Drugs at work.

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If you found out someone you worked with was doing drugs at work (mdma) would you tell the boss?

1. It's a manual job and involves going into peoples homes (where the drugs are being taken!)
2. The person in question is drug driving a company van.
3. He is married and has children. His wife has no idea
4. He is in thousands of pounds worth of debt due to drug use - again his wife has no idea.
5. He needs help. Desperately
6. The boss of the company is going on holiday next week leaving this person in charge.

Because of 1, 2 and 5 I'd tell the boss.
3 and 4 aren't really your business though.

They aren't my business but I'm good friends with his wife and the dcs and mine go to the same school - 2 are in the same class. Dh is very very good friends with this person in question.

Yup 3 and 4 are nothing to do with you, but I'm afraid if I was aware he'd taken drugs and was driving afterwards, I'd be calling the police. Imagine if you found out he'd hurt someone while driving under the influence.

3 & 4 are none of your business.
5 isnt in your remit
2 and 6 definately - and im not sure I understand 1

However, always act with caution - unless you KNOW ie have observed, witnessed been told by the person themselves, do not ever repeat gossip and heresay without being able to back it up

Me personally wouldn't get involved, if you know about it the chances are high (no pun intended) that someone else will dob. Behaviour can change when people are on it and do you need yourself in the firing line if it was narrowed down to you spilling the beans

Irrespective of your relationship with the wife, your DHs relationship and your school familiarity, 3 & 4 are none of your business.

How do you know the boss? do you work at the company ?

I'd speak up, imagine if he hurt someone drug driving. Being mates would be hard to hear of the fall out but imagine knowing someone was hurt and it was preventable

People get themselves grands in debt from an mdma habit? Really?

Dh has been told by one of the apprentices who caught the guy doing it. He found out late last night and is on his way to work soon. Just wanted some clarification on what to do. These are our close friends so it does make it harder (we are even going away together at Easter).

Dh is going to tell the boss but is also going to do his best to help H.

I just feel abit crappy. Speaking to his wife on the school run this morning knowing what I know and knowing that maybe by the end of the day her world could have literally been turned upside down.

It's just a sad situation but he really does need help.

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking dh does. However it's a small company. There's only 6 of them all together and we are all friends. I regularly meet up with the boss's wife.

The person doing drugs is also a good friend. Lives in the same village as us. Kids go to the same school. Have a holiday booked together for Easter. We are all good friends

I think you should tell him that you know he's driving under the influence ( how do you know this btw?), that it's dangerous to do so, and if you become aware that that he's doing it you'll have to tell the boss immediately.
But be aware this will affect your friendship with the w ife.
If you are absolutely certain about this, you should tell het, she needs a heads up before her life implodes, poor woma n.
But I am wondering how you know he's taking drugs whilst working when it's not apparent to his boss or his wife.

@easyandy101 no cocaine. He's admitted to dh that he had a massive coke habit last year. That's where the debt came from. Dh thinks he's got the MDMA from the apprentice in the work place but has no proof of that.

If your DH found out (second hand) last night, how do you know that he is in thousands of pounds worth of drug debt?

Dh has been told by one of the apprentices who caught the guy doing it

Then DH needs to take the apprentice to the boss, for the apprentice to disclose as DH is not the witness to this.

There will have to be an investigation. I hope he get paid whilst suspended pending an investigation, or else the house could be in jeopardy.

I think you have to
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If he had a car crash and injured someone you would (sadly ) feel awful

Tough situation to be in OP

@DelphiniumBlue yes it's absolutely certain. One of the other lads caught him doing it. Dh rang him when he got home from work last night and he admitted it all. He's a mess. I could hear him crying down the phone. He needs help.

But you are all completely right about the drug driving. Absolutely.

Dh has decided to tell the boss.

Dh has been told by one of the apprentices who caught the guy doing it

Dh thinks he's got the MDMA from the apprentice in the work place but has no proof of that.

It all sounds horribly gossipy.

@FunkyChunk he rang the man in question late last night who admitted it all.

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking it's not gossip. He's admitted it to dh. I heard the call.

Have you ever seen a person under the influence of MDMA? I find it hard to believe that he could be using it at work. The effects are very different to those of other drugs such as cocaine which are in some instances, concealable. Keep out of it, it's all hearsay.

The OP's DH should report his concerns to the boss, step back and let them deal with it.

Ah I see he's admitted it, sorry. Interesting as I thought people weren't able to function properly on it.

Hang on, DH thinks that the apprentice who told him about is the supplier? He d better speak to his friend before going to he boss, this could be retaliation for an unpaid debt or something, and not actually true.
It could be he's getting the drugs, but not taking them at work. I suspect the supplier has other motives here, otherwise he could just not supply the drugs of he's actually concerned.

@Pinkyyy read the post. He has admitted it.

Whoa, I love drugs but I'd never drive under the influence (or do them at work, but I wouldn't be at risk of killing someone while riding my desk to Neverland).