He works FT-own business, normal office hours, short commute. I work PT-3 days a week, normal office hours, short commute. We have 2 children under 3. I would prefer to do 4 days or FT but feel it’s too much nursery time for the kids so have sacrificed working more as he won’t reduce his hours.
I do all house admin, grocery shopping, laundry, presents, tidying, kids admin. He does 80% of nusery pick ups and drop offs and cooking. We both sort the kids out together in the mornings and evenings-ie getting dressed, baths and bedtime. We have equal leisure time.
I find my time at home mainly consists of picking up after everyone and walking around trying to figure out what needs replenishing, fixing, what appointments need attending, endless washing and putting away, dishes. I never sit down until after the kids are in bed which is when we both have down time.
Today i asked him if he could take over responsibility of say 1 category of stuff to be done ie online order of groceries once a week. He went mad saying he works FT and i work PT and no matter how much he does i never think it’s enough. So was i really being unreasonable asking him to take over the mental load of one thing rather than have full responsibility of making sure we have all the stuff we need in the house? It would be nice to for once open the fridge door and have milk in there rather than always be the one to replace it when it has finished.