To feel like im being backed into a corner by ex dh

[Chickaletta16]

Ok here goes...

I was married to dh for 10 years.. we had 4 children and he was having affairs and dud not.appreciate a thing I did during this time. Fast fwd 3 years i am much slimmer? Happily single and having fun.

Ex dh is now grovelling and gas noticeably changed. He want a to get back and be a father to his kids and a husband to me again. Thing is..I appreciate that he is a different man now..he has no home..a rubbish.minimum wage job..and no partner..but even though I feel sorry for him...aibu in that I am loving my life right now and don't particularly want him back. It would make the kids really happy but not me. Saying that I haven't met anybody I could settle down with in these 3 years..should I give.him another chance or no...

My ExH believed that I should let him 'come home' for the sake of the kids when he finally got his head around the fact that I was happier without him and wasn't ever going to beg him to come back.
10 years later he still can't quite believe that I don't want him, and periodically gives me another go (usually when he is between girlfriends, which is SO flattering).
I have been single for 10 years. I have no intention of being a couple again, but if I do, it certainly won't be with him.
The absolute arrogance to assume that you can treat someone like utter shit, and then pick up where you left off when the mood takes you.
Fuck that!

Don't let him back you into a corner. Practice saying: No and I don't want to discuss this anymore. If he persists walk away/talk to someone else, plan your strategy in advance.
He probably doen't have a partner because he has no home and a rubbish minimum wage job. If you took him back he would have a home, more money and pretty soon a new partner ie back to his old habits.
He can still be a father to his kids without being your husband. Look after yourself and your children, he can look after himself.

My exDH said almost exactly the same to me. He'd just split up with the OW he left me for and suddenly "hated seeing his family scattered everywhere". I agreed to have him back and what a mistake that was. Within weeks he was shagging someone else and left me in under a year for yet another OW. If I'd divorced him the first time I'd have been so much better off in every way possible, and DCs wouldn't have had to go through the whole thing again.

So NO NO NO NO NO is my answer.

Thank you ladies I appreciate all your responses x you are just confirming what I already knew xx