getting a cake ? A birthday cake is a present ! He is ridiculously needy.

Does he buy presents for you?

I was just wondering this.

If not, then why would he be entitled to a present from you?

Oh he doesn’t ‘DO’ family but expects to be treated like family without any effort on his behalf. Does he buy any one who isn’t DD a gift ?

The boyfriend family did get DD birthday and Christmas present!

DD buy us presents
And boyfriend does his own family.

The cake was shop bought from Waitrose only small but still better than every day cake!

Recently he had been coming for coffee and playing with my DS kids so suppose I’d becoming more involved since just before Christmas!