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Twat face next door

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Vintagewannabe · 19/02/2019 11:20

I suspect I am bu but I’m raging lol.

6 months ago our lovely neighbour moved onto a retirement home. He sold his house to a family. A week after they moved in the woman drove into my wall and knocked a concreate post over. She didn’t come and tell me just proped it up against the wall. I went to ask what happened, she apologised and said she’s not used to such a narrow drive and will get DH to fix. I said fair enough but please come tell me as children walk in the wall (mine and others in the street) and it will be dangerous if the pillar is loose and we don’t know. 6 months later still not fixed even though we’ve reminded the husband a few times.

3x a week young son (year 6) is driven home by a friends parents. Mother is never home on time. He’s left knocking on the door. Sometimes in the rain. I politely said I don’t think your mums home yet, he called me a bitch. I mentioned this to mum when I saw her last week. She laughed and got in her car.

They regularly park in front of our drive then make out like it’s hardest job in the world to move the car.

5 days ago a parcel was delivered for next door. I didn’t really want to take it but I thought I was being petty so I signed for it. The driver left a note. 2 days later they hadn’t collected so I knocked on the door. Husband was in but wouldn’t answer (saw car arrive, curtains twitching etc). After 4 days I posted a note saying please come collect parcel as it’s been 4 days. It’s a large parcel and I’m fed up of seeing it. Today (day 5) I see a sky van pull up for next door, they are in and still not collected parcel. So I went round and knocked. No answer. I asked sky man to take the parcel in but he refused saying he was going up the ladder.

Wtaf? I’m so pissed off. Aibu to fix the wall and send the bill, throw the parcel over the gate and post dog shit though her letterbox? (obvs last is a joke) Grin

OP posts:
SchadenfreudePersonified · 20/02/2019 21:27

I suppose you could always claim that you gave them the parcel. They have no more evidence that you didn't than you do that you did . . .

Bozlem80 · 20/02/2019 21:27

Leave parcel on doorstep, take a picture to prove you’ve done it so nothing comes back on you (they may contact company & deny had parcel) & don’t take anymore parcels in, if delivery drivers asks you to take in another parcel tell them the neighbours have moved house Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 20/02/2019 21:31

Our NDNs are known as Werepig and the Gruffalo

Grin

We also had a BFP (Big Fat Pig) next door but one . . .

Totaldogsbody · 20/02/2019 21:35

Put a note through their letterbox stating that you will be charging for storage of the parcel £1 a day seems reasonable, the charge will be increased to £2 per day if it isn't collected soon and tell them the parcel will be opened and returned to sender if not picked up within a certain time. I agree with other posters claim their car insurance for the wall if you can get details.

Arnoldthecat · 20/02/2019 21:40

Get quote for fixing post,post through letter box with covering letter saying pay by X date or you will start proceedings. Take video of letter and you posting it. If no action by X date,go to MCOL on line, submit the claim and sit back smugly as they get shafted.

Arnoldthecat · 20/02/2019 21:41

PS youll need their backward names for the above....you can probably get these from landreg.

SchnitzelVonCrum · 20/02/2019 23:31

What is it with people being absolutely dreadful these days! Me and DH have just being having a bitch fest about our horrible newish neighbours. Just saying how sad we are about it.

Not sure where you stand legally with the damage but they should flaming well sort it out! Send the parcel back drop it in at the PO with return to sender address or if you wanted to be really naughty just bin it and don't answer the door when they come knocking!!

user1472482328 · 20/02/2019 23:38

See if you can contact the sender of the parcel and explain the situation as regards to your neighbours . Write a note explaining you’ve contacted or going to contact the sender of the parcel sender and your giving them 7 days before it’s returned.
As for the wall, get someone in to give you a quote and send a copy of the quote to them and explain due to the wall being dangerous, through it being hit by their car, it is now causing a safety issue.
Don’t take anymore parcels in for them.
As for them parking in front of your drive just keep knocking their door for them to remove it, sooner or later they will get fed up . Also take photos of the car across your driveway as it’s proof of what they are doing. As for the son ignore the little s**t . If It was me and saw him outside his mom and dads house I wouldn’t even bother with him .

whyamievenamazeddotcom · 21/02/2019 00:28

Ageee with good there you’ve signed for it so legally responsible send it back and refuse to take anymore in re the wall I’d just mend it sounds like you’ll never get them to do the right thing but buy some instant hedging and block them out of site they sound challenging I hope you don’t have any more problems with them x

thecutecouple · 21/02/2019 00:49

Is it their way of annoying you? They send it, you sign for it and get really annoyed at not being able to deliver it. They could be winding you up.

