AIBU to think DD is having me on??

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DD always used to eat potatoes in any form then she went off mash last year but would still eat roast/chips/smiles/homemade wedges.

Then she would only eat chips/smiles/homemade wedges and roast potatoes if they were chip shaped.

Now she's decided she likes chips (chippy or oven) and smiles.

Is she having me on? Surely chips are the same as roast potatoes really?

Not sure whether to just keep putting them on her plate and her not eat them or give in and give her an alternative!

How do you find the time @MrsJBaptiste ?

It's hard enough working FT and making healthy family meals without making four adapted versions. I'd sooner chop my pinkies off than get into that.

Just insist she eats all kinds of potatoes

And when the DD refuses, what then? Shove them down her throat? Refuse all other food until the potatoes are eaten? Insisting is a surefire way to turn a meal into a battle and make the problem worse.

Ds will only eat the inside of a jacket potato but won't eat mash
He also likes chips as long as they're thin or roasts as long as they're small. He will have wedges at school but not home.
Strange potato hating children

Clearly they don't taste the same, but I know what you mean OP, that they're both at least similar flavours, due to being the same vegetable cooked in different ways!

But guess what? Kids are notoriously irrational about food! Just roll with it.

They are so fussy. My son only likes homemade chunky chips, or mash, but not roast potatoes, which are like giant bloody homemade chips with mash inside them!

Letting them be fussy over one kind gives them licence to dictate about other foods. We allow 5 things you don't like, that's a maximum
Haha, good luck with that!

That is exactly what not to do. I mean seriously how many adults do you know who only have 5 foods maximum that they don't like. Its not always about being fussy, over time taste buds change your not giving them a licence to dictate you are allowing them to discover their own likes and dislikes

This is about potatoes. She liked them all but decided she now can have the ones she wants by saying she doesn't like the others.
No one is suggesting they are force fed to her. You think a parent should have to prepare different types of potato for each family member? If she doesn't like the potato choice of that meal then she doesn't have to have any.
You don't suddenly go off foods like that because taste buds change?!!
She is stating a preference, not a dislike.

I think it’s important to keep offering foods they’ve gone off but not to force them.

My dd is incredibly fussy and our precious nanny stopped feeding her foods at the first sign of fuss. This has backfired and I’ve gradually had to reintroduce foods but it meant a painful phase of her not wanting it.

I didn’t force it but just kept offering and she’s gone back to a (slightly!!) wider range.

But we all go off foods every now and then!

This is about potatoes. She liked them all but decided she now can have the ones she wants by saying she doesn't like the others.

Shrug it doesn't matter if its just about potatoes. I ate roast potatoes as a child but if I have a choice I will ask for mash or chips how is what the OPs daughter doing any difference she's stating a preference.

If she doesn't like the potato choice of that meal then she doesn't have to have any.

Great so just give her 1 part of the meal instead of being a grown up about it and making chips. It's not a battle worth having if the OP knows she likes chips then why would she not give her chips? Unless she was doing it to make some sort of authoritarian dictatorship point?
You don't suddenly go off foods like that because taste buds change?!!

Of course you can just go off food. Even something as simple as a sore throat can make you go off food because it tasted different when you ate it whilst unwell. Taste buds change all the time.

A few months ago I would have said she was having you on but I've gone right off potatoes myself. I can handle maybe a bite or two then they're slid onto DH's plate of in the bin. Mash is out (and I LOVED mash), boiled and roasts are a no no, waffles are a maybe and Hash browns are still okay. Chips are out too.

It's weird. Gimme a fresh salad and a steak and I'm good but if my taters aren't nasty, terrible for you waffles or hash browns I just can't eat them.

Potatoes are not essential to life. Let her cook pasta, rice eat bread. Most of us eat too many carbs. Ignore it.

Just to add, other than no seafood, I'm not a picky eater. And I've always eaten every kind of tattie!

How old is she?

But
Surely chips are the same as roast potatoes really?
No.
They are better than boiled potatoes but still different.

Still, keep offering different options, and if she doesn't eat potatoes once, that should be fine.

I'll eat potatoes cooked any way except a boiled old spud. I'll happily devour it if it's mashed but sitting on your plate as it is or cut in half forget it.

DH doesn't like boiled potatoes, but happily eats mash / roasts / chips so long as there is no potato skin involved.

DS likes mash and roasts but isn't fond of chips.

I like any potato so long as it's not reheated. I can tell a reheated potato just from the smell. (I'm annoying in restaurants for this!)

I would say they are all quite different products. It's a bit like saying that, because you like steak, you should also like roast beef and minced beef.

My friend used to pander to her DS as he would only eat chips if they were made from ‘new’ potatoes not ‘old’ potatoes (which I assume are the more traditional type of potato for chips). [ hmm]

It's like saying that over chips are the same as homemade chips done in the old fashioned fryer! Shame on you OP

DS much prefers chips to any other form, but will just eat less of the other forms. I'm not going to give him only chips.

He's 14 now, btw. Less fussy as a child, actually.

Shrug it doesn't matter if its just about potatoes. I ate roast potatoes as a child but if I have a choice I will ask for mash or chips how is what the OPs daughter doing any difference she's stating a preference

Choice is lovely but so is having some respect for the person doing your meals and not expecting them to accommodate your preferred version by cooking different for everyone or everyone having to have your choice.

Great so just give her 1 part of the meal instead of being a grown up about it and making chips. It's not a battle worth having if the OP knows she likes chips then why would she not give her chips?

Yes, you do. It's her choice whether to eat it. There isn't a battle.

Dd won’t touch potato in any form. She has gone through phases of eating crisps. It’s not a big deal. Not eating roast potato and mash is hardly picky eating. If this is all you’ve got to complain about you are incredibly lucky.

As a parent I've always felt it's my job to make food available, not to make them eat it. Just put the meal down in front of them with no comment and, when their done, take the remains away without comment. Recipe for a stress-free life.

They're not the same at all but don't let her dictate your menu. Serve up what you want and she can choose to eat it or not, but don't go making an alternative. Worst case she has to wait until breakfast for her next meal. She won't starve, and she might start eating a bit of other potato types.

She's 7.

This has been a gradual process for nearly a year so i do feel like it is her tastes changing rather than her suddenly being awkward.

I'll carry on giving her the same as us but won't make a fuss if she doesnt eat it.

Point taken about chips and roast potatoes being the same

Serve up what you want and she can choose to eat it or not

Why would you serve someone something you know they don’t like?

Would you apply the same to an adult?

My dd has gone off mash lately and has never really liked chips but she likes Smiles and roast potatoes