Was it planned...

[Karigan195]

Is it me or is it entirely unreasonable to be quizzing someone if they planned to get pregnant.

14 weeks. Grown adult. Decent job and long term partner and 4 times my bloody mother has now asked if it was planned.

I personally think it’s none of her bloody business. So far I’m ignoring the question but She keeps asking!

@GregoryPeckingDuck

First thing I said to her was we’re all happy and I’m keeping it. That’s all she needs to know as far as I am concerned

Tell her it’s a virgin birth and you are calling the child immaculate conception

Just look the next person right in the eyes and say Why??

@Karigan195 - so you must have known she was being a bit funny from the beginning then? When I told my mom I was pregnant there was a shouting squealing "That's so wonderful, so wonderful"; no need for any clarifications. Is she usually a bit down on your major life events?

Yes she is. Very critical but also does go the extra mile when needed so not entirely a lost cause

Well don't get too jealous of the baby then, grandchildren can do no wrong!

Op - you can flippantly say that you earn twice your partners wage - but this is before baby.
Very few women manage to work full time and progress at the same rate in their careers after children. It’s sad but it’s a fact.
If you think you are better protected not married then obviously you know best. But don’t be cocky - I used to earn more than my husband too. Being married now allows me to work 3 days a week and see my children for the other 4 - with financial security as I didn’t have to worry about losing my full time earning power.

If it was planned why can’t you just tell your mum that? She probably is worried it’s not what you wanted. Or say - no it wasn’t planned but I’m really happy about it.

Actually it’s not my first and I’m at the top of my career so 🤷‍♀️.

Eh op? It’s not your first baby? Why would anyone ask if it wasn’t planned then?

Redskyandrainbows67, not always about if you're married or not. Announced my pregnancy nine months after the wedding, having mentioned a couple of times wanting children, and my MIL still asked if it was planned.

You said 'we are happy and I'm keeping it'. Kind of implies it wasn't planned so leads onto the question tbh

I had lots of people ask me. Or the weirdest one which was "did you plan on twins?"

I hate it when Drs ask. When I was having a miscarriage they kept asking if this baby was planned. Why does it matter? I wanted to ask if they would treat me differently if I said no vs yes??

That was the first thing my old manager asked me when I informed her I was pregnant. I was in my middle 20's, happily married, decent full time job and it was my first pregnancy. I was literally gobsmacked that she actually asked me that

I got pregnant 3 months after getting married, and my DM started asking loads of questions along the lines of "that was quick, were you trying for long".

I really could not answer that! It's just asking how long you've been having unprotected sex!? Why does it matter!!