To think two bottles of wine was a bit excessive?

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Am I just really boring or am I right to be annoyed that DH drunk his own bottle of wine red and then mine (white) too after I'd gone to bed? Differentiated to explain why one "his" and "mine" as he doesn't usually drink white

We have a baby so I don't really drink much anymore, I had a glass tonight and probably would have tomorrow tonight

It's just annoying because he gets drunk on his own, falls asleep in front of loud tv etc

But it is a Friday night and he's a nice enough drunk... AIBU? We used to drink a fair amount together and I do feel like the fun police going to bed early although it's necessary as DC a bad sleeper

It IS a major binge. Mindlessly sinking red and white suggests he has no off switch.
You can’t stop him drinking OP. You can only control your reaction to it.

There are a lot of big drinkers on mumsnet although most if the drinking threads on here bring out the people who have a thimble of sherry every leap year.

Two bottles us a lot to drink in one go but if it's only every so often then I wouldn't stress too much. Surely you can go out to the shop today and buy yourself another bottle if white wine? You should get it all to yourself too as your OH probably won't fancy any more wine today!

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It's the average for most of the men I know. I don't deny that 8-10 pints of beer is a lot but over a six hour period (the average night out) then that's about right. E.g. the same as a bottle of prosecco and a few cocktails for a woman.

I couldn't get upset over him drinking your wine. I'd just get another bottle. It wouldn't cross my mind to be annoyed.
The amount wouldnt bother me if it was a one off over a good few hours. If it was a regular thing I would be concerned.
I usua6go to bed before Dp so if the TV was blaring I would be cross. I would also be concerned about disturbing neighbours if you are attached to any.
As for the lie in, it's you who chooses not to.
So all in all AYBU? I'm not sure, it depends!!

It's a weeks recommended units in one night.
As a one off its not too bad but I would be annoyed he drank mine.

I don't really understand how you can't have wine today, surely one of you can go out and buy a bottle?

Past that, I'd not be stressed about this, if it was regular and caused me issues, yes, but occasional tying one on I'd just take the piss. But if I wanted wine I'd ask him to pop out and replace it. No big deal really.

Depends if it is budgeted for. 🤷 If they have a budget for a bottle each a week then that's that.

We've had a laugh about it now. I think it is too much for a night in alone, but it's not that regular.

Not going to drive all the way to the shops with DS just to buy another bottle of wine so I can have a glass but I don't care that much now.

I think he knows to keep an eye on it though as unfortunately we both have alcoholism in our family. I used to drink lots too but am very much the default parent so feel like I have changed a lot (probably for the better but we do need quality time together too)

Forgot to say as PP pointed out the second wouldn't have been a full bottle, but I only had one of those tiny champagne glasses full. I'm breastfeeding anyway so it's just an occasional thing for me.

We’ve had a laugh about it now

And that’s why he’ll never change. He needs to grow up and do his job, parent his child.

I'd imagine he hasn't been full of pro-active parenting power today

Well shit, I must be an alcoholic by the sounds of some reactions on here. I only drink on a Friday night but can happily polish 2 bottles of white by the time I go to bed. The only thing I would be miffed about would be him drinking my wine, I'd just tell my DP that he needs to go to the shop to replace it. I think if it's not a common occurance then I wouldn't think too much of it.

2 bottles (even less 125mls) is a huge amount as is 8-10 pints. I suggest you watch the 2015 horizon documentary with tbe Van Tulkan twins to see just how much of a problem it is.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b05wdfhk

You’ve had a laugh about his binge drinking. FFS. He’s father now. Time to stop binge drinking and keeping you awake at all hours with the TV.
Alcoholism in the family skews what you think is normal. This isn’t.

You're not necessarily an alcoholic jmpt29 but it's likely you're damaging your health.

If it was a rare thing to drink so much I wouldn't love it but I wouldn't say anything - I probably pig out on too much chocolate every so often and wouldn't appreciate my DH commenting. I'd probably be a bit worried if it was a common place thing. I'd also assume that he then wouldn't be much help with DC in the night and the next day which would piss me off.

I drink like a fish but 2 bottles is loads isn't it?

Not going to drive all the way to the shops with DS just to buy another bottle of wine so I can have a glass but I don't care that much now.

Why would you be going? He'll be sober by now.

Every other month I used to have a lil blow out and have two bottles of wine, watch a few films until the early hours. I'm not a drunk, a bad partner or any of the things people are suggesting. Sometimes people are allowed to be excessive.