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To think this was shitty of her

63 replies

Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:11

Dp handyman was asked to take a look at a ladies small job she wanted doing nothing major. So along he went spoke to her about it then he had to search around the shops looking for suitable style colour etc and also on the Internet he sent pics of what he had found and asked her if she would consider this or that etc. She sent reply saying no and I've got someone else to do it.

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Mmmmbrekkie · 17/02/2019 12:11

Absolutely not shitty in the slightest

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:12

She sent this reply morning after he had been. Am I correct in thinking that this was a cop out excuse.

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LellowYedbetter · 17/02/2019 12:13

I think it’s shitty. What a waste of time

AtrociousCircumstance · 17/02/2019 12:13

Nope, not shitty. Every professional understands this happens.

You get people in, you get quotes, you make a choice.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:18

He is new on the site and can't seem to get going with so many people not responding etc.

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greendale17 · 17/02/2019 12:19

Hardly shitty is it?

People are always advised to get more than one quote for a job. She did this and went with someone else. Don’t see the issue here.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:20

I feel that she hadn't had anybody else in but maybe I'm wrong.

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AtrociousCircumstance · 17/02/2019 12:26

Maybe there’s a lesson for your partner here: don’t do any extra work until there’s an agreement that he will absolutely be the one doing the work. Just turn up, quote, leave, wait for confirmation.

madroid · 17/02/2019 12:28

He shouldn't be looking at ladies small jobs. It's rude 😁

cuppycakey · 17/02/2019 12:29

Eh?

How is that shitty?She decided to go with another provider. That's part of being self employed. I do part public sector/part freelance work and you need to have a very clear idea of what you will do before being sure you have secured the work.

I think your DP needs a bit more experience/better boundaries that's all. Good luck.

Drum2018 · 17/02/2019 12:31

How would you possibly know if she had anyone else in or not? Had he quoted her for the entire job? If so maybe it was too much or maybe his suggestions just didn't match her requirements.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:32

It was small repair job and dp thinks she would have difficulty getting someone to do it because she wanted to match up with dated material.

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Claw001 · 17/02/2019 12:33

Pretty standard to get more than one quote.

NutElla5x · 17/02/2019 12:34

Depends on whether she'd offered him the job or had told him she'd have a think about it surely?

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:34

Not possible to quote straight away unless he could find the material which no shops where stocking as it was so old.

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Claw001 · 17/02/2019 12:34

I also think maybe you and your dp are overthinking this. It’s a just a job he didn’t get, regardless of why!

Haffiana · 17/02/2019 12:35

Eh? Perhaps you personally don't know anything about getting quotes and tenders for jobs especially if you have never actually hired anyone yourself, but if your partner thinks like this then he needs to start looking for another profession.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:37

No she never said she'd think about it just an agreement on dp would now scout the shops and Internet and come back with pics of what he had found for her approval. He even took a sample of the material to try and match up.

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MyBaa · 17/02/2019 12:37

If he's getting work on a handyman website, then he needs to also try to push his business himself.

He needs a Facebook page and to print some flyers out.

Belenus · 17/02/2019 12:38

With freelance work you have to factor in a lot of unpaid time. He just needs to make sure that in future he perhaps does a bit less before expecting payment. It does get easier in that you get quicker and more experienced at doing quotes. It's not shitty behaviour from her. She just rejected a quote, as is her right.

SpanielEars070 · 17/02/2019 12:39

DH runs his own business and does daily visits to clients in their own homes. 70% of the time he gets the work, but some of the other 30% are complete time wasters. They haven't got the budget or sometimes any intention of getting the work done, but it's all part of the job and won't ever change. Don't go too far giving someone tips and ideas until you've got a deposit off them! Some aren't shy at using you for design then giving the work to someone cheaper.

Most people will get 3 quotes for most things, remember that. He needs to be professional, courteous, turn up on time and don't try to make a large profit until he's well established. And offer a discount if they refer family/friends ie 10% off. He needs to build a client base.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:39

Done the flyers but got nowhere.

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ilovesooty · 17/02/2019 12:40

I spoke on the phone recently to someone for quite a while discussing their requirements and agreed an appointment, then she contacted me to tell me she'd gone with someone else as she could be seen sooner. It happens.

I hope your husband gets established in his work soon.

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Stcatherine · 17/02/2019 12:40

He is new to this and I guess you need a certain way about you.

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NutElla5x · 17/02/2019 12:41

Maybe she felt railroaded,hard to tell without being there But I would have definitely expected a rough quote if I were the lady in question.

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