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Au pair and dog poo

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Littleloafofbread · 01/03/2019 07:27

Dog did a poo in front of the front door during the night - very rare accident and she's never had to clean up after him in six months of being here. Au pair left for work early this morning (we don't need her to work during school holidays so she has a different babysitting job) and rather than cleaning it up, she pushed it out of the way with the door, of course getting it on the door and on the bristles under the door, which of course I have had to clean.

AIBU to say something to the au pair about this? In her defence, it isn't her job to look after or clean up after the dog, there was no other way to get out of the house and she was probably in a hurry to get to work. However, she is an adult and my gut reaction is that she should have just cleaned it up because sometimes these things happen, and by not doing it she knew she was making extra work for me.

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Collaborate · 01/03/2019 08:10

My dog sometimes poos in the night. I can assure all previous posters on this thread that a freshly laid dog poo is not something you can miss unless you literally have no sense of smell.

Tinkobell · 01/03/2019 08:13

She probably thinks if she picks up one shit, you'll be expecting her to clear the whole garden and become chief shit picker upper OP. I see her position on this. She's an au pair not a turd juggler.

Collaborate · 01/03/2019 08:18

I would be mortified if I smeared dog shit all over a door because I was just too sodding lazy to be bothered to do something about it.

mydogisthebest · 01/03/2019 08:19

Drogosnextwife, but the owners of the dog were not around to know the dog had done a poo were they? I think it shows her as lazy and ignorant if she saw it there and ignored it

Springisallaround · 01/03/2019 08:20

Have you seen the film Roma? You'll like it.

RosieEffect · 01/03/2019 08:20

Who are these posters that thinks it's ok to smear dog poo because 'it's not your job'??? If I was a guest at someone's house or even at work, and saw a dog poo in front of the door, I wouldn't just open the door and smear it everywhere making a huge mess??!! Wtf?! What kind of person does that? You either clear it up or get the owner to clear it up. That is disgusting behaviour on her part. It was a one off and it's called being a decent person. I'd be fuming OP.

ShatnersWig · 01/03/2019 08:21

Like hell would I be picking up dog shit.

mydogisthebest · 01/03/2019 08:21

Tinkobell, I hardly think if she cleared up the one accidental poo she would be likely to be expected to clean up all the over poos. Why do poster have to exaggerate so much?

No dog poo is not nice but neither are nappies

mydogisthebest · 01/03/2019 08:22

So Shatner, you too would just let it smear over the door and door brushes? Nice.

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 01/03/2019 08:25

Could it be that the dog pooed by the door after she left? Either way it isn’t her job to clean up after your dog. She’s employed to look after your child/ren. Not your dog. In her shoes if I’d seen it I’d have left it.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 01/03/2019 08:26

Lots of people have children and are used to changing their nappies, doesn’t mean they’re happy to wipe another kid’s bum.

TheNightIsForever · 01/03/2019 08:27

To the posters who said she shouldn't have to pick it up.... What would happen if the dog had an accident whilst she was looking after the children.... Would you still think she should leave it as its 'not her dog', make one of the children pick it up? Fml it's a bit of dog shit that she could have quick easily and quickly bagged.

MadameDD · 01/03/2019 08:29

Your dog, you clean up after it!

My first boss, years ago, expected me to clear up after his dog was sick in the office when he sometimes brought it in, I was asked to walk it which I didn't mind. Clearing up it's sick though, no way!

longwayoff · 01/03/2019 08:36

Temping at Solicitors jn W London. First day, lunchtime, partner hands me small dog on lead and a plastic bag. "He needs to be walked on the Green over there". No 'please would you', just entitlement. Took mutt out. Picked up poo. Took both back to office. Handed over dog, put bag of poo on her desk. Told her she could have the morning's work free. Bye. I am a dog lover and dog owner. But I pick up after my dogs only.

ShatnersWig · 01/03/2019 08:37

@mydogisthebest Well, no, because I don't have a dog. But if I owned a dog, I would clear up after my dog. Similarly, it's not the au pair's dog. Why should she clean up after it unless it's in her contract that she's also employed as a cleaner?

Someone said the au pair should have told the owners so they could clean it up. I can see how well that would go down if the owners weren't even up yet (as the OP mentions the au pair left "early").

WendyCope · 01/03/2019 08:37

Is this a joke?

Why should she clean up your shit?

I hope she leaves.

aurynne · 01/03/2019 08:42

If I was staying in another person's house and their dog pooed in the house there is no way I would feel obliged to clean up. At most I would notify the house owner so they can deal with it.

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Littleloafofbread · 01/03/2019 08:42

I hope she leaves.

Even by Mumsnet standards, that is a hilarious overreaction. Can you imagine - yeah I quit my job because the dog did a poo, and the host mum said she was sorry and to let me know next time so she could clean it up. What a MONSTER.

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Readytogogogo · 01/03/2019 08:42

I really don't understand why you would think it's her job to pick up your dog's poo. I agree she could have told you though.

SecondRow · 01/03/2019 08:44

How did you get it off the bristles, OP? That sounds near-impossible

IceRebel · 01/03/2019 08:45

yeah I quit my job because the dog did a poo, and the host mum said she was sorry and to let me know next time so she could clean it up. What a MONSTER.

But that's not what happened, originally you said she should have just cleaned it up because she's an adult and these things happen.

WendyCope · 01/03/2019 08:45

Well you're entitled to think that OP and clearly don't have an Au Pair aged DD

Who is expected to clean up DOG SHIT? It is unbelievable and you should be ashamed.

I DO hope she leaves, she sounds pissed off TBH and with your attitude I am not surprised in the least.

She clearly has another job in the wings (thank God)

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Littleloafofbread · 01/03/2019 08:46

Just to clarify, like I said in my original post, I at no point thought it was her job. If it hadn't been right by the door up wouldn't have minded her leaving it. It's just that she wiped it straight into and on the door - it would have been kind of her to put the intact poo in a bag rather than increasing the workload exponentially for me. I'm sure a lot of adults who live in a community of sorts make kind gestures to help other people, even if it's not their official job.

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MarthasGinYard · 01/03/2019 08:48

'It's just that she wiped it straight into and on the door'

How do You know?

Did you watch?

I'd supervise your dog a bit more if it shits on its own doorstep

Grim

WendyCope · 01/03/2019 08:49

IceRebel Exactly!

The OP said totally different in her OP. No apology, just irritation that a young girl didn't clear up her shit.

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