What's the smallest amount you'd make someone pay you back?

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Interested to hear opinions on this as there have been several examples over the past few weeks, and normally to do with Uber but other things too...

Three of us split an Uber. Other two in a couple. I asked friend to let me know how much I owed her. Next day she messaged to say could I transfer £3.50

Friend called me an Uber from her house. Gave me £5 toward it (we'd had to change plans as her babysitter cancelled so I traveled across town to see her) then messaged to say it was £7.50

Met friend for dinner. She got there first and ordered and paid for bottle of wine. I tried to give her half (roughly £10) but she refused, so I said I'd pay next time

Which of those situations, if you were the other party, would you expect the money back? All? None? What's the minimum you'd expect a friend to pay back? Or would you ask/expect all outlay on your behalf to be repaid?

(For context, I'm not a freeloader! These are just recent examples. The first Uber was because they had the postcode of the restaurant and the second because my phone had died)

if you are skint what the hell are you doing going out?

Broke people dont go out you cant be that skint

@Bellasorellaa - is that aimed at me?

£1. Surely if owe money you pay it back no matter what the amount? Best not to lend in the first however. Keeps things simpler if you avoid it.,

Depends on the person tbh.

If it was my sister or close non cheeky friend I wouldn't ask for it back if less than £10, as there is always balancing out of who pays what over time.

I have a really CF friend who has form for being cheap and tries to get out of paying for anything. I always ask her for any amount back on principle no matter how small.

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I think everyone should always pay what they owe. Whatever the amount. This would then completely eliminate the issues and awkwardness around asking for payment, not knowing what to do when someone says "don't worry about it", feeling like you have to offer, having to repeatedly ask people for money owed etc etc. Work out how much you owe and pay. Simple.

That whole bloody "I'll pay, no I'll pay" conversation really does my head in. I can't be doing with it at all. I'd rather I just paid for my but and you pay for yours and we can avoid the annoying and awkward conversation about who will pay.

i can't ask for money back and genuinely don't want it back most times. i am always aghast at one friend of mine who is loaded who asks for petrol money. LOL.

BTW this thread is hilarious

I think everyone should always pay what they owe. Whatever the amount.

So I can’t treat anyone, and vice versa... Everything has to be boiled down to a financial transaction. Should I ask my friends who came round on Sunday to pay their share of the food I cooked? Should I in turn pay my share of the drink they brought?

Depends how close/generous the other person is to me in general.

Not too close friend anything over £5 I'd chase up.

A close friend £20 or less I'd write off but hope more they'd give me back. Chances are if they offered the day £5 back I'd say don't worry about it.

We have a phrase amongst our good friends: 'Ah, I owe you a tenner, anyway'. None of us has ever owed any of the others of us a tenner. It moves around, and is very comfortable.

I agree with others it depends on whether the person has form. I would never ask for £3.50, but if it's £3.50 every week then I might. In fact it would cease to be about the £3.50 and more about the other person being either entitled or tight.

I am still furious about the behaviour of the pil. Always happy to accept any hospitality/days out/meals/gifts, but if they paid for anything always made sure they were paid back in (more than) full. Dh is still smarting from a birthday where he asked (in response to a request) that he'd like a certain CD. Fil asked for £1.99 because the budget for dh's b'day present was £10.

Thing with Uber’s is it’s always the same bloody people that sit there and wait for someone else to order it.

It’s dead easy to split the fare in the app tho - now I make people split in the taxi if they are the types to never take their share.

irma they asked for money towards the gift they bought???? OMG!

If someone asks me to lend them money, even if it's just a couple of pounds, of course I'd expect them to have the courtesy to pay me back!

Depends who it is, I’ve got friends who I would happily spend 20 quid etc on and not ask for it back as I know the favour would be retuned. And then I’ve a friend who let me buy her a drink on my birthday, didn’t offer to get me a drink and accepted a free meal even tho it want bday lol she’s lovey she just doesn’t spend money on ppl and that’s fine but it means when I picked her up a 14 pound clothing rail at IKEA I made sure she paid me back! Instead of some ppl I would of said don’t worry but me a drink next time you see me.

If someone asked me how much they owed me then I'd tell them the exact amount even if it were a quid... unless it was something I'd intended to give them, like I'd bought them a coffee unsolicited, etc then I'd say dont worry about it.
But if it were a situation where they had said 'I've not got my purse buy me a coffee and ill pay you back' and they asked me how much they owed me I'd tell them exactly. I'd not chase up anything under a tenner with much force though to be honest.

I think it does depend on whether you were put on the spot or not... I'd resent being asked to lend a few quid if I'd not expected it and was skint.. and so I would expect the money returned.

If I'd just got paid and wed all gone for cake or something and I'd bought someone something I'd not expect anything under a tenner to be returned to me.

And if I was pretty wealthy I'd obviously be more lax about it. But as it stands I cant afford to lend tenners everywhere.
Back in the day when i worked full time i used to lend close friends the odd 20 and never think of it again but those days are gone sadly!