What do adults without children do on weekends

[Curiousmum69]

I seem to have forgotten.

Other than shopping. Everything feels child orientated. Or I've just forgotten how to be an adult over the last 18 years.

Long lie-ins
Shopping
Walks
Long lunches in cafes with the weekend newspapers
Crafty hobbies
Cinema
Going to late night gigs, getting home at 3am, followed by another lie-in and late lunch
Spur-of-the-moment weekends away!

I do miss it, but I had my first DC at 35, so I feel I got in a good few years of leisurely weekends. I'm now saving up all this behaviour for when I'm old :)

Yes I'd forgotten reading books! I always used to read in bed or in the bath - late at night, and I could just go on and on reading if I felt like it, because I wasn't going to get woken up at 6am. I still try to read but I have to stop myself in order to get enough sleep.

They sleep. God damn lucky, rested bastards.

I’d love to be able to go on a big hike without anybody moaning that they are tired or bored or hungry! Take your dog on a new hike each weekend pleasure for you both!

I'm not reading the rest of this thread it's making me jealous 😂

Is it only me that spends each weekend cleaning, gardening, ironing then? How do you all find time to do all these fun things? Or do you have household staff?

No household staff but yes I have a cleaner and a gardener. Both only for a few hours a week. Haven’t ironed anything for nearly 10 years!

Today we had a lie in, went to the garden centre, had lunch and are now doing some gardening before the rugby match. We sometimes go to museums or galleries, hobbies, go away for the weekend somewhere. Go to the cinema. I work part time though so all housework gets done during the week while DH is at work.

staff
Just the 2 of us...we make little mess. I am retired so keep on top of everything. Dh does most of the cleaning

Got up just after 7.30, had breakfast and a coffee, caught up with the news. Drive to a town about 30 miles away, went to a cafe had a tea. Did some food shopping, then visited a garden centre. Went to another garden centre for some lunch. Drove back home. Did some gardening.

Today I had a lie in with the cat until 9am, cooked myself a nice breakfast and had a cup of coffee whilst reading the news, then met friends for a 3h mountain bike in the glorious sunshine.

I’m chilling out for a bit now, then I’m meeting other friends with DP for dinner.

Tomorrow I’m seeing family.

Last weekend I did a gym class then had lunch with a friend and spent the afternoon with DP walking. Sunday I did an art class and watched a movie with DP.

Pretty standard stuff.

Is it only me that spends each weekend cleaning, gardening, ironing then?

Yeah I consider that a waste of a weekend.

There’s only me, DP and a cat! The house doesn’t get that dirty and we tidy as we go.

The cleaner cleans. I don’t wear clothes that need ironing.

I only have a v small garden but obviously do have to garden in the summer.

It's STILL a novelty even thought my lot left home yonks ago.

Apart from everything that everyone has said... the novelty for me is...

--being able to binge watch a whole Netflix series in one day . (In my defence, I was a bit poorly and had no energy but it wasn't the first time. Dirty John 8 episodes 1 day. )

--if a good film starts at say 11pm, being able to say 'sod it I'm watching it because I don't have to get up in the morning' is luxury (having said that, I'm incapable of lying in but can have a nap in the afternoon if I want!)

--being able to decide to go somewhere... shopping at a town I haven't been to for a while, or cinema, or NT property... all done on the spur of the moment. Can walk out the door and do it with 5 minutes notice.

--Eating what we want, more expensive foods like steak more regularly

--Spoiling ourselves. We do a lot of this!

Ironing can be avoided

We got up at 8. DH went to get McDonald's for breakfast whilst I had a bath. I baked some cookies. Then we watched tv snuggled on the sofa til midday deciding when to book our leave for the next year. He then did some work on his car whilst I did some tidying up. Then we walked a dog to the shop and bought some snacks for later. Few more errands to run today. Need to decide what's for tea, think we've got ingredients for risotto but I fancy a Chinese...not sure what we will do tomorrow but I could do with some time in the garden.

Cooking, cleaning, shopping, napping, lunches out, walks, drinks out, popping in to see friends, baking watching films, sewing, crocheting, gardening.

Is it only me that spends each weekend cleaning, gardening, ironing then?

I have a cleaner. I don't iron (sometimes I pay the cleaner extra to iron; most of the time I wear creased clothes –I don't care any more!).

Admittedly, our garden could do with some serious work, but I have health issues that mean I can't do heavy work like digging and lifting, and I'm still waiting for that fine day when DP gets round to it (TBF he's very busy with work and wants to spend his time off being OFF!).

I think going from being with children to not means you have to get used to not doing things constantly, to taking your time with things, and therefore to doing fewer things.

I wonder if part of the issue is because your partner works on the weekend you are lonely as much as bored (and if your friends have younger children or their partners are at home on the weekend they often want to spend them with their family rather than friends - at least in the day time)

I know often the 'fun' things we'll do when we are both free - which may well not be the weekend

Today, went to Deal. Never been before. Lovely day, long walk by the sea. Nice lunch. Driving home. We will watch a bit of tv. Dinner, wine, sleep. A nice day, made the most of the sun.

Lie in until 9:30, cleaned out the guineas, did one load of washing then hung it out. Now on the train into London to meet my sister for dinner

Have a lie in. [wink!]
Go out for lunch.
Plan DIY/decorating etc and go to B&Q/Dunelm/Next/tkmaxx for said redec/house items.
Visit remaining living parent/kids/grandkids and do errands/odd jobs/baby sitting for same.
Go to hairdressers.
Do a bit of gardening/visit garden centre.
Go away for weekend - lots of good deals around.
Plan and book holidays. [At least 3 per year.]
Go out for afternoon tea.
Food shop in M&S.
Snuggle up on sofa with drinks and watch what we want on T.V.
Do hobbies.

I think part of the issue is I had my children young...so pre children life involved a lot of partying and recovery. Plus all my friends have small children.

DH working means weekends are on my own. So everything really involves a lot of my own company. Most of my friends are doing family stuff.

Ended up at a cathedral and randomly wanderered into pride. Was pretty interesting day. But still. Maybe I need more single/childfree friends.

I only have a small family. So just my mum.

I did used to read a lot. That seems to have slipped away as I never had time to read a whole book so I gave up.

I think there is something odd. Years of being super busy. (4 children) I'm just not used to having so much alone time.

And I'm not wasting my weekends cleaning no matter how bored I am ;)

I'm not a big eater or drinker.

I vaguely remember this thing called a lay in? I remember it being magical.

I'm childless.

So far I've got the train out to the Yorkshire Dales and been for a fell run, come back and gone to the pub with some mates. Now I am eating chocolate trifle. In a bit I am going to go to my friend's gallery opening.

Tomorrow I'm going bouldering, then taking my niece to the park (so child-related activity I guess). Sunday night I'm going for dinner with friends. Followed possibly by more chocolate trifle.