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2 year old having cup of tea at nursery

363 replies

Pumpkinsoup22 · 02/03/2019 09:46

My dshas just moved out of baby room. When I collected him the other day was told he'd just had a cup of tea and biscuit. I assumed they were role playing and really meant water or milk. However the staff member said no real tea. AIBU to think this isn't really appropriate for 2 year olds.? Before this I've never had any concerns at all with the nursery.

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Windingstreams · 03/03/2019 09:55

I look back on my DCs toddler years and wonder why I was so uptight about stuff like this .... water, not squash, absolutely no fizz, limited chocs/sweets, organic food where possible, plenty of fresh air and exercise, 12 hours sleep a night .... yawn

That’s not ‘uptight’ or boring it’s called good parenting. They make their own choices later in life but it’s your job to give them the best start

Quintella · 03/03/2019 09:59

I would be livid if anyone gave my toddler tea. I don't even let my 11 year old drink it, let alone a baby.

Banning an 11 year old from having a cup of tea seems..........peculiarly controlling.

LaurieMarlow · 03/03/2019 10:20

I understand why you’d be a bit annoyed because it wasn’t agreed or you’d prefer them not to have it, but livid seems a total over reaction.

They have worse stuff in nursery every day of the week. Why does tea provoke such outrage?

CinammonPorridge · 03/03/2019 11:28

I used to babysit a 2 yo boy whose Italian parents would give him watered down cola in a beaker. He would not go to sleep.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 03/03/2019 12:36

I know friends from various countries in South America who give coffee to their young children as they get older they have less milk in it Grin

You know at times not everything is perfect and that fine

TigerTooth · 03/03/2019 17:39

Just opt out of tea for him. Mine have always loved tea and had it from about a year, very weak but still tea.

ittakes2 · 03/03/2019 17:40

I'm sorry but I agree with you - I don't give my children caffeine whether its in tea or coke. My daughter likes peppermint tea though - just ask nursery to not give it.

Paddingtonthebear · 03/03/2019 17:45

No I wouldn’t let a toddler or young child drink tea. I am not sure what the nursery are doing giving toddlers any hot drinks tbh. My relatives in the north of England give their kids lots of tea though , maybe it’s a regional thing.

Bohbell · 03/03/2019 17:52

I gave my DD milky tea without sugar in her bottle. Now she is 14 she drinks only tea without sugar, and still water. Much better than juice or pop and i am v pleased i did it.

ToftyAC · 03/03/2019 17:52

I was dragged up on a good builder’s brew. My eldest loved a milky tea with a teabag just wishy washied through the warm water & milk from a tiny boy. My youngest can’t stand the stuff. I would think it’s only a very weak tea.

manicmij · 03/03/2019 17:57

If the cuppa is 99% milk with a spoonful or two of tea then can't see the harm. Perhaps a way to get toddlers to drink milk they would otherwise refuse.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 03/03/2019 18:01

I'd rather give my kids tea to drink than all the other crap-filled drinks that some parents are so smug about. Squash? Juice? Pop as a treat?

If you don't like your child having tea at nursery OP then ask them not to give that to him.

Obi73 · 03/03/2019 18:03

Instead of summising and assuming have you thought about having a proper conversation with the staff?

RomanyQueen1 · 03/03/2019 18:16

Me and dh drink tea and coffee, but our dc didn't like it as kids.
As grown ups they have the occasional coffee and a few cups of tea a day.
If kids like a bit of tea, it will do them no harm.

LaurieMarlow · 03/03/2019 18:18

idon't give my children caffeine whether its in tea or coke.

Do they ever have chocolate? There’s caffeine in that.

Fowles94 · 03/03/2019 18:18

Am I missing something? Is tea code for whiskey 🤷‍♀️
Just ask them to single out your child in the future and he can have milk.
It's not gonna kill a child though.

topcat2014 · 03/03/2019 18:26

I took coffee to primary school in unbreakable plastic kermit the frog flasks, (in 1982)

Vynalbob · 03/03/2019 19:06

Whoops Tea Police
Kids usually love a weak tea and a biscuit
I would have thought aww that's sweet
It's certainly not the easy/lazy choice.
Crikey

pollymere · 03/03/2019 19:15

I would've expected them to ask you first about what they drink at home.

sunshine11 · 03/03/2019 19:21

I’d rather have my lo having tea than squash (full of nasty carcinogenic sweetener) but I agree, tea is a weird thing to give a toddler.

Jamhandprints · 03/03/2019 19:26

No I don't think that's normal. I'd complain. I know a lot of toddlers have peppermint or other herbal teas which is fine but if it's proper tea, then that's awful and must be against their healthy eating policy. Please make a complaint for the sake of the other children too. The staff may not realise it's bad for them. Also, biscuits every day at that age...not really necessary. There are plenty of other snacks they could have.

sunshine11 · 03/03/2019 19:28

I’d rather have my lo having tea than squash (full of nasty carcinogenic sweetener) but I agree, tea is a weird thing to give a toddler.

Hairyporker · 03/03/2019 19:31

12 pages of angst about a couple of sips of piss week tea. Classic mumsnet.

Hairyporker · 03/03/2019 19:31

*weak

LaurieMarlow · 03/03/2019 19:36

but if it's proper tea, then that's awful

Why’s it so ‘awful’?

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