Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

in thinking if somebody has a problem with me they should say to my face rather than emailing about it to my collegues?

40 replies

mother2b · 05/07/2007 16:19

i just got a message from my collegue who sits next to me that was forwarded from a message from my other collegue saying that i officially have the most annoying voice ever, i thought i got on well with this person but i guess she is just completely two faced!

am i being unreasonable in thinking that she has gone about this the wrong way?

i know that they guy she sent the email to she had/has a bit of a thing for and i sit next to him and mess around with him and have a laugh with him alot - i think she may be jealous and i know she has confidence issues

i feel upset that this could all be going on around me and i would be oblivious if it wasnt for him and i dont know if she's been sending them around to my other collegues

this isnt the sort of thing i would do because i think that it is cruel and bitchy but i knwo i could just be being oversensitve becasue im pregnant

-which is why i'd like your opinions please???

OP posts:
Original poster
mother2b · 05/07/2007 16:58

i have never said anything behind her back, im the sort of person that would prob just think about a prob with someone and either speak to them or just shut up about it - am quite upset because i spoke to her about some things yesterday that wouldnt usually bother me (it was about my sex life) but now i know she has betrayed me i feel stupid - i thought i got on well with her and could have a good chinwag on the way home -obv i was wrong about her

i think ill just talk to her about the weather now

OP posts:
mumto3girls · 05/07/2007 17:13

she probably does like you and would be very embarassed if she knew you knew what she had said...

heifer · 05/07/2007 17:28

I think I would be more annoyed with the bloke that past it on tbh.

Not saying that it was ok for her to be nasty but I am sure we have all said something about someone that we wouldn't have said to their face, but really wouldn't expect it to be passed on (unless not a one off then fair enough to be told that someone has been bitching about you)..

Drop him in it and make it known that he passed it onto you - to everyone in the office!

ThePedantifier · 05/07/2007 17:38

What a cow.

Talk to her a LOT and LOUDLY.

TootyFrooty · 05/07/2007 17:41

Don't say a word on the way home. She'll guess that you know and hopefully she'll have a really bad night's sleep.

amidaiwish · 05/07/2007 18:22

i'd forward it to her with "really?"

that shows you're not taking it too seriously but that you do know
and it will show her (and him) up.
she made a bitchy comment, he is a stirrer and is obviously looking for some entertainment! try to rise above it (as my mum would say)

Original poster
mother2b · 06/07/2007 07:49

got a lift back with her last night and didnt say much in the car and just before i got out i just advised her that i had seen the email, told her i wasnt going to be holding a grudge over it but to be careful who she emails because i didnt want to read about the comments she made - she went bright red and started trying to make excuses "oh i could just here you saying something about his name" (we were taking the mick out of each others name) i said that it doesnt matter but just to be careful who she's emailing about what!

OP posts:
TootyFrooty · 06/07/2007 08:06

Nice one m2b. That'll give her something to think about!

Original poster
mother2b · 06/07/2007 08:31

i just hope it doesnt make things awkward for future drives - got offered a lift today from a lady that came from my town into the city i work in (my dad had cut her up at the roundabout near my town and felt bad about it, so when she pulled up outside my work i went and apologised on behalf of my dad)
this lady i dont even know but she was lovely and said that if i ever need a lift in or back than to give her a call(she gave me her number)

arent some people lovely

OP posts:
krang · 06/07/2007 09:33

Well done MTB. A very mature reaction guaranteed to make her absolutely squirm. Silly cow. I hate office bitches.

mumto3girls · 06/07/2007 12:52

well done MTB..lets hope the atmospheer in the office is okay today ( she's bound to kill the bloke she sent it too!!)

Hope you get a lift home still too!

Original poster
mother2b · 06/07/2007 13:20

its a very big office so dont see her much in the day anyway - just know there will be awkward silences on the way home though

OP posts:
mumto3girls · 06/07/2007 15:45

I'm sure she will probably apologise in some way and hopefully you can just put it to one side now...

mears · 06/07/2007 15:51

I think it is very strange that your male coleague showed you this - what has he got to gain by that? We all get irked by people's habits (even friends) but that doesn't mean we don't like them. I am sure your colleague would be mortified to know he has done this.

Personally I would forward the message to her so that she knows what type of guy he is and also so that she apologises to you for being so underhand. Get the air cleared.

mears · 06/07/2007 15:52

woops - didn't realsie you spoke to her about it - well done.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page