AIBU What age is ok to do this and why don't kids understand lie ins? (lighthearted)

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Picture the scene. It's anywhen between 04:30 and 06:30 hrs. You are snoozing in your nice warm bed when you hear the sound of a door creaking open. It's your 4 year old. He is ready for the day and gives not a fuck that it is a saturday bloody morning or that you went to bed later than expected due to a surprisingly captivating Netflix series (I am looking at you Umbrella Academy).

Do you
a) sigh deeply, scowl at your still snoring husband and follow the 4 yr old downstairs with a far flung dream of stealing back some zzz's sometime?
or
b) do what your husband suggested last time and send the 4yr old off downstairs on his own for an hour to play with his tablet effectively hitting the snooze button on parenting.

(if you answer a, at what age would your answer change to b?)

Group clock solved all our problems 😀😴

hummana - you know there is more to an ipad than watching YouTube, right? My children don't have access to YouTube, they have kids Netflix and Amazon Prime.

There's a kids YouTube app which is safer. 5 year old. Nearly 6 goes down on his own and can work the tv. On the rare occasion 4 year old will follow but not normally without me. If 2 year old is awake too early then in our bed with YouTube kids watching nursery rhymes

Gro clock

Hahaha you need to get them to wake up later.... mine never managed that 5 or 5.30 no matter what time bedtime was!!! They were just grumpier the later the bedtime. My eldest even reprogrammed the sleep training clocks, "but look mummy its green now..." you didnt know whether to applaud her ingenuity or punish her, but it was hard to frame the punishment option given she had indeed stayed in bed until the clock went green...

If they stayed in their rooms until past 6 i was a relatively happy bunny, then it was Disney films in my bed while i snoozed. But i was solo all the time then so i had plenty of space and we could do as we pleased.

There's a kids YouTube app which is safer.

Oh no it isn’t.

www.wired.co.uk/article/youtube-for-kids-videos-problems-algorithm-recommend

Please don’t do b, we actually feel like we have a newborn we are that tired this morning. It has come to the point where they are getting up earlier and earlier to go down and watch cartoons. I’d suggest as other have done, it’s not time to get up yet, go back to bed (and be quiet!!)

Depends on the child. We send my 4yo downstairs to watch CBeebies or play on the iPad just as i used to go down and watch a video when I was a kid. If she needs anything she comes to see us. My dn on the other hand is 5 and I would not send him down without supervision as he would get himself into trouble.

No to the 4.30. Back to bed until 6.30. At least!
Make his bedtime later. Send him down to watch tv.

is a potentially 12hrs+ in bed not a bit much for him at this age

No. Earlier than 6 am (7 am on weekend), they go back to bed. Mine need that sleep.

7:30 is bedtime here, my almost 6 year old gets up at 7:30 roughly and 20mnth old gets up between 6:30 and 7:30 usually, anytime before about 6 and I BF him and put him back to bed. If DD got up at 4-6 she would be sent to the toilet then back to bed.

You do whatever you would do if they woke at 2am and came in to your room.

We put a TV and DVD player in dds room for this exact purpose (it only plays dvds, no channels).

If it's pre-7 dd1 puts a DVD on and they play and watch for up to an hour. Dd1 is 5 and capable of fetching them both a drink of water or a banana from the fruit bowl.

I have 2 who share a room (6 and 4). In bed at 7pm and weekdays they're up at 6:40 and weekends 7:20 - I set the Gro Clock. They are allowed to disturb us once its sun is up, but we have classes or church at the weekend so that's ok. They will wake from 6am, but know if there is more than 1 star they must go back to sleep. Then at 1 star they can entertain themselves in their room - reading, playing, dolls house, dress up, etc. But in their room. Often at the weekend this extends much longer than the Gro clock demands. It's taught them how to entertain themselves and they're better friends for it too, I think.

Surely allowing them iPads in the morning just makes them wake earlier? Back to bed if it's before 7am in our house and if you can't sleep then read a book or play quietly in your room.

Between 4:30 and 6:30 is still night time and letting them on iPads is just going to encourage them to get up between 4:30 and 6:30 even more!

If you get up between 4:30 and 6:30 you try to go back to sleep. And if you can't you look at books in bed.

Definitely back to bed until gro clock says 6/630. Then tv or iPad ok for 45 mins ish imho.

Send him back to bed. It’s not getting up time. No wonder he’s shattered at 7pm

Anytime before 6am was straight back to bed in our house. After that one of us would go down with home and, most likely, doze on the sofa whilst they watched TV/ate breakfast.

I can really remember but I reckon from about age 7 onwards they would go down on their own.

The rule is the day doesn't start before 7 so child goes back to bed.

I'd do the opposite of B and tell him he wouldn't see an ipad on any of the days he was waking me up unnecessarily before six thirty in the morning!

You can't always help when you wake, though.

Seriously, kids wake up early. That's how it is.

The kids have a gro clock and it turns yellow at 6.30am - when it’s still blue they must stay silently in bed. They are 3&5, they get up any time after 6.30 (I hear them get up and just doze), the 3yo can work the kindle fire tablet and the 5yo can turn on sky and put his recorded stuff on so they just do that til I get up between 7/7.30 and feed them.
I always make sure their water bottles are on the table for when they come down.
They love their little chilled half hour or so before I get up. They’ve been doing it for about a year. The set up of my house means the living room is on a different floor to the kitchen so i would hear them if they left the living room.

Get a gro clock. No one in my house is allowed out of bed until 7am when the clock turns into a sun. Strictly enforced.

So they can't have a wee, a drink?