Tottie · 21/02/2019 05:20

Completely missing the point of the thread here, but....We've had a number of cf or rude neighbours over the years and have given pretty much all of them stupid names. For example:
Gnome Man...He was very strange.
Ken and Belly...Their names were Ben and Kelly but they were stuck up twats so we renamed them. And Belly had a large wobbly belly so it seemed more fitting.
The Lobotomy twins...Two thick, scummy degenerates who among many other things used to park on our drive and allow their family to walk on our front garden.
Fanny pack and Fanny rag...Were two recently retired, functioning alcoholics who would slam doors and mow their lawn as early as possible, most wkends and were just generally really inconsiderate twats. We were convinced that the husband was a closet gay!! 😁
We've moved in the last year and our current NDN are pretty awful too (really noisy, kids shouting all the time, stole our bin and then returned it weeks later, full of dog shit and polystyrene balls??!!) but we've yet to come up with appropriate nicknames for them!!

Nairobiblue · 21/02/2019 06:49

Give the parcel to one of the kids when you see them and photograph them holding it.

aariah08 · 21/02/2019 07:09

Please open and tell us what’s inside??!!

aariah08 · 21/02/2019 07:11

Stormy76 do you live on Ramsey street 😂😂😂

Oli001 · 21/02/2019 08:41

By damaging your wall they have committed a criminal offense - get 2 quotes, pass it to them with 28 days to pay or it will be reported to the police

Oli001 · 21/02/2019 08:43

by damaging your wall they have committed a criminal offense - get 2 quotes and write to them with 28 days to pay or police will be involved

JaneEB · 21/02/2019 08:51

I too would suggest finding out who the parcel was from. It could be that they are planning on claiming non-delivery from whoever it is from and then collecting it from you.

We are really lucky round here, we take in parcels for all along our row, and they do for us. We have had some strange neighbours move in lately though, but they are in a row that is 90 degrees to ours and we rarely see anything of them.

I think the problem is that these days people just do not understand why they need to be "good neighbours", there is too little interaction between neighbours. We have lived here more than 30 years, a couple of the neighbours in our row have lived here more than 50 years, it is a generally lovely neighbourhood and only the newcomers would even dream of doing what your new neighbours have done (

hibblet · 21/02/2019 09:29

Do you have a back garden with wall/fence - if do just throw it over their side.

CantGetDecentNickname · 21/02/2019 10:26

Parcel- your idea of opening and contacting sender is best. Post, either car insurance or polite letter reminding them they need to fix it, have had x months and you are giving them another 2 weeks and if they don’t fix it by then you will get quotes, get it fixed and send them the bill. Hopefully they will just fix it. If not , 3 quotes, have it fixed, send them the bill followed up with a couple of polite reminders to pay and then small claims court. (Judge Rinder ?) seriously that is a lot of stress, which they know and hope you will simply cave in and get your DH to do it. They really are twats!

ralfeesmum · 21/02/2019 11:00

They sound pretty anti-social. And the husband sounds a bit weirdy - he was in but wouldn't answer the door......just twitches the curtains?

Odd.

I wonder if they're expecting an imminent visit from debt collectors or the like? Maybe that's why answering the door is so difficult?

PepsiLola · 21/02/2019 11:12

Can you speak to the police for criminal damage to your property?

I doubt that would work really, I don't really know.

I'd just leave the box to rot in a corner of the garage until they decided to collect

TheFirstRuleOfFightClub · 21/02/2019 11:37

We've got Selfish twat - parks wherever he wants and blocks people in, Queen bitch - thinks she owns the street and hates kids, The scroat bags - awful family many cars and motorbikes that are revved for hours in the early morning, Gossip Gertie - Flies out of her house if she gets a whiff of gossip, Bread Man - works night shifts, I imagine he delivers bread to shops (don't actually think he does) and we did have The Benefit thieves - the police took 3 days to empty their house in evidence bags, then it got sold.

We used to have The Spoon family - they had some awful crystal things that dangled off a stand in their window, from a distance it looked like a cutlery holder.

pinkstripeycat · 21/02/2019 16:24

You don’t have to pay to return a parcel that isn’t for you. Take it to local post office, explain what happened. You could say delivered in error if you want to. It has their address on and I am sure you can prove your address is different. Post office will return to sender free of charge to you. They will charge the person at the other end. Post office will give you receipt to proove you returned it. Definitely get rid as your neighbours sound the sort to claim you have damaged it, kept it or something

pinkstripeycat · 21/02/2019 16:25

Prove not proove

Onceuponacheesecake · 21/02/2019 16:35

Can you put parcel over the fence in their garden and leave a note?
They are a joke op

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