Aibu to think 9pm is too late to be ringing someone's doorbell?

[Whisky2014]

I was in bed, husband downstairs but I didn't hear him get it. I waited too long and the person left. Husband had called asleep on sofa.
But who rings a doorbell at 9pm?! I'm pregnant and tired argh. We live in a small village!

[pigsDOfly]

Notcontent Excluding school children, what do you consider late for people to go to bed?

How does anyone decide what's late for other people to go to bed. As long as people are able to get up and fully function the next day then they probably aren't going to bed too late for their own purposes.

Some people need less sleep than others. I'm usually in bed by midnight, that's always been around my bedtime. I'm retired now and usually get up at about 8 but even when I was working at had to get up at 6.15 I still wouldn't go to bed much before 11.30.

Managed perfectly well to be fully alert and hold down a job.

[Imustbemad00]

Anything after 7:30 is too late for me unless it’s an emergency.

[5foot5]

You are in bed at 9pm!? Blimey, that's barely wine o clock here.
We both work and have the alarm set for seven, but we consider it an early night if we go to bed the same day we got up.

[pictish]

I remember not going out til 10 at the earliest...as a youngster like.
Now look at us all...ooo ringing the bell at 9. How rude!

[Sparklingbrook]

pictish. My 17 year old would be quite happy to answer the door at the late hour of 9pm, it might be one of his mates.
They could even come in!

[EntirelyAnonymised]

Some MNetters won't answer the door unless the caller has sent a text 24hrs in advance, followed up with an email and a covering letter

Worra, you need to up your game. I don’t answer unless the caller has sent a ‘save the date’ 8mo in advance, followed by an official request on gilded vellum, 12 weeks before the planned visit. Anything else is just rude.

[Countrysideviews]

Too late to me, Especially when I am home alone.

[radishingravish]

If someone rang at 9pm now when it was dark I probably wouldn't answer, but if they do it summer when it was still light I will. I know there isn't much logic behind that but its what I do..

[PortiaCastis]

My 20 year old would be having her friends round at that time or later when she's home from uni so no don't think 9 is late especially not after her teen years when she'd forget her bloody key and knock or phone at 2am or so.

[vinegarqueen]

9pm is fine for me unless they are selling something or local kids wanting to speak to (toddler!) DS. Nobody except those kids and the postie can ever find our flat so it's a moot point anyhow. It would also depend if I was on my own or not.

[my2bundles]

Anything past 7pm is to late unless I'm expecting someone.

[Sparklingbrook]

It's getting earlier and earlier...

[AuntMarch]

I'd think it unusual for an unexpected knock at that time - not the usual time for "I was just passing". And I would think it late enough that someone who doesn't know you're routine to an extent shouldn't be doing so.
But until I fell pregnant I was never in bed before 11 so maybe wouldn't have batted an eyelid. At the moment I feel like I'm in bed all the time!

[BigSandyBalls2015]

9pm

[BigSandyBalls2015]

Wait until you’ve got teens ....

[BusySnipingOnCallOfDuty]

9.15pm here, tonight. The upstairs neighbours directly above who are the only ones we dont feel comfortable with (bloody noisy elephant people who ring the trade button to get in instead of just their own flat) and we have two kids, who the bloody bell disturbed. Weve been having trouble getting them to sleep during this half term. Hate them even more now. Also, OH has to go to bed around 8pm some nights because of very early starts. We can mute the building front door bell, but not our internal one. I dont think the other residents like our upstairs neighbours much either, they dont seem to be in the buildings what app group.

[Whisky2014]

Haha this is a funny thread. I know 9pm isn't the middle of the night but I do think it's like a winding down time, I'm in my Pj's and no bra on. That was another reason I didn't go down, I wouldnt be able to look presentable fast enough!

You are in bed at 9pm!? Blimey, that's barely wine o clock here. haha yes but I can't drink! And i get up at 5.30/6am with an hour and 20 min commute and I need 8 or 9 hours sleep right now because I am so blooming tired. Clearly husband was as well cause he fell asleep with the tv on, on the sofa. Didnt even hear the bell!

@sparklingbrook I like my neighbours we have them round for dinner and drinks nights and vice versa, we have each other on fb and do favours for each other. But they know I'm pregnant and they also go to bed earlyish so i dont think it was them.
We did have 1 neighbour ring our bell at 8pm once and we happened to be upstairs in bed (not alseep) and he was asking us to come for dinner at the weekend. He was surprised we were in our dressing gowns but we're worked hard and bloody knackered half the time. So i dont think hed then knock at 9pm after that.

But i hate missing out on stuff and am intrigued to know who it was and what it was about!
I am quite sure when i have teens it will all change but that's 13 years away and 8 don't want people to think we are boring farts. We stay up late at weekend, but week nights we are pooped!

[PhilomenaButterfly]

I don't want to have to answer the door when I'm watching DS 7's last video with him, then between 7 and 9 is OK, although I'd think it was an emergency, as people usually call during the day.

[Asta19]

I was in bed at 9:30 the other night and a takeaway delivery guy (I had not ordered a take away!) rang my bell over and over. I tried ignoring him at first but he persisted! So I had to get up and tell him (very grumpily) that I hadn't ordered anything and was in bed! So yes I think it's late!

I'm someone who doesn't answer my door unless I'm expecting someone or something in the post. I don't have anyone who just "drops in" and therefore whoever it is, it is not someone I want to see or speak to! I have some issues due to some things that have happened to me and answering the door (I live alone) when I don't know who it is just makes me feel vulnerable and causes me anxiety so I don't.

[Al2O3]

If anything I would say it is a bit too bloody early!

When I do 'knock and run' round our local village, I find it more convenient after we have staggered out of the pub around 10:30 pm. By then most people have finished the news and are making a nice milky drink, so they are more likely to be up and jobbing and come to the door to answer it, much to their frustration.

[MammaSchwifty]

It's not that late, no, but if it's an unsolicited call from someone who isn't a friend then it's an inconvenience. When the chugger turned up, the baby was not long in bed, we were having dinner and a small opportunity to relax together before needing to go to bed to get up and do it all again the next day. Precious time, not time to spend on the freezing doorstep trying to get some dodgy character with a meaningless ID badge to fuck off.

[Froggyface]

So if you find 9pm too late (I do btw) that means that you are a horrible neighbour, friendless, never take in parcels or have any sort of social conscience. Apparently. On MN.

[RomanyQueen1]

I think it's reasonable but i'm not in bed at 9pm. One person's reasonable is another's unreasonable.
I think 10am is reasonable, dsis who works nights is just going to sleep at that time, so would be unreasonable.

[Gatehouse77]

Nope.
Before 6am and after 10pm are my (personal) guide for what is unacceptable.

[BarbedBloom]

For us it would be too late as we are often in bed or just about to go to bed at that time. DH gets up at 4 for work and I get up at 5. If it was a one off I wouldn’t mind, same if it was the weekend