He laughs at me

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So my husband is driving me mad. Whenever I try and have a serious conversation with him he makes jokes. I've told him this annoys me and of course it annoys me more knowing he does it knowing it annoys me! It makes me very grumpy and I end up snapping at him, so then he storms off in a huff. Surely if you tell someone something really bugs you, they should try not to do it. I find it disrespectful to me. He says I'll just have to put up with it. Am I being unreasonable?

What the fuck have I just read? You need to dispose of this arsehole!!!!

He told you to what? Why are you leading with his shit sense of humour when he's an abusive bastard?

Why doesn't he work. Is he the SAHP and doing all the housework and food shopping while you work.

No, I'm lucky enough my employer will let me work from home a lot, so only need to be in office occasionally. But working from home is still supposed to be 9-5, but I end up more 5am-11pm trying to get work done and childcare.

Urgh he's one of those ones who feels threatened and emasculated by his own little newborn. What an abusive cunt (towards the both of you since he's neglectful).

Op please leave, you and your baby deserve so much better. Can you confide in your friends or family?

You are in a strong position in that you are not reliant on him for money. I think many women don’t leave because they are not financially able to but you are. Kick him out, you won’t regret it. Good luck to you.

Oh blimey. Does your employer know that you have no childcare for your baby? It's ridiculous that you are trying to work full time from home and look after a 16 week old baby at the same time.

So what's he doing all day when you are doing the childcare and working.

Computer games and wanking mainly

Oh. Grim.

He needs to sod off back to work then. And then you can afford proper childcare so you can also work properly.

So he’s a total cocklodger.

You can do better OP, your baby deserves better. Think about the example he’s going to set.

Be careful OP - if he claims that you work full time and he is the SAHP he might be able to ask for custody and maintenance. But that won't happen while your child is so young - get him out now.

So you agreed he would stay home and mind the baby but he's now saying that childcare is women's work? So what does he expect, to sit around doing fuck all?

he's screamed in my face, spat in my face, told me my post pregnancy belly was disgusting

No. HE is disgusting.

I feel he is being supremely selfish

Understatement of the century. He's an abusive arsehole.

But she works from home so he can't claim that. Get rid, OP. Get a good childminder and work out a schedule. This man will always drag you down.

What is the point of him?

I would dump him for all the things you put in your update. I would dump someone for spitting in my face alone. Why are you putting up with this? You sound like you have your life in order and could go it alone. Not easy, but surely must be better than this nonsense?

This man's abusive. I realise having a child together complicates things, but you should get out, for your sake and the baby's.

Wow this thread just got worse and worse. Leave!!

Laughing at you is the least of your worries by the sounds of it. Hes a lazy, entitled abuser!! Hes not working to be a SAHP yet is doing nothing for the actual child? So why hasnt he gone back to work?

Jesus, get rid of him!! Put yourself and your child first, youll be so much happier.

He says I'll just have to put up with it

You don't have to put up with it at all. You could stab him!

Or not cook, clean or otherwise-habit until he takes your distress seriously. He is being a total twat!

*otherwise cohabit, not habit

Tell him to go back to work. Pay for childcare. Then LTB.

Fuck sake OP. You need to leave this bastard. Truly he is no good. You are doing everything anyway. Ditch him and things will be much better.

Oh OP. Please, please leave this horrible little man. Don't let your baby grow up thinking this is normal or something you put up with.

Hellsbells - how right you are!! HIs true colours didn't show before our daughter was born. At least OP is on the ball in recognising his odd behaviour. I floundered about. No spitting but nasty remarks and I didn't put two and two together. Even after he had lifted our daughter that she banged her head on the car back door, did the same thing in an old (low ceilinged museum and took the tip of her finger off when he insisted on using nail clippers! He laughed after every incident.