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To think that the onus lies with my neighbour to get her toddler into an acceptable routine?

82 replies

makingmiracles · 22/02/2019 06:28

So we live in a flat, upstairs. We’re very conscious of that as lived her over a decade, don’t play music, have carpet throughout, don’t have pets etc. Only use hoover and washing machine during normal waking hours eg 8-7pm. I can appreciate that upstairs flats can be noisy but we try our best not to be deliberately noisy in any way, from 10pm-7am most days, everyone is asleep, so no noise.

Downstairs in complaining about noise, but her toddler dd is sleeping a lot of the daytime and waking around midnight and doesn’t go back to sleep till 5-7am. Consequently, understandably, my neighbour and daughter are then wanting to sleep in the daytime when my household is up and about, walking around and making low level noise, so she is getting irate about not being able to because of our noise, she has contacted the council and they have written us a letter!

Aibu to think that actually her dd is no longer a newborn who can’t distinguish day/night and that she needs to work much harder on getting her dd into a normal sleep pattern?
At the moment she is not doing anything to try and help herself or recitify it-when her dd wakes, she turns on her bedroom light, takes her into her living room and watches tv/starts doing housework, so imo her daughter obviously thinks it’s ok to be waking as mummy lets her watch tv and eat etc.

I know not all children are easy, I’ve been very lucky with mine, but surely most people would have or try to get their 2yr old into a normal day/night pattern by now?

OP posts:
twooutofthreeaintbad · 23/02/2019 19:59

@NannyRed we'd make great friends! I'd make as much noise as possible too! My DH is one of those that likes to keep the peace so sadly I wouldn't be allowed Grin

NannyRed · 23/02/2019 20:02

@twooutofthreeaintbad Wine let’s be friends.

Bumblebeesmum · 23/02/2019 20:21

Depends what you’re doing. Either she’s off her rocker or you’re doing something so noisy the toddler is irrelevant to it being anti social. Probably the former.

NannyKasey · 23/02/2019 21:03

You need to keep a record of any noise after 11pm. I don't live in council accommodation but reported my NDN to the council as his lodgers were having very loud sex between 2am and 5am every morning (more than once most days). I kept a record of the times. They sent him a letter and thankfully it stopped. The lodgers don't live there now and my NDN is just about speaking to me again. I don't regret what I did, I wasn't sleeping and it was affecting my life and would do it again at the drop of a hat.

NannyKasey · 23/02/2019 21:15

It doesn't make any difference that it's a toddler. I get up for work at 6am and would be pretty unhappy that my sleep was interrupted by a child whose parent let them be awake during normal sleeping hours. My DCs didn't sleep at that age but I made sure that they didn't disrupt my neighbours. I'm surprised you got a letter from the council as it's not during 'anti-social hours' (see my previous post)

Mum4Blake · 23/02/2019 22:57

The council will write a letter as standard following a noise complaint. Ring the number on it and explain what you’ve explained here. This will investigate it (it’s their duty) however I think you’ll find that not only are you being reasonable, but likely the council will find her unreasonable for the noise which must be created by having the tv on in the middle of the night (and by having a conversation with the council you will find the roles completely reversed)

Leapfrog44 · 24/02/2019 08:37

Write this exact letter to the council and they'll see she's a nutjob. It's not reasonable to expect silence from your neighbors during the day time and the council take your side.

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