I have NC for this as I'm not sure if they use mumsnet. I have a group of friends I have been friends with for 25 years. I am the only single one in the group. We are all in our late 40s, early to late 50s.
A few weeks ago out of the blue, one of the husbands, let's call him X, said he needed to speak to me about a work matter (I work in an advisory business). I met him and we spoke about work then had a few drinks - we were all a bit pissed and I thought I might be misreading it but his behaviour made me feel uncomfortable. He then told me that him and his wife (Y) had decided to experiment with an open relationship and he had always fancied me and would I be up for fun. I said no, made my excuses and left.
Y had not told all of us about this new 'thing' but I asked her closest friend in the group if she knew and she said no but that Y had asked her out for a drink the next day where she said she had something to tell her. Y then (the next day) emails all of us some massive email explaining that she had a very long affair and X had one too with someone else and they had decided they wanted to stay together but carry on seeing other people.
All fine except they had decided to make this all hugely dramatic like it was the biggest news story on the planet for us all. Then to add insult to injury, I see X on the dating site I'm on and he's liked me and Y likes my friend (a man) on there and then starts bombarding me with questions about what he's like. She starts talking to him, he calls me up and says hang on a minute, she's married, she's still having something with the bloke she's had the affair with and she wants someone else?
I have had enough of all their drama. I don't want to be involved in their personal lives at all and I wish they would leave me out of it. I have ASKED them to stop involving me but they seem to think this is all hilarious whereas I don't actually find it funny or interesting at all. I told them all this and they think I am overreacting. So AIBU?