To hate birthday present surprises?

[dignifiedlazyness]

Ok yes I am bu. DP likes getting me surprises for my birthday... this year we are going away for a european city break and dh is attaching something on the end of it.
So it’s either going to be an extra few days in Budapest, or fly somewhere else for a day or two as the flight time he gave me for return journey does not match the flight times from budapest to our local airport.

He says please don’t ruin the surprise, but this is sending me insane!!! I’d rather just know what I am getting.

No sometime we do it out if live, and really think about what would please the person, their fav things, band , place

If you do it knowing the person doesn't like surprises, then it's not out of love but out of your own motivation, as you yourself said: I love giving surprise, the planing and the the reveal. If someone tells you they don't like surprises and you still insist on them, then you're really barking up the wrong tree by feel hurt by their reaction.

Oh, Black I once dated one of these 'I'm so romantic' types. He was so proud of himself and smug that he 'whisked me' away to Paris. 'Surprise!'

He hadn't bothered to even fucking ask me if I liked Paris. Well, I don't. I got violently mugged there at gunpoint once as a teenager. It was then a triggering place for me.

He had a face like thunder when I told him I wasn't going. Tough shit. Next time fucking ask first.