To wonder how feasible it would be to move to America?

[LellowYedbetter]

I’ve been many times now. I’ve seen New York, Los Angeles, Orlando, San Francisco, Las Vegas, Yosemite, Death Valley, FlagStaff, Mexican Hat, Panquitch, Sedona and Kingman and have driven to many other places in between. I’m absolutely obsessed with the country. I love it. I love the wide open spaces, the pace of life, the scenery, the culture, the weather, the animals ... I don’t think anywhere else in the world compares (and I’ve travelled a lot). I spend each waking minute thinking about it. When I’m driving I Day dream about the American roads, the long desert routes, the wide town roads ... when I’m walking the dog I daydream about the forests, national parks, waterfalls ... when I see kids playing in parks I have flash backs to watching kids jumping off cliffs into lakes in Sedona ...

I have asked Americans when I’ve been over there what my chances would be and in California I’m told I’d have no problem getting in. In Arizona/Utah I was told not to even try 😁

How feasible is it, really? AIBU to be so fascinated with a country that isn’t my own?

Here’s why we don’t move to the US even though we can, immediately:
Guns. I don’t want my children doing active shooter drills in elementary school. I don’t want to live where people are armed.
Healthcare- if you have good coverage via work that great, until you actually have to use it for something serious, and you find out what your deductibles are and that you’re kids aren’t covered when they get the same thing repeatedly.
Inequality/racism - you don’t get it until you live there, we would be a relatively privileged family there and I don’t want my children growing up like that at the expense of others as I see my nieces and nephews growing up. They have no concept of how entitled and privileged they are.
Work/life balance - doesn’t exist. My US work colleagues have half my holiday allowance, which they don’t use up. They check emails, takes calls on holiday. Maternity which is considered good at our company for the US is laughable.
We’ve had laynoffs - UK staff are getting decent pay outs, tons of notice etc. USA staff are out in there it arses the SAME day with a months pay and a monthly health coverage.
People get stuck in jobs for the healthcare = no job, no coverage for you and your family.
God. God is everywhere, outside of a few major cities on the east and west coast people stick their religion down your throat. We have a manager who starts every meeting with a prayer...
it’s an amazing place to visit and i’m There every other month but no way would I want to raise kids there.

The USA has a huge lack of empathy problem at the mo I think. My US DP gets homesick but still doesn’t want to move back there any time soon

I lived in Toronto for a year and made it my mission to get over there. Unfortunately, I need about £12,000 in the bank (although I dont think thats the case if I secured employment). Although I am qualified to PhD level my field is very difficult to get into here never mind in Canada - I can't see them hiring from abroad unless said person is the best of the best and I dont have publications under my belt. If money wasn't a problem I'd go over there and job hunt directly though and do it that way.

I do like the US for a holiday but I'm not sure if I'd live there for the reasons a lot of others have given. And my profession there's no work live balance here so imagine its even worse in the US.