To ask your favourite things about your DP?

[OutingOutlander]

NC but frequent poster/commenter around here.

Whilst MN is a great place to vent about DP's/DH's being not so great, what are your favourite things your OH says/does that make you happy and feel lucky to have them?

Mine are:

• Watching how gentle and caring he is with our pets.
• Seeing how he interacts with our son, how he plays with and talks to him with so much love.
• That he cooks and will help clean without complaining.
• That we can talk and talk without stopping, it feels wonderful to share everything.

So what are some of yours? Hoping to make this a really positive thread

[MitziK]

Got another one.

A fleecy throw has just come out of the tumble dryer. He's brought it in and, rather than hurling it onto the armchair, he's delicately draped it over TwatCat and tucked the feline imbecile in like a little furry caterpillar in a hoodie.

TwatCat has obviously loved every moment of this, as it's still warm and he's a fucking knob and attention whore.

There's no need to make a totally pampered, spoiled and already adored furry git feel like he's the most important being on the planet, especially when TwatCat's usual methods of entertaining himself involve slaughtering mice, shredding the kitchen table leg and leaping on his chest when he's asleep and giving the poor man a near heart attack in the process, but he has. Again.

[justmeandthisstateifmind]

Mine is the best dad to our babies and even my child.
Always helps to keep the house amazingly tidy (I'm ocd) and doesn't moan.
Always calls me sweetheart/beautiful.
Remembers little things I like that always make me smile.
Will make me food or brew just cause.
We can talk about anything and he's always good for advice
I do love him prob don't show him enough.

[Arowana]

When we have different opinions about something, he listens to my point of view and will sometimes change his mind based on what I have said. Also he's gorgeous!

[SeaViewBliss]

A lot of what I love about my DH comes from our shared history. I was 20 when I met him almost 30 years ago

He makes me laugh all the time. He is a great Dad to our 2 DCs. He is kind and patient with his 90 year old DM who is very frail and often confused. He puts up with me organising holidays with military precision. He is a fixer of things and very practical. He is REALLY good at buying presents and he makes me feel like a queen without being needy or clingy.

He drives me nuts many times a day but his love is unconditional

[hoochymamgu]

Oh this is a gorgeous thread It's made me cry.
-Beautiful green eyes
-Does the washing, drying and putting away(no ironing in our house )
-Makes me laugh many times a day.

• Loves me so much however sad I am

[recrudescence]

🍆

[tomhazard]

He encourages and supports my career by taking 50% domestic and childcare responsibilities. He does not consider these things my job alone.

He loves our children and would do anything for them, over and above himself.

He discouraged gender stereotypes and constantly supports our son and daughter in being exactly who they are.

He has many annoying habits like we all do but he's a good egg!

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

He is a very gentle and loving person in general but I love watching him with our children and pets.
He is very intelligent and can work out a maths question off the top of his head very quickly.
He's got such a high sex drive and he is amazing at sex. He also has the best touch, he's so good at massages and tickles.

[BlythesEyes]

He is a good at cleaning
He is the most amazing DIY-er
He makes me laugh
We can talk and talk and talk
I feel can tell him anything
He has loved me throughout my whirlwind of being me, whether it be phases of fat, menopausal, stressed, anxious, depressed and a million and one things including the occasional dodgy hair do, outfit and inappropriate shoe dilemma whilst on holiday 😂

[ShirleyPhallus]

I love how many of these are so similar in what we appreciate of our DPs

Lovely thread

[ItsBloodyFreezingg]

Lots of things. He's just a good, generous person.

We are going through fertility issues and he is so incredibly strong for me. He is the only person in the world I want to hold me on my worst days and the only one that can make me laugh on them too. He is gentle with me when I need it but isn't afraid to give me a dose of reality when I need that as well (I often get myself worked up over crazy things!).

Quite often he will randomly turn to me and with the most sincere look he will say 'I am the luckiest man in the world'. Not in a blow my own trumpet kind of way but it makes me feel lovely to know that after all this time and after everything we are going through, he still looks at me this way.

He also has no idea what a catch he is either, he is so selfless and he would never brag despite being so amazingly talented at what he does.

He is incredibly handy. I don't know how I made it through life without him. Anything that goes wrong with the house, our cars etc... He's there getting his hands dirty and 9 times out of 10 he will fix it himself. I am in awe of his DIY skills regularly!

Also, he's very handsome. Sometimes I look over at him just watching TV or see a picture of him and I think 'Phwoar you're alright you!'

