*Triggering* Death from Pneumonia

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Triggering and probably not the place but posting for traffic:

Has anyone experienced the loss of someone from pneumonia?

Was the death peaceful or was it horrible? What happened? Trying to prepare myself

Was in a coma 15 days with pneumonia and numerous complications (SIDS/ARDS). Organs shut down, family called in, and well, I'm on here typing now! I just woke up! Hard to kill a good one!

I have extremely vivid dreams from that time, which included being in Spain a lot. . A lot of them involved swimming, the sea, heat, sun, babies and feeling sleepy. I was in no distress at all and I suppose would have passed completely peacefully and oblivious had it been my time to go. From nursing notes, I appeared agitated at times, but I have no recollection of anything whatsoever. When I woke up, I had no idea whatsoever that I had been in a coma.

Hope that gives you some peace. I genuinely was not distressed at all. They give you good drugs I'm presuming!

My brother died on pneumonia in his 30s. He didn't know much about it, I think. He had a cold one day, then the next, he was having trouble breathing so was taken to hospital. They sedated him to intubate him, and he died at 2am the next morning having never regained consciousness.

It was distressing for us, obviously. The worst visible thing, aside from all the tubes and machines, was that he went blue/purple - something called heliotrope cyanosis. I don't know how common that is.

I hope your loved one recovers.

gran suffered and suffered with cancer.years of fight.
her immune system took the hit.and then when the cancer won it was going to be a terrible decline.the pneumonia took her sooner.
take care of yourself.im so sorry for whats coming for you.do what you can for him and you.
its hard however it happens.xx

buuuut my friend just had it on her lungs. and she is now at home recovering so don't lose fight if you haven't been told its the end!

fontanella I think it's common for patients to 'wait' until they are alone or at least have some privacy before they pass.

With my relative, her family, friends and hospital staff had been around and visiting to say goodbye at various points once we were told she was on palliative care only (no monitors or treatment, just a nasal oxygen probe to stop her fighting for breath).

Then just immediate family were left waiting, until my husband and I popped out for a moment and she took her last breath with just her mum and dad there. I'm absolutely convinced that's how she wanted it. She 'let' me and my husband go, whereas when her dad gave her a kiss and said he was popping for a shower, she opened her eyes (the only time she did so in the last 2 days despite the rest of us chatting to her).

I remember Bea cupofteaplease🦋