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To give a really cheap wedding gift?

62 replies

talianew · 04/03/2019 12:39

I'm going to a wedding on Saturday.
It's my friends sisters wedding.
I went into a shop and found a really nice photo frame as a gift it was only £26.99
Got to the till and it was on sale for £6.99
Is this too cheap for a gift ?

OP posts:
Bitchywaitress · 04/03/2019 12:43

Not if you put a nice photo in it.

MuddyMoose · 04/03/2019 12:45

I think it'd make a lovely gift.

Owwlie · 04/03/2019 12:45

Well they won't know how much it cost unless you tell people. So just don't tell people.

0rangeB0ttle · 04/03/2019 12:49

Buy a lovely wedding card and write good luck message to go with your present

Huntawaymama · 04/03/2019 12:54

I'd be over the moon with that kind of result!

laurG · 04/03/2019 12:55

It at all. I think it’s the thought that counts. I hope your friend enjoys it.

SweetPeaPods · 04/03/2019 12:57

It’s worth more than you spent so I would just give that. The more you add to it the cheaper it looks. Great bargain!

Etino · 04/03/2019 13:00

It’s a lovely gift.
But... and I’ll get flamed for this but it’s probably going to cost them a lot more to host you at the party so if you can afford it why not a voucher too?

SaucyJack · 04/03/2019 13:00

It’s the same frame it was when you thought it cost £27.

If it was a suitable gift then, it’s a suitable gift now.

Meandmetoo · 04/03/2019 13:04

Agree with pp, it's the same frame as it was when it was ridiculously priced. I'd give it.

AngelaHodgeson · 04/03/2019 13:07

But... and I’ll get flamed for this but it’s probably going to cost them a lot more to host you at the party so if you can afford it why not a voucher too?

being a guest also costs a lot more than just the gift - there's also the outfit(s), drinks in the evening (even soft drinks often cost a fortune at weddings) as well as possible hotel stays.

In addition, the amount spent on the reception should not affect the amount spent on a gift. my DSis was skint when she got married but still got a similar value gift to my DBro who had more to spend on a wedding.

Original poster
talianew · 04/03/2019 13:10

I'm staying over night in the hotel where they are getting married ..it's quite posh and £75 each for the room plus I'm imagining the drinks are going to be ££££ too

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Chilledout11 · 04/03/2019 13:20

I wouldn't personally but they won't know the cost. I usually give 150 to 200 cash gift and that is what we received back.

KaliforniaDreamz · 04/03/2019 13:20

get something else as well. if you're not skint, obv.

outpinked · 04/03/2019 13:23

The only issue is frames seem to be the most popular wedding present, I have no idea why. When I got married we got approx 20 photo frames and we really didn’t know what to do with them all, I’m afraid most made their way to the local charity shop.

cjpark · 04/03/2019 13:23

Bonus! I'd buy a couple for xmas presents too.

downcasteyes · 04/03/2019 13:24

Wow, way to score a bargain!

I think it's fine. Smile

IvanaPee · 04/03/2019 13:24

It’s fine! I’d buy the rest for Christmas gifts or other weddings! Wink

Badtasteflump · 04/03/2019 13:27

I usually give 150 to 200 cash gift and that is what we received back

I wish I'd invited you to my wedding then chilled Grin

I would never spend that much on a wedding gift and don't know anybody who would, other than v close family (parents, etc) of the bride/groom. Seems ridiculously extravagant.

OP the gift is fine - it is worth a fair bit more than you paid for it but so what? Makes no difference to the quality of the gift - just don't go round telling everybody!

DobbyTheHouseElk · 04/03/2019 13:33

I usually give 150 to 200 cash gift and that is what we received back

Wow. I can tell you no one spent that on us at our wedding. We are from a wealthy family on one side, and no one spent that sort of money. Most gifts were £25-30. I know because they bought off our wedding list. My DParents suggestion that we put some expensive items on the list was a good plan, but they didn’t get bought. Haha obviously all my friends and family are cheap skates.

PutyourtoponTrevor · 04/03/2019 13:35

We've been invited to a wedding this year and as it's going to involve flights, hotel, car hire and cost around £2k. We won't be buying a gift too

PiebaldHamster · 04/03/2019 13:35

I usually give 150 to 200 cash gift and that is what we received back.

I'd never be able to afford to go to a wedding at that rate.

Personally, I wouldn't give that but only because I think it's a shit gift not because of cost. I don't know many people who use them much.

Badtasteflump · 04/03/2019 13:36

Dobby no I think £25-£30 is pretty normal actually - so don't take it personally Smile

Meandmetoo · 04/03/2019 13:39

Never in a million years would i spend 150-200 on a wedding present! £20 is my normal limit.

PiebaldHamster · 04/03/2019 13:39

As for 'it costs more than that to host you', do you expect dinner party guests to hand you an envelope containing cash to 'cover their plate' when you host a dinner party? Or when you host a child's birthday party?

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