One of my three teens has stolen a bar of chocolate

[Member869894]

I know it sounds petty but I feel really upset - I had a big bar of chocolate in my bag to share after lunch an hour ago and now it has vanished. Stout denials all around.

I feel like throwing lunch in the bin.

It really upsets me that one of them would go through my bag and steal from me and then deny it

[CroesoY]

It’s really not worth worrying about

[Serialweightwatcher]

How old are they? Usually there are some signs if younger kids (say under 11) are lying - if they are not fazed, I'm thinking it may not have been one of them

[YoThePussy]

Hope you gave their rooms the full treatment OP, mattresses torn open to check for contraband inside, beds upended, carpets taken up in case of hidden booty holes. Shame they have had lunch as you could refuse them that, in fact no food until they own up. Have you got an angle poise lamp? Set it up for interrogations, wake them every hour on the hour tonight shining it in their faces.

Over reacting moi?

[Haffdonga]

More info please.
Has anything happened like this before?
Was one of them alone in the room with your bag or all of them together?
How long was it in your bag before you discovered it had gone?
Could anyone else be in the frame? (a DP, a visiting teen's friend, a work colleague?)
Have you searched for the wrapper?

I hope there's an innocent explanation.

[rubyroot]

Seriously? Thia over a chocolate bar?

They're teenagers! It's the sort of shit they do.

[Serialweightwatcher]

Sorry - just realised the heading said teens ... now I realise why they're not fazed - it doesn't make whomever a terrible person, it just makes them an entitled teen ... my 15 year old still nicks my chocolate - not from my bag though, but every bloody place I find to hide it and no, it's not right I agree ... I only have 2 teens and this one is the cheeky beggar

[LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD]

DH nicks my chocolate biscuits.

[caughtinanet]

Your teens maybe rubyroot but mine would never take food from my bag without asking. I don't think that's a normal or acceptable way to behave.

[CantWinLotteryIfDontBuyTicket]

I’d be more angry with the fact someone had gone rooting in my bag. Absolutely crossing a line there.

[rubyroot]

No I don't have any teens, but I have been one and I know many and what they like. my teens seriously? get over yourself and get over this- move on!

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Agree with CantWin - My handbag is a no-go area unless I ask someone to get something out for me ("Get my purse, please, and pay the window-cleaner - my hands are covered with paint" sort of thing).

I would be absolutely shocked if anyone - even DH - went through my bag. And no would I go through anyone else's bag, or their pockets.

[yips]

rubyroot what a ridiculous comment, so they should just get away with such utter disrespect because they're teens and it's "what they do"?

[Myimaginarycathasfleas]

Anger is not the way, OP. Sadness is your best revenge. Deep, sorrowful sighs. A few tears if you can manage it. "I was so looking forward to that chocolate, I just thought I really deserved a treat .
You will not be cooking dinner tonight. You will be far too sad, your heart just isn't in it.

[recrudescence]

Offer a cash reward to anyone who can provide firm evidence of the identity of the thief.

[foodenvy]

😂

[2birds1stone]

What size bar was it? And what type of chocolate?

Are you sure it hasn't slipped in between the pages of the book or something crazy like that?

[Iggly]

Are you sure you haven’t already eaten it.

[LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD]

If t was a big bar maybe it was a joint effort.

[Changedmynametoolikeyou]

I’d put a giant vibrator in my bag for them to find next time.

[LittleMe03]

@Changedmynametoolikeyou

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[tolerable]

op. go outside...even for five minutes. and just breath. theres a whole lot more than bag dipping and chocolate crime going on.you know it.your 3 unphased teens know it. even if provoked and justifiable in the moment. "unhinged" is not going to serve you well. xx

[Asta19]

I’m not convinced you didn’t lose it some other way. Sometimes things do just weirdly go missing. Just last week I lost a baking tray fgs! I mean where on earth would that have gone? Still haven’t found it! You’ve asked them, you’ve checked their rooms. Unless there’s some kind of back story about their behaviour generally, I would let it go.

[SneakyGremlins]

I'd be pretty pissed off if my mother wrongly accused me of stealing from her then turfed my room upside down to find something I hadn't taken.

That's how at least two out of three will feel if you follow some of the "advice" on here.

[wigglypiggly]

Tell them you're angry because it might have gone mouldy because someones dog peed on it when you dropped it and you don't want anyone getting sick.

[Member869894]

Thank you all . LOVING the idea of the vibrator...

I don't think I'm overreacting and don't usually sweat the small stuff but I really don't think it's acceptable to take something out of my bag and then deny having done it .

I was going to give them £20 each this week as its half term but have said I won't now unless the culprit confesses.

I'm a lone parent and need to be able to trust them. That said if their father was around I would be exactly the same. Its not on.