To apply for this job too?

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My best friend has told me she’s applied for a job and asked for my input as it’s a field I have experience in.
She wasn’t sure if it would be for her but was excited at the prospect- I said if you don’t go for it let me know as the hours are ideal for me and I’d love the job.
She said to go for it as well but I feel guilty.
It’s a pay increase for both of us on our current earnings.
She needs the money but so do I currently in massive debt and the hours would mean pay increase without extra childcare.
Do I go for it too?

Yes, you're friend has already said for you to go for it.

I would go for it. She told you to go for it so their shouldn't be any hard feelings.

Tricky one. Whilst you have every right to go for it too, when push comes to shove, no matter how strong the friendship, there’s a good chance if you got it and she didn’t she’d be upset. I’m speaking from bitter experience! Our friendship didn’t survive.

She said go for it. It will still create issues if you get it. Depends how much you need it.

It’s difficult as she doesn’t like her current job so think she like a change it would be more money for her but she’d be coming out with same money for less hours.
For me I like my current job but need more pay and this is relevant to my degree and post grad quals so would be ideal.

I’m not saying I’d even get an interview but don’t want to upset d friend if she has her hopes up for this job.

How important is the friendship to you? An ex and I both interviewed for the same job. I got it and our relationship never recovered from it.

She is my closest and older friend to me I really wouldn’t want to upset her so probably best I don’t apply.

I would apply and see if you get an interview. If you do then you can weigh up how you feel at that stage and always turn the interview down if you choose.

There was a thread in reverse a few weeks ago, I’m sure people said the friend that went for the job after the OP applied was shitty.

She is being nice, she doesn’t really want you to go for it as she knows you are in with a better chance. I think you need to consider how important a friend she is, I think it’s a bit shitty myself. I’m glad you are nice enough OP t9 be conscious that it isn’t a great thing to do.

i wouldnt

Talk to her. Just say that since she mentione dit you haven;t been able to stop thinking abotu applying but you're really put off by the conflict of interests. Ask if she would feel betrayed if you applied, since she's the one who told you about it. Make it clear you wouldn;t dream of applying without her blessing.

Ask her!

"I really want to go for this job and you said you were ok with it, but I am worried what would happen if I got it and you didnt. Can we talk about that before I apply?"

If she is as good a friend as she sounds then she wont have a problem with that, and will understand why you are asking.

I wouldn't unless job ads in this field are extremely rare

STOP!

It's within your degree/post grad, it's a career and you have experience?

Your friend has asked because you have experience, makes it soumd as though she does not!

Neither of you will be the only applicant.

Will she hold a grudge if you get the job?

Will you hold a grudge if she does?

Why must ither of you sacrifice the chance of a job?

Both of you just need to apply and see what hanes.

FFS al that "Oooh she's a friend you can't stab her on the back shite! It's real life.... nobody should expect anyone else to give up the chance of a better job/standard of life just to appease them!

Apply... see who gets how far... re-consider at every stage, if you have to. But DO NOT give up the opportunity because you are being guilted - by your friend or posters here!

Emotional blackmail is one of the most insidious things ever invented by small minded, petty individuals!

I wouldn’t.

Did you know about the job anyway? Would you have gone for it if she hadn’t approached you?

If you didn’t know and would not have considered applying but for your friend speaking to you about it then I think it is a bit shitty of you to apply for a job she is talking to you about. She is being polite in saying apply.

I can see how it might make sense for you to apply if she had little or no chance of getting it but as others have said it is going to cause a strain of you get it.

Find another job, I say

Would you have seen It if she didn't ask for help? If you would have go for it. If she brought it to your attention.. Its a shitty thing to do when she asked for help.

Cross post!

I would leave that job alone - imagine if you got it. Friendship over.

Of course she said to go for it, it's the polite breezy thing to say when you said you were interested too. I couldn't do this to my best friend though. A friend I wasn't too bothered about, sure. My bestie? No chance.

She is being nice, she doesn’t really want you to go for it as she knows you are in with a better chance.

^This. I wouldn’t do that to a friend

A friend and I once applied for the same job; we were open and honest with each other about it and our friendship survived perfectly well (I got it). That said we had both seen the vacancy rather than one of us spotting it and approaching the other for advice which is slightly different. I would still go for it if you really want it but only you know whether or not your friendship would survive you getting the post and whether or not that takes precedence over your career decisions.

How much experience does she have?

Does she realistically have any chance would you know?

If not, then it seems daft not to go for it.

Difficult situation. I don't think I'd apply if I was in your position but on the other hand if you don't apply and she doesn't get it, then you may regret not having applied yourself.