[MiceSqueakCatsMeow]

Where to start...
He thinks the world is a good place full of good people. I like looking at the world through his eyes. He is hardworking and ambitious. This is important to me as I'm driven too. I try to be the best I can at everything I do. He is a big picture thinker which balances out me. He is kind and helpful. He works hard at understanding and parenting our autistic children. He's neurotypical, so it's been hard for him, as he thinks differently to them. I actually admire him. He's loyal and stubborn in loving me. He is the only person I trust.

[Wishiwasincornwall]

Can I please say a massive thankyou for this beautiful thread.

I've been single (by choice) for 11 years and at 33 I am quite certain that I will always remain happily single.

But this thread gives me hope that my children will be able to have this kind of love and appreciation in their lives and that makes me so happy.

[hankib]

What an adorable thread!

Mine is so giving, every time we go on holiday he’s always giving money here and there to homeless people or the young children begging. We went somewhere recently where there were lots of little girls charging the equalivalent of 20p to weigh you and he constantly went and weighed himself everyday rather than just giving them the money to ensure they feel they’ve earned it rather than got it out of pity. I don’t think I’ve ever said it to him but I love that his heart is just as soft now as it was when I met him.

Another one who irons all my clothes, he wrote it into our wedding vows after he realised I burnt a few tops within two days

He’s very much an introvert and even though it’s difficult for him, he spends a lot of time with my really fucking crazy and loud family (even though he often takes a paracetamol before we visit!)

Gives my rabbits kisses even though he’s allergic to them. Adorable!

[NorthernChinchilla]

He works bloody hard for bugger all money in MH social care.
He's been a brilliant father (50% of the mat/pat leave both times) and all the rest.
He brings me goblets of gin
Wonderful curly hair!

[FamilyOfAliens]

He is very calm.
He just knows stuff.
He uses a proper hanky.

[Fullofregrets33]

Nothing lol can't stand the guy

[Namechange8471]

He's handsome
He's good around the house (currently washing up after cooking tea)
Great with dd (his stepdaughter) plays with her (she loves to play fight him!) But also comforts, advises and generally parents well.
Great with our dogs.
Great financially , pays his way, also pays for dd as her dad's shite. also treats us to meals out, cinema etc.
Caring, I have depression and he's very understanding.
Good shag 😂

[Birdie6]

He can fix anything .
He has never been dishonest with me, ever.
He couldn't cook at all when we first met, but has taught himself from You Tube so he can take turns in the kitchen.
He is the best father and grandfather ever, I love watching him with our grandchildren. Melts my heart.
He always smells wonderful.

[UnalliterativeGeorge]

He cooks the dinner so I don't have to.

He also turns the light off last thing when I can't be bothered. Every night. It's become a running joke but he still does it.

[Pollyhops]

1. We laugh together.
   
2. He does at least half the housework even though he works longer hours than me.
   
3. He knows when I am down and will do/say something to cheer me up.
   
4. He accepts my anxiety and will do things to ease it.
   
5. He enjoys cooking.

[Youseethethingis]

Aww there are a lot of good eggs there after all here’s my list

• best chin dimple ever seen since Kirk Douglas hey day
  
• his rotten singing in the shower makes me so happy
  
• I’ve had terrible morning sickness and he’s taken care of me, fetching, carrying, back rubbing, sick bowl emptying etc. without complaint
  
• has the most spectacular legs. They really are exceptional
  
• the sound of his voice
  
• gives the best cuddles
  
• he evens out my worst qualities and enhances my better ones
  
• he is a very kind person

[U2HasTheEdge]

He is kind, loves animals and nature.

He loves my three children from my first marriage as much as he does his 'own'. He is the best step father ever. There is no difference in how much he loves the children. When they lost their father to cancer he was our rock.

He does little things for me all the time to make life easier and nicer.

He is sensitive, we can talk about anything. He is on my side through everything. He believes in me and encourages me.

He has amazing arms and chest which are perfect to snuggle in.

[Walnutwhipster]

I don't even know where to begin. We've been together for twenty five years and known depths of despair that most will never know. He brought me through the indescribable grief when my brother died suddenly aged nineteen and has been by my side while I struggle with my health He was there all the way when twice I needed emergency life saving operations. I woke from life support both times to see his face. Soon I face yet another major surgery in a city away from home. He'll stay in a hotel and be there again when I wake in ICU. His love isn't always in the huge life events but in the milkshake he drove miles out of his way to get because I'd mentioned I fancied one during a hospital visit. His loyalty has never wavered.

[Grosserygangrule]

Love these sorts of threads, mine is
Kind and thoughtful
Reliable. I know no matter what I can depend on him
Funny
Confident and self assured
Good dad,
Calm
Good cuddles
Doesn’t try and control me, I see friends when organising nights out worrying about asking their dh etc. We both know we just text saying I’m out on so and so night and no problems, just a cheery have a good night