To think if you're kind, people take advantage?

[ElektraLOL]

I'm a spa therapist and of course the nature of the job is that we have to do a lot of massage.

One day, one of the other therapists had a very busy day with no chances to catch up so she asked me if I could take one of her massages as I had a gap and of course I said yes.

Since then she's got into a pattern of coming into work, looking at my day and hers and then trying to swap my treatments with hers so that she ends up with an 'easier' day. She now doesn't even ask me. And this has happened about 4 times since.

Last Saturday she was whining about not feeling well and an hour of her massage time was put into my column which meant that i was over my massage limit for that day and by the end of the day I had a really bad back because I've reactivated an old injury.

The GP has now had to give me a note to limit my massage time to 3 hours a day to allow my back to heal.

It just annoys me that you agree to help someone out and they start taking advantage 😡 is this common at work?

I think it’s fine to be kind but when the person asks for another favour I’d call in the first one.

“Oooh can you do this massage for me?”

“Well you already owe me one - let’s sort that one first”

You are a hero frog, well done. I used to be like that too, always saying “I’ll get it “ when folk have conveniently forgot their purse.

There are two kinds of people. The kind that do stuff, and the other kind that let them. YANBU

Well today I had to do a double treatment with her. So I said 'CF I need to use the adjustable couch please because my back is really bad and I can't lean' (one of them doesn't move) I actually have a slipped disc so it's really painful. She said she can't use the non adjustable couch because she's too tall.

At this point she goes over to some of our colleagues and whines at them about me. It seems your prediction of events was right! But hopefully she will now know that her luck with me is run out.

Nice one! Yes, hopefully it will have done the trick! What a cf!

Yeah, I guess the longer I went on letting her get her own way the more mean she would have been when I stopped it.