Godparenting

[gemstone1802]

My husband has a friend from high school who is married and had a child. I married my DH 2 years ago and we see these friends of my husband's fairly regularly. They do live several hours drive away though, so every couple of months rather than weekly. However, I would genuinely consider them now to be friends of mine too.

DH received a message asking if we could go to the child's Christening and of course we said yes. Booked a hotel etc. DH then received a message saying we had a special role to play, sent a picture of a Godparent handbook etc. However, it transpires that only DH is to be the Godparent, not both of us.

AIBU to be surprised at this considering we are a married couple? I'm fully prepared to be told yes AIBU because I have quite a close knit group of friends and for godparents not to be both people in a married couple is unheard of, but I only have limited experience.

I just feel a bit deflated as it's me who's put all the effort into Christmas presents etc etc - DH wouldn't bother! I might be being overly sensitive as we are TTC but struggling so I get that I may be taking this too personally.

Me and DH are godparents to a few kids together. I think it's strange that several couples have been picked rather than individuals. I can see a few upsets once we decide to have kids and have them baptised... None of my friends are religious either (I am). So one of the musts for me is being a practicing Christian, again difficult but necessary conversations.

Its up to them who they pick...

It would be odd to have couples. Ours had two same sex and one opposite sex. Two of the three for each were Catholic. Mixture of friends and family.

Are you all Christians?
Maybe they want to be traditional and have someone from both sides of the family.
We chose the people who we knew would encourage their belief, encourage and support, and be positive role models in their lives.

My brother has the husband of a couple as his god father and I have the wife as my godmother .... but they aren’t together anymore as My Dad had an affair with her..... it’s a complex thing this godparenting lark! (We always thought it was a shame our Mum didn’t fancy the husband, then it could have been a straight wife swap)

I know of one set of godparents who also happen to be a couple - however, they first became godparents to the same child and only then an item, so I guess that doesn't actually count.

On my dad's side of the family, children would traditionally get three godparents: two women and a man for a girl and two men and a woman for a boy. So unless the church is perfectly okay with a menaga à trois the couples thing couldn't really be made to work.