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AIBU not to pay her?

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FattyFatCakes · 07/03/2019 17:37

I was due to be out for several hours today so I gave my two dogs a long walk before I left and then arranged for my neighbour’s mother’s help to pop in to check on them at lunchtime. The friend pays £10 p/h and suggested I give her £5 so I left this in an envelope for her.

At lunchtime I received a phone call from this lady saying ‘there’s been a problem, your dog has run away’. Apparently he didn’t want to go back inside when she called him so she tried to catch him (“chased him round the garden”) at which point he bolted. I pointed out that our garden is completely dog proof so he couldn’t possibly have escaped unless she had opened a gate and she then said he might be hiding. She said she had opened the gate to walk up the lane to see if she could find him but there was no sign so she left.
I told her that I was sure he must still be in the garden and she said she would pop back on her way home to see if she could see him. Sure enough, 10 mins later she messaged me to say he was there. I apologised for the inconvenience, thanked her and said I would get back as soon as I could.

I cut short my day out and raced home to let my dog in. The lady had left me a note saying I owe her another £5 so AIBU not to pay her?

My dogs have been walked / looked after by various people over the years and I have never had an issue before. Clearly I won’t be asking this person to help in the future so I’m not too worried about offending her but I’m wondering if it’s morally wrong not to pay her the extra £5?

Thank you!

OP posts:
mummmy2017 · 07/03/2019 21:28

I find it so odd.
If I had let someone's dog out chased it and lost it, I would be too embarrassed to demand more money, in fact I would have gone back and looked for the dog for free till I found it.
If I couldn't come with a dog, I had no right taking the job in the first place
If the dog had runout of the gate and truly been lost, or hurt would everyone still be telling OP that she had too pay for that.

ViolaD77 · 07/03/2019 21:47

I'd pay it but tell her she's a CF and u won't be using her again otherwise if u ignore her she'll prob come round & the situ will escalate. Thank god ur dog wasn't lost though, I'd of been in hysterics if she'd told me that. She is quite clearly a bit dim or u observant!

ViolaD77 · 07/03/2019 21:48

Unobservant*^

Candymay · 07/03/2019 22:05

Apologies OP- I misunderstood and thought you didn’t want to pay her the original £5 because she lost the dog etc. The extra £5 is worth it for the funny story in that case. And yes very sensible not to leave her with this job again.

givemesteel · 07/03/2019 22:28

The issue is that if you don't pay her that basically means you've fallen out with your neighbour for life, given that it's their mother. If you are going to live in your house for a long time and so is your neighbour it would be crazy to fall out over a fiver.

Just give her the fiver and put it down to experience only use people you know to look after your dogs or pay a proper dog walking company.

anxiousbean · 07/03/2019 23:12

I would pay the extra fiver but imply that I expected she wanted it to reimbursh your neighbour who was paying for her time - or just say good idea you will pay it to your neighbour directly.

I think the time was spent looking after your dog - so you should cover it - even if it didn't work out how you had planned. She was responsible enough not to just leave it.

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