To need a diet that works

[Dietfailure]

Just to warn you, this will not be easy. I've tried and failed at just about everything, I can't cook, I dislike a lot of foods and I think I have a bit of a weird thing where once I eat something I struggle to stop.

Historically I've done best on meal replacement plans.

Help!?

Rigid rules don't work - I'm the same as you. Can have a great week and one "slip up" and then I'm back to where I started and eating like there's no tomorrow.
This. It's about coming back from mistakes and NOT being rigid.
I have a day off each week and use MFP but with a very slow rate of loss deliberately. I've lost 4 lb since Dec but I'm pretty confident I'll keep it off.

Another vote for 16:8. I've been dieting for 30 years. This is the only "diet" I can stick too. It's not even a diet, just a way of eating. I always feel full, I've lost weight easily and feel very healthy. Even if I wasn't losing weight I'd stick to this way of eating. It's resolved so many health problems I have as when you fast your body is able to heal. You said you like strict rules. Me too - I like knowing I can't eat after a certain time. It's black and white so easy to stick to.

All I'm getting from the Ops posts is she can't be bothered and it's too much hassle and doesn't want to change because it's hard.

Eat less and better, move more, and stop making excuses. I can't cook, I don't like exercise, really this is all rubbish.

You have done best in past on meal replacement shall I tell you why as they are easy, they also don't teach you anything about healthy food. Calories in Vs calories out.

Either do something or stay fat it's upto you but, only you can do something, yes it's hard but easy option got you to here in first place.

Get a lot fatter. A LOT fatter. Continue comfort eating, not exercising, binge eating and abusing your body. Do that for a few years until there are fewer and fewer ways to hide it and fewer and fewer parts of your body you like. Do that until you hate your body and yourself more than you hate diets and exercise.

Then take all the excellent advice on this thread, except another few stone further from your goal.

Well, it's not "in the nicest possible way" is it? I mean, in the nicest possible way back at you, 59 posts aren't going to sort a problem that has been around years. If anybody can point me to any form of therapy that's stopped fat people being fat I'd love to know, but I doubt it. But even if they had it's unlikely I could afford it.

Sounds like you might have to accept being fat then.

In all seriousness it isn't just about cooking: I've no idea re portion size and so on.

But you have the internet at your fingertips

You don't even need to leave the house to learn about it. No-one is born knowing these things.

OP, you seem to be looking for miracle solutions when they don’t exist. The physical side of dieting is incredibly simple - burn more calories than you eat, hit a caloric deficit and you will lose weight.

The only person that can do it is YOU. YOU need to change your mindset and stop self sabotaging.

Diets (or whatever you want to call them) DO work but you need to put the effort in and stop whinging about “I can’t do this or that or the other”. You need to follow them. If you slip up, IT DOESNT FUCKING MATTER. Just get back on it straight away! I slipped up last night, had a takeaway and wine, but instead of whinging and falling back off the wagon it’s just made me more motivated to get back on track.

1. Find other ways of comforting yourself. My mental health improved immeasurably when I started exercising.

1. Buy a fitness tracker and hit 10k steps a day MINIMUM. Don’t tell me you don’t have time - jog in front of the TV if you have to. I thought I didn’t have time but guess what, I hit 20,000 steps a day now.

1. Download MyFitnessPal. When you know how many calories you should be eating, adjust your portion sizes so you hit your calories.

1. Look up recipes online. Anyone can cook. My kids could follow a recipe from 10 years old. It’s not an excuse. Otherwise, find healthy ready meals. Make sandwiches and salads.

And find your motivation. You’ve got it sitting in front of you. You’re overweight and you don’t want to be.

Otherwise, stay fat and miserable. It’s entirely your choice. Nobody here can do it for you.

Well, it's not "in the nicest possible way" is it? I mean, in the nicest possible way back at you, 59 posts aren't going to sort a problem that has been around years. If anybody can point me to any form of therapy that's stopped fat people being fat I'd love to know, but I doubt it.

Well there are plenty kinds of therapy but you have to be open to it.

Don't change, I don't care. You were the one starting the thread. The only person who can do this is you and nothing changes if nothing changes.

Good luck op but until you start taking some responsibility for yourself you won't lose weight.

There are all sorts of ways to lose excess weight, as have been listed by PPs but you have to put in the effort like anything else in life.

Not sure why you expect to be exempt from that.

You say you need rigid rules but unless someone comes around and whips you how would that work?

WW worked for me twice with pregnancy weight. I had to stick to their rules though.

OP: I need help to lose weight
Posted replies: Excellent suggestion after suggestion
OP: Yes but, no I can't, no I won't, I don't like it, negativity, negativity, negativity

I guess someone who doen't want to be helped can't be helped

It seems like you’re waiting for a particular answer? Bariatric surgery?Go back on your meal replacement shakes?
Because you have been given lots of sound advice but your attitude stinks.

Get a dog? (If you’re a dog person and can give them a good home obviously!!) Walk the dog, A LOT.

Yoga?

I do t know what you’re after here really because you’re just shooting everyone down with your negative attitude

I lost 45 lbs finally after really getting in touch with myself, my urges, my belief systems being ready and willing to change. It took a lot of coaching (and self coaching) to gain awareness of my urges, and learn to believe that past failures do not predict future success. In fact I had to believe HARD that I could do it, it would take a long time (post 3 kids and at mid-life) to get there. the only real lifestyle change was setting a protocol I could live with for life and being really committed to sticking with it. Results were very slow - changes didn't start for 8 weeks. But it was learning to be willing to change without expecting the results which made the difference. Never underestimate the long term compounding effect of small consistent change.

