Sorry its a long one. So my fil has moved to the town we live in after months in a MH ward. At first he moved into my two bed house with me, dh and 10 year old dd. Dd gave up her room and slept in with us on the floor. We were renovating so had no working space downstairs.
He expected me to do everything for him, I did as I was lead to believe he couldn't do much for himself. The situation went on for two months and I ended up staying with my sister as it was to much and I had no space at all. Considering I was getting over a small break down with no support I found it all very hard.
Dh found fil a property to rent private as he gets a shed load of benefits due to playing the system for 30 odd years. We were called round to go to the shop for milk and bread when the shop Is a two min walk from him. I also work and dd has a full timetable, plus the renovation. He wastes nhs time with made uo ILLNESS so he can claim more benefits and get people yo feel sorry for him.
So recently he has gone to our local public house and made friends, all seemed good as he was making the effort. Until he goes on the bus into a large town with a lady he met in the pub ( a friend of mine but a lot older than me) and manages to walk round and get drunk. Now I feel he was taking the mickey out of me and my efforts as he was able all along to do it for himself with support. We had a family meal out and he brought the rest of the family drinks but claimed it would cost to much to buy ours, which were soft drinks. After all we have done. My husband thinks I'm being unreasonable by not wanting to help him and only interacting when i need to. Help please there is more too but this is long.