Lighthearted. To think your mother in law isn't your mother!

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DH states that the term MIL means that she is your mother in the eyes of the law. I told him it's not meant to be that literal. He insists that it is.

He's being obtuse isn't he. He refuses to believe me

You are right.

YANBU

Biologically, she is NOT your mother. By law, she is not your mother? Wtf is he on about? He is, as you already know, talking shit.

He's talking out his arse

You married a berk.

Sorry OP, but your DH is a massive pillock.

I have always got on with my MIL, but hell would freeze over before I'd call her 'mum,' let alone class her as my mum! I call her by her forename. Always have.

I believe it is in canon law

I believe it is in canon law

Cannon like a big gun? Or is that the wrong type on canon.

My ILs asked if I wanted to call them Mum and Dad, eh sorry no I have a Mum and Dad. Can't remember what I actually said but..

Yes he is a massive pillock isn't he Takes certain things so bloody literally.

This came about because I said it was weird to call your in-laws mum dad etc. He says it's fine because his dad called his mum's parents mum and dad as they are "in law, your parents."

He's a strange one.

If they are, in law, your parents as well as his, then you are married to your brother...

Its to show they are related by Canon law, it's to do with affinity and who can get married to who.

All them being your in laws actually means is if you split up or he died you couldn't marry your FIL (or your MIL but I don't think canon law allows same sex marriage anyway) and he could't marry your mum, siblings are ok though, they aren't direct line so you can marry them.

Really? To prevent you marrying your FIL? Not that I want to do that, but if not related, I don't see why that wouldn't be allowed as they wouldn't be your FIL if you weren't married anymore.

@Gummy you can still marry him if your marriage is annulled but it dates back to 14th century, which I think was before you could divorce and remarry, so it was probably to protect widows/widowers.

Unless your husband is also our brother, he's being very weird.

If he IS your brother, then you're BOTH very very weird.

If he picks up on the Canon law thing and misinterprets it, just tell him it's since been superseded by Lexmark law as a result of the infamous Hewlett vs Packard case.

*YOUR brother

I was supposed to called PIL Mum and Dad. The fact that she didn’t give birth to me was irrelevant, she was apparently my mother

Haha - your DH is a bit dense

That’s what it means in church law-but not the law of the land.

In some families/ cultures it is perfectly normal to call in laws mum and dad. In others it isn’t. Neither better or worse- just different.

Unless your husband is also our brother, he's being very weird

There is nothing in the OP about being from Norfolk :-)

FIL signs birthday cards to me 'Love Dad'. He doesn't like me and he's not my dad.
Twat.

Your husband is correct!