To consider going to a festival while 23.5 weeks with twins?

[MamaDane]

Hello everyone.

I hope there are some twin mummies here who can help me out. You see, a band I love is coming to Denmark in June and I desperately want to go to the concert.

Problem is I'll be 23.5 weeks pregnant (with twins) and I have an anxiety disorder and generally uncomfortable with crowds.

I'm not sure how mobile I'll be at this time? Do any twin mums here remember how badly they were affected by the pregnancy at this time?

My DP doesn't think it's a good idea for reasons above and I can see her point, but again, I really want to see this band live and figured it will only be a few hours anyway as we are not going to stay for all 3 days.

AIBU?

Is it Roskilde?

I did it. Not twins but a 10lb+ singleton though. I found it ok, I just did a lot of sitting and didn’t try to get too close to the front.

It's NorthSide and I have a feeling they will play at night as they are quite a big name. The band is Tame Impala.

Unfortunately Roskilde festival doesn't have many good bands this year, and they are much closer to where we live.

I should think it would be okay for a day, depending on how well you're coping with the pregnancy, but I have only ever carried singletons. I'd be more wary of the 6 hour travel and any plans you have for sleeping. I wouldn't want to camp at 23 weeks with twins!

6 hours from home

That changes it for me. I wouldn’t have done it if it had been that far in case of labour. My festival was only an hour from home so maybe that gave me a bit of comfort.

Oh nice! I can see why you'd want to go OP. NorthSide looks great this year!

^ I say labour only because I was about 32 weeks when I went.

We will use public transportation, trains in particular, and I assume we'd pay for seats in advance, so we are assured a seat.

Danish trains are very comfortable (and have toilets) unless they are too full.

I think the main difference for me between a singleton and twins is the sheer weight of twins. It’s exhausting and can be really uncomfortable and hard to get comfy. I could have easily done it with my single pregnancy, think I’d have struggled with my twin pregnancy.

@Damn it does! I wish I could go all 3 days as they all have bands I like, but I know that would definitely not be realistic.

I don't have twins but assuming it's like been 30 odd weeks pregnant with a singleton

Twin pregnancy is not like being further along in a single pregnancy, or having a large Singleton.

Depending on the type of twins, you may have two placentas and two sacks of fluid, which add weight.

You have two babies taking all the nutrients they need and increased blood volume from two babies rather than one, which can all lead to problems.

You have twice as much relaxin so SPD often happens earlier and more severely. Mine started about 18 weeks and by 21 weeks my pelvis was completely unstable, no way I could have stood for any length of time.

Around that stage I went to Monkey World with my niece and the walking nearly killed me - I couldn’t move for days afterwards. We did a six hour drive to visit friends for the weekend when I was about 26 weeks and the pain during and after the journeys was horrendous, then the walking around the city where they lived... it was a massive error!

Two of my favourite comedians (American) were doing a concert in London when I was 32 weeks pregnant - I was absolutely heartbroken to miss it, I would have been there in a heartbeat, but by then I was having to shift around constantly due to the pain and pee every 20 minutes.

If it involves camping, definitely not. If there’s not extensive walking and you can take a seat then maybe, but honestly I just wouldn’t.

Yea, what sinkgirl said 😃

Ah I see. I definitely won't buy the tickets for now at least then. You have all given me a lot to consider, especially the twin mummies replying seeing how you've dealt with twin pregnancies.

Obviously my ideal answer would be "go for it, being pregnant with twins is a breeze" but of course reality is different. So thank you all.

The twins are fraternal BTW and we tend to have big babies in my family, so I imagine I'll be a house.

I only know one twin Mum who made it past 38 weeks (39+7) and she had two 8lb babies, which is what mine weighed combined, but she had MCDA twins so only one placenta so she saved a couple of pounds there!

Just FYI, if you are having DCDA (di/di) twins there’s a 25% chance that they’ll be identical if they’re the same sex. Some identical twins split early, which is why they end up with two placentas / sacs :)

I hope your pregnancy is straightforward and comfortable - would you be able to sell the tickets if you bought them and then didn’t feel up to it?

I think they will induce at at least 38 if not 37 weeks with twins here. But wow 8 pounds per twin 😳 that's.. Big

I'm pretty sure they are fraternal though, as we went through fertility and I was inseminated on 3 follicles. but obviously the chance is there.

Thank you! I don't know if I will honestly. I don't know anyone in that city or anyone willing to travel for the festival. The price per person is also 1000 kroner (more than £100) So we definitely have to think this through.

Honestly that sounds like a miserable adventure to me, I would reckon feet up, stretched out in bed with Netflix, own bathroom and a bucket of ice cream is going to be much more appealing at that stage.

Yes, they do here too but she chose not to be induced (brave woman - I only made it to 35+1 when I needed an emcs, and I was more than ready by then!).

Yes, probably dizygotic then but you never know - stranger things have happened!

I went to two festivals and about 7 gigs whilst pregnant. Not twins tho. My tips are. Folding chairs. Plenty of water. Use the disabled toilets (dont flame me i am genuinely disabled) but other pregnant mums used them too after inquiring politely. Rest when u can. Dont go into the mosh pit or into the big crowd. Eat only vegetarian/vegan foods to stave off food poisoning. If someone is smoking next to you go for a walk dont be that precious person. Blow up bed and plenty of blankets. Bucket in the tent for late night wee's only. Enjoy it. Life is too short to stop enjoying these things. Mine loved the basey music and reggae.

I don’t think OP is considering camping - I’d certainly discourage that! As I said above twin pregnancy is very different to Singleton pregnancy due to hormone levels, blood volume etc - I couldn’t even sleep in a decent bed, camping would have been agony!

Yes we definitely wouldn't be camping there. It would just be for the one concert really. Then a hotel stay.

There’s no way I would do that at such a late gestation. I went into labour with my twins at 27 weeks which is not unusual, and there were many twins born earlier than that in NICU. We were pretty close to a hospital and we still lost one baby. A concert is so not worth the risk.

By 23 weeks I’d been diagnosed with TTTS and was nauseated all the time. I also had mild SPD and regularly fainted.

So no I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t if I had anxiety round crowds though, regardless of pregnancy.

I went to Roskilde over twenty years ago. It was amazing!

Take a camping chair and you'll be fine. I went to the Ashes at 38+1 with mine. As long as I could sit down when I needed to I was okay.

Oh and went to several 'standing only' gigs between 25 and 30 weeks and was fine too. But every pregnancy is different.