Nothing is going to work all the time you have a defeatist attitude.

Don't know how to cook? Learn. It's not difficult, look up some recipes and follow them. Go on YouTube if need be.

Don't know about portion sizes? Learn. There's plates that you can buy that even show you. NHS website has good guidance as to how much you should be eating from each food group.

Starting with 'I don't like it, I can't do it, it doesn't work' is going to get you nowhere. You need to get in the right mindset before you start or you will never stick to anything

What do you want OP? Because it's either keep doing what you're doing and get fatter or put some effort in. The choice is yours.

And I'm not even going to try to be nice, you certainly haven't been to other posters who are bloody putting their time and effort into helping you. You should be ashamed of how you treat some people on this thread. Go be miserable and bitter for all I care.

No diet will work. It needs to be a lifestyle change.

Part of that is working out why you don't adhere to healthy eating. Why do you fall of the wagon? Do you not feel like you are worth the effort? Do you not think your health, mentally and physically, is a priority?

I have lost weight and done well this time, only because I have done the hard work. The psychological work. I allow myself treats but don't go mad with them. 1 or 2 biscuits as opposed to a whole box. I have a cheat day too where I eat what the hell I want because 10% of my diet being bad is not going to ruin my progress.

This really is a case of self-reflection lovely. It can be painful to confront it all but it's the only way you can address it. Good luck.

Have you posted a thread like this last year op?

There was another thread just like this. The op didn't like any of the suggestions.

If you do want lose weight and can't do portion control start off with low calorie ready meals and transfer over to other foods. You need to learn to cook basic meals as eating processed food constantly is no good for you either. But I'm going to be blunt and say you will most likely put the weight back on if you don't make an effort forever.

This could be extreme but google saxenda - I bought one pen from PrivateDoc - lost a stone in a month and it has re set my relationship with food completely. I no
Longer gorge on massive portions and I am exercising 5 times a week. There are some good Facebook groups. I had no side effects except for some slight nausea and very little appetite. I haven't felt the need to continue on it and am still working on losing weight slowly.

Have you tried mindful eating? That completely changed how I ate and I reduced the amount naturally. I used to eat while watching TV, reading a magazine, browsing the internet on my phone etc. Now while I'm eating, I am ONLY eating, sitting in a quiet room with no distractions.

Have you ever been watching film and worked through a family size bag of sweets without even realising? Can't do that if you're focussed on the eating.

As for exercise, I hate most forms of exercise and getting sweaty too. I put on my favourite songs and dance around my living room for 30 mins, which doesn't feel like exercise at all. Just go on youtube and search for a megamix of your favourite group or megamix of 60s/70s/80s/90s etc.

@FunkyBarnYardBroom

I am doing a calorie deficit of 1000 calls same as you.

Interestingly I have been smashing the gym, 30 mins of couch to 5k then 30-60 mins of the spin bike and a tiny bit of weights.

I've lost 3lb a week steady too.

I've been the gym to counter act the wine and chocolate and so far it's working.

Three litres of water a day also. Minimum of 10k steps.

Suppose this proves it is what you eat vs what you do.

Does anyone remember that Katie Hopkins documentry where she gained 3 stone I think it was then spent the time
Losing it doing eat less move more? To be fair to her she proved a point that it does actually work.

It is about changing your mindset completely OP.

If you feel like you are going to fail you set yourself up to fail.

Diets are short term solutions but they probably won't eliminate the problem for you.

I've been the same for years.

I recently tried the Paul McKenna hypnotherapy app "I can make you thin".
Now it might be a load of shit but for me it's working.

Nothing else has changed in my life to make my mindset any different except starting this.

I'm wanting to go the gym. I'm wanting to hit my targets Every one of them every single day and I am.

I'm very target driven, my work involves some targets I've set myself and I work hard to meet them. So for me, my fit bit and this app is working.

Yes I will still have a bottle of wine tonight but I won't have the kebab that would also have had previously because I no longer want it. Because my mindset has totally changed.

That's your problem right there. You have to want to do this.

The running, the couch to 5k isn't really hard. It's designed to build you up each week. I'm doing five runs a week not three what the programme says because the pride in seeing the weight shift and my body
Change shape is amazing to me.

Try the app and get a secondhand fit bit off eBay and see how you go?

To be blunt, you are lazy and that is the problem.

You don't want to cook and you don't want to exercise. Good luck.

My friend is a fitness instructor and she said to me that the only thing guaranteed in life is if you eat less than you consume you WILL lose weight. It's absolutely 100% guaranteed.

She is right and it is working. You have to want to get off your arse and do it though.

Find something else to comfort yourself with then.. Honestly laughing at all of the great suggestions the previous posters have given you is not going to help YOU. Are you looking for an excuse to stay fat? Nothing works for me so hey ho I'll do nothing?

I presume you're a grown up so maybe it's time to learn to cook and be responsible for following something and sticking with it. Buy a teddy bear for comfort.

OP there is only one way to lose weight

Eat less . It’s as simple as that . A ‘diet’ won’t work , or even a regime if you don’t follow it

On some fundamental level you are choosing to buy , and cook bad food

Sorry if that sounds harsh but stranger on the internet won’t help this !

If nothing else be honest with yourself . Write a food diary . Write down every single thing you eat . That will provide some insight

It’s very easy

Don’t have chips
Refuse cake
Eat more vegetables
Don’t drink every night
Build activity into your day gradually increasing it
Don’t buy fattening food
Don’t have takeaways