I've just experienced a teenager who can do no wrong....

[STOPSCRATCHINGTHECRADLECAP]

....according to their mother.

This kid has been doing something repeatedly inside my home and we have repeatedly asked him to stop.
I had to take measures to stop it happening again (moving his belongings) and he's now accusing me via text of damaging his stuff and causing hundreds of pounds worth of damage.

His mother believes he's done nothing wrong.
Stands by his rude texts to me, lied and lied and lied his way out of everything and denied all.
She believes every word.

I am genuinely gob smacked.

I will always have my children's backs, but if they have done something wrong then I'm not going to argue their innocence. I will tell the person that I will deal with it and assure them it won't happen again.

I can't actually believe she is real. That she really believes this kid, and allows him to text such things to another adult.

I assume I'm not the only one who has experienced this?

Anyone want to share? Make me feel better that I'm not the only other adult who feels bloody bullied and accused by a bloody 13 year old.

So the mother has said they are upset at how it was handled. This is was you say

"I handled it by asking him repeatedly in person to stop, then by leaving notes on the bike and my neighbour also left notes on the bike. We were polite and courteous but made it clear he had to stop. He ignored all those warnings over X length of time. I finally moved it myself, out the back so it wouldn't be stolen. He had plenty of time and chances to rectify this himself and did not. And now I'm receiving rude and abusive messages so I will politely ask that you and your son desist"

Its wierd and wrong that an unrelated 13 year old is exchanging text with you and has the entry code to your building. Both those things overstep boundaries even if everyone is being polite.

Why does he have your mobile number and the entry code to your building?

What does he do in your building when he's let himself in uninvited?

Tbh, with parents like these you can’t win. All you can do is only allow him in the property if you are there, and discourage the relationship.

I have found that the friendships that bore the test of time were those whose parents shared the same values as your own. Not because you have dictated who can be friends with who, but because your similarities in parenting mean that your children end up sharing the same values.

I've never text him before, I've had it for years and she has my sons number.
They come in very handy when our own child's phone battery has died and they are together at the swimming pool or something.

I had to text him to let him know that I've had to move his stuff and to stop leaving it there.

His reply was the accusation that I've caused hundreds of pounds worth of damage to his bike and helmet.

Well, not years.

A couple of years.

Does he live in the same complex as you? Why is he leaving the bike there? What's the purpose? Is it while he's out with your son? Also what country are you in? If England there are some places in England that you wouldn't want to leave a bike outside....if he's leaving his bike there while out with your son and the alternative is him not seeing your son....which is better?

He's an idiot. His mum is probably taking the easy option. Forget it and move on.

Did you ever tell him to stop doing it?

Why on earth does he have the code?

Do what @TheInvestigator said. Perfect response.

I told him. My neighbour told him. I left a note, my neighbour left a note.

He told his mum that he had permission to leave it there (and go to school). He denied being told. Denied the notes. And denied it was his writing on them when he wrote a reply

I am moving on, I just posted to see if anyone else had been in this position.

My ds had a mate round for a sleepover over half term. They are 12. The next day dp noticed they'd spray painted graffiti with a spray can all over our patio and benches that surround the pond. DP had only built all that area last year. We knew it was the guest because he'd written his name! My dd admitted she did a bit too 😕. My ds claims he didn't do it but was trying to stop them. I can't believe the guest did that, he's normally very polite! I haven't said anything to his mum or him yet... maybe I should. They really can be little shits sometimes.