To ask what I can't eat when breastfeeding?

[CustardCreamLover]

My husband has decided he has a medical degree and is now trying to dictate what I can and can't eat while breastfeeding. According to him I definitely can't eat chocolate and all vegetables have to be cooked to a mush. I think this is all crap especially reading advice from NHS and such like.
And to be honest reading the internet I shouldn't eat anything apart from air 🙄

So maybe if there are some medical professionals out there who can tell me what I can't eat I can take it to him (although multiple midwives in the hospital told us that there isn't anything off limits just in moderation and apparently he still knows better because it's what his mother and sister have done). Because otherwise I think I'm going to divorce him.

@appointmentsaretheworst

Are you in the US? I think that's standard practice there based on American TV I have watched.

I was allowed to gorge myself on whatever in labour. Didn't though, because once I got to the active stage I didn't want anything. Famished after though.

OP, you must have the patience of a saint. I've worked with a ten year old who believed in lizard people-we managed to prove to him that there was no such thing. I couldn't respect an adult who believed in such nonsense. I would think that if he googles the vaccinations and finds the anti-vax rhetoric and scary aluminium stories he'll become an anti-vaxxer, so brace yourself. He sounds very gullible.

How can you be well educated in science and stand this bullshit? Don't eat chocolate on the sly - that's just pandering to nonsense.

I had a six week premmie. Someone sent me a chocolate brownie hamper. I inhaled it. And was expressing gold top - just what my baby needed to fatten her up!

Just a warning - I made the mistake of eating a couple of onion bhajis once while bf. Four hours of infuriated screaming later I realised my epic mistake. I genuinely thought DS had colic and was frantically sending DP out for infacol, or as I put it "anything that will make him bloody stop!"

Never restricted anything else though - apart from cutting down a bit on caffeine. Your DH sounds deeply misguided. Why on earth would cooking veg to a mush help?

Also, in case you need more justification: by restricting what you eat while bf you are also restricting your child's ability to develop his palate. Why wouldn't you want to give them a taste of the good stuff in this crucial period!?

I can stand it BECAUSE I know it's bullshit.

@mummyto2munchkins

Your sister sounds incredible!

Scones and cream tea... god, that would have been amazing post birth 🤩🤩🤩😂

Oh bless, sounds like you have the patience of a saint. I'm surprised the uni won't let you defer for a while. Are you in the UK? Surely they need to make allowances.

My DS had a tongue tie and it was cut at 5 weeks but it took another 4 weeks to get him off the 2 or 3 bottles a day and back fully breastfeeding. It helped to keep him using a stage 1 test so he really had to work for the milk.
Perhaps you could consult with an IBCLC? Get any tie and lactation issues sorted.
Best of luck.