Husband offended

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Husband singing three blind mice earlier to DD. I got the giggles as he got the tune wrong. He then refused to sing anymore to her. When I said to him that he overreacted he has said that he is really offended that I would laugh at him rather than with him and that he is really paranoid now and won't ever sing a tune he doesn't know.

I mean... come on. Seriously? AIBU that this is really petty? Or actually have I been a bit cruel and you think this is a genuine reason to be offended?

If he never sings to his daughter again that's his decision alone.

My husband and I sing the wrong words and out of tune on purpose...so I don't see what the big deal is. I try to hit high notes badly and shrilly until he says "Dear lord." In a really British way. 😉

What kind of world are we living in if we can't take the piss out of our husbands anymore?

He said you laughed "at him rather than with him" and there's definitely a difference. He knows you and we don't so if he normally doesn't get offended easily by stuff then maybe he has a point. You made him feel self-conscious is all. A lot of folk are self-conscious about singing. I have a terrible singing voice but do my best with my DD. I'm a mimer when it comes to singing anywhere else.

My partner and I usually have zero embarrassment about anything when around each other...but I never sing in front of anyone, him included.

I don’t have a terrible singing voice, in fact I think I can hold a tune pretty well in comparison to most. But I feel so self conscious when I sing.

I probably wouldn’t have the same reaction, but I might be just as embarrassed inwardly.

Laughing at your DH was not a great way to start teaching kindness to your DD

I'm not a great singer and my dh is. I love to sing. I would be upset if he laughed at me. Its tough going through school being a poor singer and someone may have laughed at him along the way. I feel sorry for him. I presume he doesn't laugh at your sensitive weaknesses. Apologise and let him enjoy his fun time with dd.

It took me years to get over hearing a friend of my older brother saying to him “Can’t you do something about your sister’s voice?” 30 years to be precise.
Be kind.

But @marvellousnightforamooncup it only works if both parties find it funny. Nothing wrong with taking the piss (jokingly) out of a loved one but everyone has things they're sensitive about.

Being someone's husband/wife doesn't mean you can take the piss out of them all the time with no consequences.

Nothing wrong with taking the piss (jokingly) out of a loved one but everyone has things they're sensitive about.

Well if the OP wasn't already aware of her husband's super sensitivity she sure is now!

Send him this?

(seriously though...)

You're always a 'snowflake' or a 'drama queen' or 'over-sensitive' when you object when someone hurts your feelings or doesn't find having the piss taken out of them funny.

Says more about the other person imo.

If another child did this to your child at school, it would be bullying.

If it was me I would just sing it wrong even louder. Especially if I had got the words amusingly wrong. I might be upset if I was told to shut up because I sound awful but it doesn't sound like you did that.

You're a drama queen when your reaction is far more dramatic than the situation warrants.

Aww I feel a bit sad at the thought of a loving Daddy being laughed at while hes connecting with his little child.
I know hes probably being a bit dramatic but sometimes its the small things that wound you. A friend who was about size 4-6 refused to have her legs uncovered -always wore sturdy trousers. The reason? Because someone she respected once remarked on her 'footballers legs'. A lifetime of no nice dresses or skirts because of a throwaway remark.

“You're a drama queen when your reaction is far more dramatic than the situation warrants.“
People are allowed to be sensitive about stuff. The proper response is “i’m sorry, love- I didn’t mean to upset you”. Because that’s what kind people do.

My partner gets very self conscious when doing anything 'performy' with the kids like reading aloud or singing. He does it because he wants to do things like that for them but it doesn't come easily to him and he'd be really upset if I mocked him.

Because that’s what kind people do.

people in glass houses...

I missed the bit where the OP’s dp layghed at her about something she was sensitive about....

I wasn't referring to the OP.

I am a super confident person in most things, but there something about singing... lovely to do with my DD but would feel mortified and ashamed if someone laughed at me.

I'm very self-conscious about singing or reading aloud, lots of things like that. If my partner laughed at me whilst I was doing it I'd be upset and certainly wouldn't do it within earshot of them again, if at all! Perhaps he's the same?

“I wasn't referring to the OP.”

. If you think I was being unkind you must be the most hypersensitive person alive!

I wasn't thinking of this thread specifically, just your posting style in general.