Am I being AIBU and should I just suck it up?

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Holding a birthday party for 10 x 8 year-olds in my actual house. It'll be full-on, I have a small house, but I can just about manage I reckon. One child's mother also wants me to take her younger child to the party as well, as she has other things she wants to do on that day and no childcare sorted for this little one.

The youngest is in nursery and is very cute but prone to tantrums. I'll be on my own with the kids and I'm just not sure I can manage the little one as well - AIBU to say no? It means the older sibling might not be able to come, apparently, and my kid will be upset, as it's their best friend... am I just being mean, or will it be a mistake? I'm just worried I won't be able to cope if the little one kicks off, or if the biggies kick off.... am I being UR or should I just suck it up? I'm knackered and stressed at the moment, have a lot on with work and domestic stuff, so not sure if that's clouding my judgment.

YADNBU!! She is being a cheeky fucker of the highest order. You are not her free childcare just because you’re hosting a party

YANBU, you are hosting a birthday party, you're not free childcare so she can 'do other things'. What at CF!

Yanbu at all. Tell her to jog on. How rude

you don't take him and arrange a special outing for the two best friends.

If you're on your own, I'd say no to minding a toddler as well. And probably even if you weren't, I'd still say no.

What would she have done with older sibling if the party wasn't on? Just say no.

Dont even consider it. You've got a house full of 8 year olds to deal with & entertain. You dont have the time to babysit a child of that age.

What happens if they have a tantrum during the party? Where does your attention go. Tell her absolutely not

Wld have been ok if the sibling was like say 6 but a toddler 😳 em no that a whole other ball game. Ur already in charge of 8 kids u can't throw a toddler into the mix just to suit her!

She's very very cheeky!

I don't get it. She has things she wants to do that day that involve zero kids. If you say no to the 3 year old I guess she can't do what she had planned. Why then, if she has to do something else as she will have a 3 year old, does that mean the 8 year old can't go to the party?? She either does something with no kids or she has to have both her kids with her? Makes no sense. She's bluffing and just trying to get free childcare for a day so she can go to a spa, cheeky cow. 10 eight year olds and a 3 year old is a recipe for disaster. The 3 year old will annoy the 8 year olds and you'll have to deal with the fall-out.

OMG! I can’t believe she is even asking this of you. Just say no.

Nope, nope, nope. It's a birthday party, not a creche. What is she going to be able to do i for 2 hours anyway?!

Absolutely no one is going to say that you should take the kid.

She's a total CF!!!

No way on this earth. Just tell her you'll be far too busy to look after her child. And don't let her say that her little one will play with the others - they really won't want that.

CF territory.

I'd have told her to jog on. Cheeky bitch. Completely unreasonable of her. How does anyone even think of these things?

OK, thanks everyone. I'm up to my lower lip in deadlines and mad work-related stuff at the moment, so couldn't tell if I was being UR or not. I'm not sure what she was planning to do before I invited the older one to the party... normally I'd say yes but I have a very tightly planned schedule in order to keep them all entertained for 2 hours, so if I have to manage a little one as well it might quickly go wrong!! Thank you!!

Omg no - she wants you to host your dds birthday party and guests etc AND babysit a toddler.
She is bsooo u.
Your response needs to be
“what a shame friend can’t come but it’s just impossible for me to host dds party and look after sibling”

What on earth?!!!! Absolutely not!!!!!! No way.

CFery of the very highest order!!

And you know what? Two hours won't be long enough for her to do anything and she'll turn up late.

There is a parent at our school nicknamed 2 for 1 as she always asks parents having a child’s party is the other child can go too, not pleasant for the children as they are old enough now to know they are being offloaded so mummy can do something and they don’t exactly get on the best... guess who drops off first and collects last, when people cave. Don’t cave

The words you are looking for is JOG ON.

Be sweet about calling her bluff. "Thats a shame X cant come. Lets get together for a play date some other time." She will be backtracking in no time when she ralises shes losing out on getting rid of 1 out of 2 children for a few hours.

Jesus YANBU at all! What could she possibly need to do that's that important to leave her toddler with a house full of rowdy 8 year olds and one adult? I'm sure you will do amazing with the party but let's be honest having a toddler can be a full time job! How on earth does she expect you to host and keep her child safe and alive! How ridiculous (fully aware I'm exaggerating)

Tell your daughter she can do a special tea or something special with her BF on a different day if the mother says she can't come unless you look after the toddler.

Massive CF. The cheek of someone people beggars belief. Definitely say no.

Hell no !
Toddler-wrangling, especially during a party, would require your full attention
and 10 x 8-year-olds most certainly do as well
and it would probably ruin the dynamics for the others

If the other mother has things to do, she'd still find it easier with only 1 child to manage - she's a CF trying it on