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Original poster

I've just experienced a teenager who can do no wrong....

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STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 17:51

....according to their mother.

This kid has been doing something repeatedly inside my home and we have repeatedly asked him to stop.
I had to take measures to stop it happening again (moving his belongings) and he's now accusing me via text of damaging his stuff and causing hundreds of pounds worth of damage.

His mother believes he's done nothing wrong.
Stands by his rude texts to me, lied and lied and lied his way out of everything and denied all.
She believes every word.

I am genuinely gob smacked.

I will always have my children's backs, but if they have done something wrong then I'm not going to argue their innocence. I will tell the person that I will deal with it and assure them it won't happen again.

I can't actually believe she is real. That she really believes this kid, and allows him to text such things to another adult.

I assume I'm not the only one who has experienced this?

Anyone want to share? Make me feel better that I'm not the only other adult who feels bloody bullied and accused by a bloody 13 year old.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/02/2019 17:54

What’s he been doing? What did you remove? It’s all a bit cryptic tbh OP, can you elaborate more?

In the meantime Wine

zzzzz · 27/02/2019 17:55

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MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl · 27/02/2019 17:55

Is this a step child?

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STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 17:56

zzzz do you think she knows really that the kid is lying? It's crossed my mind??

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arethereanyleftatall · 27/02/2019 17:57

Yanbu op, there's plenty of them out there.

I shall look forward to the op with the title 'an adult has damaged my kids stuff.'

Original poster
STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 17:58

No!

It's my child's best friend. Worse still my child didn't know his mate was doing this.

Basically he was letting himself into our secure building (we live in a small block of flats) and leaving his bike propped up against my neighbours door.

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blueskiesovertheforest · 27/02/2019 17:59

Why is someone else's teenager in your home if they repeatedly damage things?

Is it your DC's friend? If so a one chance then they're not welcome is the only way. Some people of all ages are arses, not just teens. So far all my 13 year old's friends are pleasant, polite and you'd barely know they're here except if they're cooking or baking, same for 11 year old's friends. Only my 8 year old has a few difficult characters he wants round sometimes who I'd rather not have in the house, but they don't damage things, they're just annoyingly spoilt and demanding. I hope he's lost touch with them by their teens.

lumpinmythroat · 27/02/2019 17:59

Sorry but your OP is so cryptic.

What have they done? What did you say to them? Why are they inside your house to begin with? What have you supposedly damaged?

NoonAim · 27/02/2019 17:59

Oh yes. The hulking great 14 year old boy next door who constantly kicks his heavy leather football over the fence on to my plants is just a 'little boy' according to his deluded mother.

I've asked him repeatedly not to do it but it makes no difference. Deluded mother has threatened me with the police if I don't return the balls immediately too.

"But he's such a nice little boy..."

He's taller than me!

arethereanyleftatall · 27/02/2019 17:59

So you moved his bike away from a door? How did that damage it?

Original poster
STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 18:00

A small thing but he has been repeatedly asked not to.

Again and again. I left notes. The neighbour left notes.

Yesterday I removed it and put it on some grass round the back.

Apparently it's now chipped and scratched, and the helmet is chipped and scratched.

The mother said "he's not accusing you of damaging his stuff, he is just upset by the way it was handled."

He outright accused me of damaging his stuff and it was handled very well considering how many times he had been asked.

I could have left it out the front unattended for anyone to steal.

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blueskiesovertheforest · 27/02/2019 18:01

Ah cross posted.

He's not in your home then.

How's he letting himself into your secure communal areas to lean his bike against your neighbor's door, and what's he doing once he's left his bike?

Original poster
STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 18:02

arethereanyleftatall I'm not sure how he thinks I damaged it.

There's excellent security cameras. I said I would happily speak to the managing agent and get footage to prove I've done nothing but lay it on some grass.

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lumpinmythroat · 27/02/2019 18:02

So it’s a bike?

Ignore them and don’t let him back in your house.

RiverTam · 27/02/2019 18:03

So he’s trespassing, and blocking your neighbours entryway?

CCTV?

Get your neighbour to complain to her?

police?

LovingLola · 27/02/2019 18:03

How is he getting in?

Original poster
STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 18:03

I was trying to not give load of details to avoid being outtig.

Clearly hasn't worked! 🤣

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LovingLola · 27/02/2019 18:04

Is there a code on the door ?

Original poster
STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP · 27/02/2019 18:04

There's a code.

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HedgePlastic · 27/02/2019 18:06

Wow. You are really overreacting.

RiverTam · 27/02/2019 18:07

Can you get the code changed?

LovingLola · 27/02/2019 18:07

I would block him so you don’t get his rude texts for a start.

FrancisCrawford · 27/02/2019 18:12

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Fairenuff · 27/02/2019 18:13

Change the code.

RuggerHug · 27/02/2019 18:15

How did he get the code? Tell the mother that he's intruding and any damage to the bike is probably balancing off damage to the neighbours door. Handing out the code invalidates your home insurance btw so I'd be saying that to your DS aswell