To not want my FIL to feed my 7 mo chocolate cake batter???

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And to stuff my dd with 5 biscuits before tea time?

What do you think?

what on earth is choc cake batter?

Hmmm..maybe I don't know what they call it in the UK. It's when you make a cake and you haven't cooked it yet.

Raw eggs - just perfect for a seven month old

I know he wants to treat them, but sometimes he can be so clueless.

Was it just a taste? Could you call it baby led weaning?

I think a lot depends on how often they see him. Every 6 months - then it's a granpa's duty to provide as much unsuitable food/entertainment/shopping as can be fitted into a weekend. Every week, and he plays by your rules except at Christmas and Bbirthdays.

Mind you, even if it's every 6 months, I might question the cake batter because of the raw eggs.

He sees them regularly and is always pushing sweets, and chocolates and biscuits on my 3 yo. My 7 mo hasn't even started on solids properly, so it just annoyed me he fed her raw cake batter. The last time we saw him, my dd had some sugary drink, 4 biscuits and some crumble with ice cream before tea time. I disagree btw that grandparents should ever have the right to stuff them with junk. My oldest has 4 cavities already!

Oh, if it's regular, then definitely have some rules. Use the teeth thing and be firm. If necessary say the dentist says they've got thin enamel and have to be particularly careful with sweets, but that absolutely love strawberries/raspberries/peaches - something else he can spoil them with.

I did say they could only feed them rubbish if they only see them twice a year!

could you say they have to cut down on sugar snacks - bread is best for a while - or something like that - see what they grandparents say.

BUT it is what grandparents do..I remember staying with nan n grandad over night from when I was small and we could have anything we wanted for breakfast, 9 times out of 10 I would choose a fresh cream cake as I knew Nan would be walking to the bakers before brekkie lol and I knew I could have what I wanted. My mum does this with my ds although not fresh cream cakes as bakers too far away...

He knows nanny's for sweets home is not lol

I was v strict about what my dc ate as babies and would not have tolerated any one acting as your FIL. The difficulty is in stopping him once he has started to do it. Personally I would throw a complete tantrum, but every family is different.

I remember being absolutely astounded when an aged aunt asked if dd1 (then 5 months) would like some cake! Since then I have learned that some people, especially oldies seem to think you can feed babies anything.

mmmmm....cake mixture...mmmm...

TheLadyEvenstar that is sooooo funny - walking to the bakers. Fantasy grandparents for a child

I love cake mix.

Ask him to save it for me instead.

Why throw a tantrum though Elasticwoman? Just tell him politely.

No, you are not being unreasonable. I would have had a hairy fit if anyone did this to my ds. I was doing the oh so careful weaning,delaying the introduction of various food groups (eggs being delayed until 12 months) because of the family history of allergy. Turns out I was doing the right thing as it transpired that ds has a pretty serious egg allergy. Eggs are bad enough with this in mind, but raw egg ffs. I know they are all supposed to be vaccinated if there is a lion mark etc, but I still wouldn't take the risk.

You're certainly not being unreasonable. My MIL tried to feed my DS chocolate at 6m old; we told her very firmly that she was not to do it until we gave her permission. Aside from the possibility of their developing a sweet tooth, which will make your life MUCH more difficult than necessary, babies' and children's bodies can't cope with all those sugar highs and then the subsequent no-sugar lows. So they need wise parents like you to protect their needs. Don't feel that you can't be firm with them, Elasticwoman is right about oldies being out of touch with current practices. My MIL didn't even know about feet to foot, so rest assured that you are doing a great job and you know what's best for your DD.

Gegs, I used to love it..... but sadly Nan is no longer with me and I have to go alone,...mind you I am old enough to now.

I was assuming she had already told him politely and he had turned hearing aid down!!

I did tell him politely not to do it, especially as she isn't even on solids properly. She just keeps spitting everything out. He ignored me and I got my dh to talk to him. I actually don't believe grandparents have the "right" for lack of better word to spoil children with sweets and other crap. Can't they find a better way to "treat" them? My dd would just be happy if her grandad sat with her and played with her dolls or read her a book. It really annoys me to no end when he ruins her tea with crap.

Your child, your rules.

Sorry, it wasn't clear that you'd already asked him.

Sweets are such a cheap treat though, aren't they. I was guilty of it as an auntie (including sweets in Xmas presents, that type of thing. Wasn't a regular visitor). Then heard dn had signs of decay at 2 years old, thought to myself, I'm part of the problem here.

And parents rules apply, particularly with one so young.

Maybe you should go shrieky madwoman on him (workes for me, although never my intended strategy!)

i guess this is a rare occurence? i think lighten up big time - the intentions were good - just clueless - unless this granpa is going to be a regular carer for your child i would just forget about it

It's damned unreasonable...

I want it!!!

Agnes

Oh, and for the record, you're not being unreasonable at all. Raw eggs aren't good for most of us, and a small baby isn't going to have the best experience of it if he or she isn't weaned.

Most of all though, you have made a choice in the matter. You should be heard and the grandparent should respect your wishes.

Agnes

Err what's "feet to foot" mean? Speaking as a cluless 'oldie!'