Porn

[Keba123]

So I asked my DH if he watches porn this morning
I dunno why just curious I suppose
Plus I've seen it on his phone years ago just wondering if he still does watch it
He said not really
I said well yes or no
He sed well not often
I said ok.
End of convo
I dont really give a shit tbh
But I have this feeling in my mind
Should I care?
He's wanking over skinny hot girls
And I had a baby 4 weeks ago
Like I feel like I should be botherd but I'm just not .....

nearly everyone does not watch porn.

You’re saying you aren’t bothered, but if there is a niggle , what wouldn’t be?
Him looking at other women?
Him looking at other women who potentially are being exploited?
Him getting off on an industry which exploits many, many women?
You feeling not sexy just now?
Something else?

It might be helpful to try and establish which bit it causing you enough bothersome-ness to post.

Suppose I will ride this one out as I feel like I'm not botherd but like u all say
Why would I post about it ? Subconsciously I am ?

If you had the choice to choose if he would use porn or not. You would probably choose not.

Whereas total indifferences is you would not have a preference.

Porn, aside from the obvious ethical problems, is actually quite boring. And IME, that influences the people who watch it. Men who are heavily into it are inevitably dull in bed.
So no, not everyone bothers with it. Maybe if you stopped and used your imagination a bit more, you might benefit?

It dosnet effect our relationship
Think I will just forget about it!

Nothing to see here. Move on, people.

Porn sites receive more regular traffic than Netflix, Amazon, & Twitter combined . The majority of men watch porn. There was a study not too long ago looking into why some men don't watch porn. They couldn't find a single man who didn't!

If your partner says he doesn't watch it then I am sorry but he is lying.

If your partner says he doesn't watch it then I am sorry but he is lying.

Only 32 posts and we're here already! And the 'couldn't find a man who doesn't watch it' survey nonsense!

Porn sites receive more regular traffic than Netflix, Amazon, & Twitter combined . The majority of men watch porn. There was a study not too long ago looking into why some men don't watch porn. They couldn't find a single man who didn't!

I am sure this study was for men who had never seen it which it completely different to currently use it.
Unless you have the link proving otherwise?

Most adults watch porn, including over 70% of adult women. There is no shame in it, unless you associate sex with shame.

Porn varies in quality and content, like all film media. So as to whether or not someone watches porn is really a non issue. There is some nasty stuff out there of course, but I very much doubt most people are watching that.

Doesn't bother me
I watch it
My boyfriend watches it
We don't watch it together it's for personal pleasure

I don’t blame you for getting pissed off at the man who is supposed to love and cherish you getting turned on and climaxing through watching (let’s assume other woman) having sex. My now dh watched a lot of porn in the early years of our relationship to the point where it would take him ages to finish when we were having sex. It was a dealbreaker for me and I gave him an ultimatum me or porn. I’m not 100% sure whether he still watches it but assuming he does, it’s not affecting our sex life.

There is no shame in it, unless you associate sex with shame

Or y’know, you find porn to be part of a whole industry that exploits women.
Or if the bazillion titles that start “forced..” or “rape” or “teen” are problematic for you.

Looking at OPs other posts after @SexNotJenga comment I am confused

OP, is the baby 4 weeks or 6 weeks. Is the other child your child or your stepchild and is he your husband or fiancé?

“Or y’know, you find porn to be part of a whole industry that exploits women.
Or if the bazillion titles that start “forced..” or “rape” or “teen” are problematic for you”

Of course those things are exceptionally problematic. Like I said, it depends entirely on the content. The notion itself of adult men and women watching porn itself is not bad and not shameful. It really depends on the specifics.

It really depends on the specifics

Sure, if you’re happy to get your jollies watching a woman who is being exploited. Who may have been trafficked.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Unless it was an actual issue that effected your sex life.. or if he was watching something upsetting or using live cam/phone girls... then I'd have more of a problem with it.

I do believe that men are just more visually aroused than women and so do often look at images to masturbate...
I dont believe that porn is inherently wrong... I know there are issues with it regarding women being exploited etc...
Tbh my husband is not that keen on it... said he had a few photos of a model in lingerie on his phone when he was single... I believe him because I know him lol!
Itd not bother me if he still had those pics somewhere tho...

Some random woman hes never met nor touched is no match for you the mother of his child and woman he loves.. doesn't matter how thin she is lol!!

“Sure, if you’re happy to get your jollies watching a woman who is being exploited. Who may have been trafficked.”

Well, i’m certainly not, and I’d wager neither are the vast majority of men and women. Most people are perfectly capable of using judgement and being discerning.

Most people are perfectly capable of using judgement and being discerning

Except there is no way of telling.

If you don't really give a shit, why would you force yourself to get upset about it?? Forget it and move on

Not all women are exploited. Quite some number have degrees ranging from arts to psychology, and use their popularity to do good things (former pornstar Mia Khalifa as an example). Some are members of mensa.

Some are exploited and it should be regulated better, but "Sure, if you’re happy to get your jollies watching a woman who is being exploited" blanket statement is not correct. Also forgetting about the fact that some man can be exploited too.

Porn is not the same as sex, Hercules. It’s possible to have one without the other. Open your mind to this possibility. Your life may be better as a result.

Some are exploited and it should be regulated better

This is unacceptable to me. If you don’t give enough of a shit about women to ensure you aren’t part of an industry where some are horribly exploited then that says quite a lot to me.

Plus - having a degree doesn’t mean you aren’t being exploited!

It's never bothered me. However, if it bothers you then you need to have a discussion.

I think I would feel a little bit let down if my OH told me he watches porn 4 weeks after giving birth, I mean you don't feel at your most attractive in the first baby weeks as it is and ohh the hormones!!....
My little one is 9 weeks old tomorrow, and I feel like a frumpy pj wearing emotional rollercoaster... and to be quite frank I look like shit 99.9% of the time

But to be fair I don't ask questions Id rather not know the answer too... if he's wanking in the toilet leave him too it!
At least he's not bothering me for it... I'd rather have a Jaffa cake and a strong coffee 😂
OP maybe try doing something that will give you a confidence boost... even if it's a trip to get your hair cut, or nails done I think it would go a long way
( I just about manage to shave past the knee these days) 😜

@SmileEachDay exploitation and trafficking is sadly present in many industries, but they are not as visible. You have more people trafficked into UK for other industries than sex industry. By this I am not saying sexual explotation is not a problem. It certainly is, but if you ever used hand car wash with foreign lads in it, you were part of exploitation and most likely human trafficking as much as people were when they watched porn. Same goes for agriculture.