He laughs at me

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So my husband is driving me mad. Whenever I try and have a serious conversation with him he makes jokes. I've told him this annoys me and of course it annoys me more knowing he does it knowing it annoys me! It makes me very grumpy and I end up snapping at him, so then he storms off in a huff. Surely if you tell someone something really bugs you, they should try not to do it. I find it disrespectful to me. He says I'll just have to put up with it. Am I being unreasonable?

Do you own or rent?

Throw this cunt out. You’re doing everything anyway so you won’t be worse off. As for the bottles I’d be tempted to fill them with boiling water and then comply with his suggestion!

Seriously why are with him??

Why are there so many seemingly intelligent women with absolute horrible losers? what are we teaching young girls, That as long as you have a man, Any man that you put up with shit like this??

As a new mum with a beautiful DD it worries me.

took the tip of her finger off when he insisted on using nail clippers! He laughed after every incident

Fucking hell. Leave NOW!

No words. Just sorry and bad memories. Never again does this happen to me x

It’s not okay for him to laugh at you. The only thing that gives any hope is that he was abusive when you met him but then okay for 16 years. What helped him then? Would he acknowledge his behaviour if you write him a letter?

However, he sounds so horrible I can’t see how you wouldn’t be better off without him.

Greenfingers. Thank you for the post. Please don't worry - we are safe. He died some years ago (cancer caused by booze)). My post was to show that sometimes, when you are in the centre of a dreadful situation you cannot seen the dangers. I am able to look back NOW and see all of the damage that was being done. The finger incident occurred minutes after we had had an evening drive to an hotel in Wales. He must have been drunk after leaving work. I can see that now. At the time I took it for granted that he was safe to drive us. I can see so much from a distance. My blood runs cold when I look back and realise how many times I put my daughter in danger because he drove us. I had never met anyone of that ilk before and didn't know what a functioning alcoholic was. Mumsnet has taught me so much! ! I didn't know rape in marriage existed either. Original OP; please look after yourself and tiny. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

@percheron67 Gosh, you've been through it. Thank you for letting me know you're safe.

Greenfingers. Bless you. Mumsnet ladies have helped with my emotions and sanity before. Because of the insight and kindness shown on here I now know that I am not stupid for not reading the signs and that I am not to blame. My psychiatrist told me that once I was far enough removed from him the hurtful things that happened would pop, one by one, into my mind and I could deal with them and be free. I am.

@Hayden555 bet all your friends come to you for advice...

Make sure that you laugh hysterically in his face when giving him divorce papers. Fucking prick.

Doesn’t sound as though there’s anything worth saving here. Start looking for an exit.

Op. If you care anything for your baby you would leave NOW.
It will come across that you care more for him than you do about your child if you stay.
For the sake of the child if nothing else, leave.

DO NOT let yourself or your child become a statistic.

You hold all of the financial cards.

Get him out. If your boss lets you work from home, that will be a bonus in the short-term while you sort childcare.

Whatever you pay will be worth it - at present your child is at risk from this horrible man - he may not deliberately harm your baby, but will certainly neglect hir.

You are both worth much more than this.

OK, I think it's pretty clear he brings nothing to the relationship and is a shit father and abusive partner.

LTB.