Sisters car

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My sister has two very tall teenagers, a dog, and a partner. According to my sister her kids are always complaining that the car is "too small". She on the other hand thinks otherwise. She has a five seater car. She lives in the UK so the car she has isn't all that spacious. I think technically it's a 4 seater as the middle seat in the second row is half the size of the seats beside it so only her dog can fit on that, hardly, and is squashed up against her kids. Her autistic daughter is very sensitive to her dog, and it makes her daughter have meltdowns, yet my sister won't get rid of the dog despite. One of my sisters kids have autism and require about as many things as a baby does if not more. My sisters kids have barely any room to put their things let alone move their limbs and it's very compact and uncomfortable for them. They live in a rural area so they travel for hours at a time to get anywhere. I told my sister I think she's being unreasonable having such a small car based on the size of her kids and the amount of things she needs to haul. She said she doesn't like big cars and therefore isn't getting one. Aibu to think she's being unreasonable for this?

This is hilarious!

DNephew (6' 4") and DD's BF (6' 2") both had to go in the back of my 3 door Fiesta a few weeks ago on a 350 mile round trip because DD (5' 6") refused to sit in the back. They both lived. Just.

I have a mini and I find it interesting to see what techniques people adopt to get in and out, I find it quite amusing doesn't do them any harm

Where do they live in the UK that takes "hours" to get anywhere?

'Gifted' ???????*
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Oh, for the love of all that is holy, please don't use that awful* word!*

And a RAV4 is plenty big enough. Anything bigger in a rural area would be unworkable!

You're not from around these parts, are you...?

It's a Rav4? you'd hate my ford Ka then. It's tiny and I love it.

Don't know where all that bold came from

OP you're..... weird.

She lives in the UK so the car she has isn't all that spacious.

We're a tiny nation of teeny weeny Noddy car drivers. That's why it takes 'hours' to get anywhere.

Can I just say that this I sent the uk. If she is in rural England I doubt very much she is hours from anywhere. If she wants to drive a small car that’s up to her. It’s none of your business. If I was her I would be very cross with you for interfering in how she runs her family

I understand a little.
I had to get rid of my small car because my son is autistic and he couldn't cope with the others touching him

She won't get rid of the dog? Why should she? It's nothing to do with you - poor dog

In the 1970s our parents had a mini. It was tiny. My father used to race it, so it had a roll bar and the doors were welded up. We had to get in and out through the windows. Happy days
Your sister's Rav4 sounds like luxury.

You must have a lot of time on your hands!

It’s not for you to worry about. If your sister is the driver she is reasonable to not want a large car - lots of people don’t feel comfortable driving them. And she’s the one dealing with her family’s moaning and meltdowns so if she’s willing to put up with it, what’s it to you?

You sound a bit over invested in this whole situation. I know you think your position on the issue is right, but even if that’s true it’s irrelevant. You don’t have a horse in this race.

Another sister who thinks she knows everything about her sibling's life and what's best for her. I have one just like you and neither of you have a clue.

Get on with your own life and mind your own business.

Sitting in a car, hardly being able to move for long periods of time can actually cause body problems

You seem to be the only one who has a problem with her car. God forbid she should ever need to offer you a lift anywhere.

God, imagine the responses if this was the other way around!

"my nosey sister keeps complaining that MY car isn't big enough for MY children"

You really need to leave your sister alone and let her make her own decisions!

Ahhh happy memories of me, my two brothers and my parents folding ourselves into a mini (British racing green with a black roof if you’re interested...) and bombing around the rural area we lived in. My grandad called the car a bone shaker and he wasn’t far wrong! We all lived to tell the tale.

If it's an original RAV4 3 door, no, they aren't exactly massive. I was already a six footer as a teen, and probably wouldn't have fitted in the back of one comfortably.

So I can kind of see the point that it's not the best car if you have big teenagers. It's not what I'd have, and I always think people are rather silly and defeatist about not being able to drive big cars.

But it's hardly an earth shattering issue, is it?

Why is this any of your business? ..and why is it in AIBU??

Oh please!

What an overbearing sister you are. I've seen people get their kids in a micra as that's the only car they can afford.

Even a 3 door rav4 is enough room for some teenagers.

Clearly you have an underlying issue with your sister.

You wouldn't like to get on my car, it's tiny and there are 4 of us, and I can still fit luggage in although not much

@Fromdespairtohere

Well done for putting your dd in the front. Tall men are not entitled to the front seat! The front seat moves forward. the tallest can sit behind it with as much room as he would reasonably get in the front. The other person would have to sit behind the driver anyway.

Tall is no reason at all to go on the front as the seats move forward!

Why can’t the teenager with autism sit in the front passenger seat? That way the dog won’t be touching her and she won’t feel as confined being in the front.