Aibu or it wrong for me to do this.

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So my dds 1st birthday is coming up. Dd has too many toys books and clothes from. Xmas and really doesn't need more. So we have said about money for those who want to gift but obviously don't expect it.
We thought about purchasing a pass for Peppa pig World.. Obviously dd is under the height so the money would pay for mine to take dd. I will take her once a week as its only 30 min away. She is the only one who realistically benefits
It gets her out. She has fun and enjoys being out.
Were not buying dp or ds a pass as dp works a lot and ds is too old= teenager and will be at school anyway.
Most have said it's a great idea as dd will love it and wouldn't be wasteful unlike buying more toys she honestly doesn't need.
However a couple have said ' so you want us to pay for YOUR pass' I explained the above and that obviously dd can't go in without me and she is the only one who benefits. But they think it's wrong.

Now I feel like it's a silly idea or that I'm being a CF. ( totally willing to be told I am)

I've also given money towards passes for kids before and not given it a second thought?

I think it's fine and I would be happy to contribute towards something like that. Passes are the gift that just keeps giving, and with living close by you'd get really good value out of it.

And before Christmas, I would ask you if she needed anything present-wise and if not, maybe you could set up a savings account for her and I'd make a contribution to that. There's only so many clothes and toys they need at that age, and cute things like piggy banks or room decor items are best bought by the child's parents really.

So I wouldn't mind that at all.

Thank you. Jusrt vgo add the gifts are unwrapped just not u boxed all at once..

I have messaged the people in question and apologised for how it may come across and that it wasn't meant to, explained obviously no gift is ever expected ( it's family so they ask / insist) but have also Suggested books for any age if they prefer ( she has a bookcase full but they'd definitely get used)

I'm not the best at wording things and coming across properly so I hope I've done it right.

Sorry about typos my phone is playing up and it's not letting me scroll to proof read.

OP - I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. My 1 year old loved Paultons when we went last summer - remember, as well as Peppa Pig world there’s the big carousel, the animals and birds, the lovely gardens, the water park in the summer, the train and more. Ignore PPs saying it’s a waste - she will love it. I can’t wait to take Dd again this summer, and if we had the opportunity to go more regularly I would jump at it.

As for if you’re U to ask for money towards it- of course you’re not, it is a lovely idea. I think people are sometimes sad that they can’t watch a child open the present they have got them, and maybe that’s why they’re not happy. But once you’re showing them pics of your Dd having a lovely time at Paultons, I think they’ll understand that they’ve contributed to something of real value.

You're not at all unreasonable, you actually came up with a good suggestion. Don't worry about it though, if people don't want to go along with it, they don't have to. Your daughter will have a nice day regardless.

I'd not have an issue with this and just give you some money, but I'd privately consider you just wanted to go with your friend as your child is only one.

They asked you replied with your ideas they didn't like it. I don't think your being rude or granny at all.

My teens both have Merlin passes which other people contributed towards and they get alot of use out of them.

I wouldn't have been offended to be asked this; I think it's a good idea. Obviously you're not going to Peppa pig world for yourself. Your DD is 1 now but assume pass is for a year and she will soon be a toddler running about and getting excited about Peppa characters. And there are rides that little ones can sit on with their parents.

I would much rather buy you that than a bit more for the plastic pile , but relatives often like to buy toys and not give money- my family are like this.

No it's not that I want to go with my friend, I had thought about it anyway a while ago. My friend goes with her mum as she doesnt drive.
However if we went we would offer to take her and her ds
Most of the time ill go alone with dd.
I took my ds, before the peppa stuff was there when he was about 15m and he enjoyed it. I just thought now there's more there so worth a pass.?

Shes already running about so I know she'll love the outdoor space.

I'm just gonna wait and see how it goes on her birthday..

YANBU- I think it’s a great idea. We are suffering a slow death by Xmas plastic in this house! I took my daughter to peppa pig world when she was 18months, she loved it. Still talks about it now! It was so clean and a lovely experience. She will grow into some of the rides too, great water play area too! I think it’s a great idea!

YANBU!! Of course a 1 year old would enjoy a year of visits to peppa pig world. People asked you want you wanted too. Some people on here are weird. At 1 my child was running around a nearby zoo having a great time. 🤷‍♀️

You've given them your idea they can either do it or use it as an excuse not to gift a present which it sounds like to me.
I use to take my ds to chessington all the time, we both had a great time but it wasn't for me it was for him.
Ignored the comments

Personally, if I give money to a child on their birthday I would rather that money be placed in a savings account for the child not spent on a pass for an attraction for the mother.

If your daughter doesn't receive any money, no doubt you still buy a pass for Peppa Pig World.

The money will be for your daughter yet your choosing how to spend it. It should be saved until your daughter can decide how to spend it.

I think there are two ways of looking at this...If people have asked what gift to buy your daughter and then you suggested money that is fine. But if you have asked people in the assumption that they are actually going to buy a gift ...now that is completely different.

OMG, you deserve a Costa coffee pass as well for all those PP world visits!

I would love giving you money for this but would laugh at the horror of doing this once a week

I would rather that money be placed in a savings account for the child not spent on a pass for an attraction for the mother

I just cannot understand this. If op wanted to spend the money on something for herself
then I'm 100% sure it wouldn't be Peppa pig world!

Op I really hope your DD enjoys it.

I think it makes perfect sense , when our dc were small we did Chessington , legoland and Thorpe Park all the time , infact I’ve been known to do Thorpe Park in the morning and Chessington on the way home in the afternoon . You may have just put it across a bit clumsily .

I Don't think it's cheeky and wouldn't mind giving money to someone for something lile that. I obviously live in same part of the country as you as we have passes for marwell zoo that have been presents.
There is loads to do at Peppa pig hell for little ones and the annual passes are good value.
The people who have objected just apologise too then don't worry about.

Peppa pig hell

Ds went on his first trip to ppw at just turned one and he loved it! Wish we lived close enough for an annual pass. Fab idea

I don't understand why they have a problem with it.

People are weird. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sounds like a great idea and your relative is being a bit silly. They asked what she wanted and you answered, it's not like you are badgering them about it. And you said you'd be happy if they didn't give a gift, so they can just do that if they prefer.

For pp who asked why not just ask for gifts then give them away/to charity. Because it's a waste. It's such a waste to produce, ship, purchase, store and drive to charity shop, a toy that no one wants, just so a person can have a feeling that "no one has been rude". And the charity shop will probably sell it for £1, if they even accept it with everyone getting on the Marie Kondo train at the moment.

If your daughter doesn't receive any money, no doubt you still buy a pass for Peppa Pig World.

Surely that goes for any gift. If a kid doesn't receive toys or clothes, parents will buy them later as needed. Doesn't mean toys or clothes are bad gifts.

Laughing at the idea of OPs family thinking that this is all a ruse by OP so she can get a pass for Peppa Pig world

OP I've just had a great idea! Tell your relatives you want as dd's gift - them to take her to ppw for the day! Then she gets the fun of going, and they get the "fun" of going.