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I’m so embarrasswd

35 replies

Baddateee · 05/03/2019 09:48

I went on a terrible date yesterday, lots of drink consumed on empty stomach and I cried loudly on transport home. At midnight. Feel absolutely humiliated today!

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MojitoMojitoo · 05/03/2019 10:01

Ahhh dont worry yourself, what are the chances of seeing any body again who might of seen you?

I got really shit faced once at a Christmas party one of the offices in my building was having and they had to send me home in a taxi. No recollection of it until I woke up and had to ask my other half how the hell I got home.

Swore I was quitting my job because I'm a bit of a tit when im drunk and didn't know what I may have said or done. Sheepishly returned to work and no one said anything!

Hot4Holes · 05/03/2019 10:03

Oh dear, half your anxiety is probably ‘the fear’ from alcohol consumption.
Get some fat, carbs and plenty of water down you and you might start to feel a bit better physically.
No choice but to laugh off the crying! We’ve all been there.

STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 05/03/2019 10:05

Oh no, like proper wailing to yourself on public transport?

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Baddateee · 05/03/2019 10:07

I think it was wailing 😭 some lovely guys rescued me though. It was such a shit evening and I had dressed up and made such an effort - just felt absolutely terrible, plus no dinner and a lot of alcohol. Recipe for disaster really

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PutyourtoponTrevor · 05/03/2019 10:13

Oh dear, sounds crap. Why was it so awful?

Kolo · 05/03/2019 10:16

Alcohol is a depressant, so the hangover makes you feel 100x worse than you deserve. Hangover shame is a real thing.

It sucks, but it happens to the best of us. Hopefully soon enough it will just be a funny drunk story you can laugh about. Don’t beat yourself up.

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Baddateee · 05/03/2019 10:18

I think it was the alcohol talking really and me being dramatic haha. But he was just very boring and literal, I was trying to crack jokes to inject some humour into proceedings but he took everything extremely seriously - couldn’t stand being wrong either! A cover song came on and we were trying to work out who did the original, he got it right and took great pleasure in announcing why I was wrong etc. Just a bit ridiculous!

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Kolo · 05/03/2019 10:18

Having said that, I’ve probably got half a dozen really awful drunk stories that I rotate in obsessing over and beating myself up about.

crimsonlake · 05/03/2019 10:20

We live and learn. Depending upon how you met, if it was on old, next time just arrange to meet for a coffee and try not to build up your expectations so much.

frenchonion · 05/03/2019 10:23

Well it's a good job he was an arse so at least you don't have the feeling of having blown it with someone you want to see again - that's a positive! Chances are you won't ever see the bus witnesses to your wailing ever again. Get some good carbs, fat and a multivit down your neck and distraxt yourself from the flashback dread with a book or something. Everyone's been there FlowersCake

Justaboy · 05/03/2019 10:25

I think, we can safely conclude it wasnt a match made in heaven then;!

MoistMolly · 05/03/2019 10:32

I think it was the alcohol talking really and me being dramatic haha. But he was just very boring and literal, I was trying to crack jokes to inject some humour into proceedings but he took everything extremely seriously

He was probably embarrassed by how drunk you were.

Singlenotsingle · 05/03/2019 10:36

We've all had nights like that. I can still remember some of the disastrous dates when I got plastered Blush

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 05/03/2019 10:36

I'm not going to tell you not to be mortified. Like pp says. Weve all been there. When we've thought. Oh shit o can't believe I did and said that. I'll have to lock myself way as I can't possibly face the world again.
However it's done and gone.
Plus people will only remember the situation. They won't actually remember your face.
Tell you what he sounded a Right barrall of laughs. Its small wonder you hit the bottle. Grin. Lighthearted but deadly serious.

mamato3lads · 05/03/2019 10:37

Ah don't sweat it, a lot of us have done things like this. Cringe, yes but don't torture your self.
I did the no food-lots of alcohol- loud crying on MY WEDDING NIGHT.
Beat that ! Confused

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 05/03/2019 10:38

I think we can conclude it wasn't a match made in heaven.

Yes I take it I don't need to dust down my hat.Grin

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Baddateee · 05/03/2019 10:45

Moistmolly - thanks for that! This was from very early on in the night. If he was so embarrassed he could have gone home

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speakout · 05/03/2019 10:47

I think you behaved appropriately given the circumstances.

Dating a control freak with no sense of humour- lots of alcohol sounds the perfect solution.

downcasteyes · 05/03/2019 11:01

Oh, you poor thing.

Most of us have been there! Sometimes you just need to let it all out.

Shame you didn't get the number of the guys who rescued you on the bus Wink.

Marlena1 · 05/03/2019 11:04

Haha you needed the alcohol!! Don't worry, ppl were probably thinking "we've all been there"! It's a funny story for the future! He sounds a right knob!

Tatiannatomasina · 05/03/2019 11:05

Imagine how bad the date would have been if you were sober 🤣

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 05/03/2019 11:11

If I told you just half of what I've done when I've been pissed. I'd have to kill you.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 05/03/2019 11:13

Ahhh live and learn OP lots of us have done similar. Just be sure to keep your self safe especially if your getting public transport home drunk after.

PorterBella · 05/03/2019 11:20

At least you weren't drunk, crying and pissing yourself.

I'll just leave that there...

deydododatdodontdeydo · 05/03/2019 11:50

A cover song came on and we were trying to work out who did the original, he got it right and took great pleasure in announcing why I was wrong etc. Just a bit ridiculous!

You'll be laughing about all this in a month or two, don't worry.