So recently I've started seeing a new guy, it's been quite quick and intense and we saw each other a lot when I was child free recently. We ended up having sex a few dates in, although I had mentioned how I wasn't just after casual fun and after something more meaningful - which he also agreed he was (as they do, lol.)
Anyway, ever since we had sex we haven't had it again as I have held back. Last time I saw him we went out but then he asked to go back to mine, so we did but I was adamant in my mind that we just watch a movie. During the movie he hinted at wanting sex, but I played dumb to it and he left after just a kiss.
He planned a new date for last weekend which involved us being in public, so I was looking forward to that as there would be no sex expectations. However, before that date happened he started asking if he could come to mine in the week once my kids were in bed...again I felt it was him hoping for sex...so I ended up cancelling both those dates. I lied and said I was sick.
He has shown interest every day since, and we do get on - he's probably the first guy in a long time i've clicked with - so I agreed to him coming over tomorrow as he said he'd missed me etc. But this evening he started talking about what we'd do and all of a sudden he starts saying about us both being together with 'no clothes' and 'i'll get some wine' (as the time we had sex I had drank wine.) I then turned around and said 'are you basically saying you want to have sex with me tomorrow?' in which he backtracked, said he just wanted to cuddle, in which I picked him up on his 'no clothes' comment, but he played innocent to it all.
Anyway, I feel partly like IBU, and partly like I'm just fed up of men wanting me for one thing. I went on another date recently (me and this guy aren't exclusive), and all night the guy looked at me like I was a piece of meat. Needless to say he went home alone, and I never heard from him again. I've been single 2 years and dated someone for a while in that time who totally used me for sex but made out he wanted more. I just want someone who wants ME, and yes I know I probably shouldn't have slept with this guy so soon, but I have now so maybe that's how I've screwed it up.
I am now ignoring this guys messages and feeling like I should cancel tomorrow night. But AIBU. Is this just normal standard guys trying their luck, especially when you've already had sex once. Probably also should mention he's almost 4 years younger than me, he's 30 and I'm nearly 34.