To consider going to a festival while 23.5 weeks with twins?

[MamaDane]

Hello everyone.

I hope there are some twin mummies here who can help me out. You see, a band I love is coming to Denmark in June and I desperately want to go to the concert.

Problem is I'll be 23.5 weeks pregnant (with twins) and I have an anxiety disorder and generally uncomfortable with crowds.

I'm not sure how mobile I'll be at this time? Do any twin mums here remember how badly they were affected by the pregnancy at this time?

My DP doesn't think it's a good idea for reasons above and I can see her point, but again, I really want to see this band live and figured it will only be a few hours anyway as we are not going to stay for all 3 days.

AIBU?

Depends on the event itself - the type of music/people attending. A big festival with lots of mainstream names tends to get complete arseholes at every turn and toilets that would give you nightmares, but a smaller, family oriented one or some of the more niche artists means you could easily have a lightweight chair, blanket and sit towards the back.

However - depending upon the site itself, you might need to find out whether there is an official transport/bus/tuk tuk offered, etc. It's all very well managing to walk over to the arena and find somewhere to sit, but if you then have to make your way back over uneven ground with insufficient lighting afterwards, it's not quite so much fun. And how far it is from the tents/entrance to the arena/stage.

It might be a plan to have some continence underwear on, too, as the queue for the loos could be long, some can get so foul, you can't use them/might be sick and also be aware of the first aid/help points wherever you go.

It's definitely the best stage of pregnancy to do it, though, and I hope you do get to see your band.

Ok so if we do decide to go a checklist:
Plan transportation
Plan hotel stay
Locate hospital from hotel and concert
Locate first aid
Locate toilets, particularly disabled toilets
Find out how far there is from entrance to the stage
Find seating area
Stay at the back of the crowd
Use Continence underwear
Stay away from meat
Bring picnic blanket

Bring water, sunblock, a hat, sunglasses, shoes you can loosen if your feet swell (and can afford to throw away if they get covered in mud), plus something waterproof.

And, if you have any, your pregnancy notes.

OP pregnancies are all different and you can't really say hands down that a twin pregnancy and singleton pg are categorically different.

With mine, I was still running twice a week till aboit 26 or 7 weeks. Between 28-9 weeks I went to a large professional conference for 3 days including 4 hour drive each way, presenting in front of large audience etc. My twins came a few weeks later at 35w and I went to the gym (for a gentle session!) the day I went in for induction.

That said, with my conference.... it took place in a major UK university city with a well known teaching hospital. DH came too in case I went into labour. It was fine but tiring. A conference is also a more "civilised" atmosphere than a music fest. Although it was a big national conference I knew lots of people there, who were aware I was pg and would make sure I had water, offer to carry my bag or walk me back to thw hotel.

At a festival I would be worried about some arsehole barging into me, drunk, or feeling poorly and not being able to get medical attention. Twin pgs aren't necessarily harder than having one, but they are statistically more risky and I felt more paranoid and protective as a result. You may by that stage honestly just not feel like it.

I’ll be 23 weeks at Glastonbury... fortunately BIL lives in Wells so DH is going to travel down with me and stay there so he’s nearby just in case (wild horses wouldn’t drag him to the festival itself!)

Go, fake a twin pregnancy “funny turn”, get taken to meet the band! See rest of gig from side of stage. Win win!

We bought tickets for a reasonably big local festival a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant. I’ll be 32 weeks by the festival weekend so am having to think very seriously about whether I can go! It’s close enough to home to be able to possibly come and go a bit, but neither of us drive and it’s in the middle of nowhere. Also worried about having to use the loo all the time and getting shoved about when I’ll be quite big.
Have a great time if you do go OP but make sure you’re definitely feeling well enough as festivals can be pretty hard work at the best of times (totally worth it for the music though!)

I'm also afraid that I'll be OK at the beginning of my 2nd trimester but as I get closer to the concert I get more troubled with the twin pregnancy. I'm definitely not sure how possible it is to resell the tickets. I know refunds are not possible at all.

I think I'll drag it for as long as I can and if the tickets run out, perhaps it wasn't meant to be.

But thank you all for your replies. I'll add the stuff you've mentioned to my checklist as well.

Your experiences and advice have all helped