Aibu or it wrong for me to do this.

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So my dds 1st birthday is coming up. Dd has too many toys books and clothes from. Xmas and really doesn't need more. So we have said about money for those who want to gift but obviously don't expect it.
We thought about purchasing a pass for Peppa pig World.. Obviously dd is under the height so the money would pay for mine to take dd. I will take her once a week as its only 30 min away. She is the only one who realistically benefits
It gets her out. She has fun and enjoys being out.
Were not buying dp or ds a pass as dp works a lot and ds is too old= teenager and will be at school anyway.
Most have said it's a great idea as dd will love it and wouldn't be wasteful unlike buying more toys she honestly doesn't need.
However a couple have said ' so you want us to pay for YOUR pass' I explained the above and that obviously dd can't go in without me and she is the only one who benefits. But they think it's wrong.

Now I feel like it's a silly idea or that I'm being a CF. ( totally willing to be told I am)

I've also given money towards passes for kids before and not given it a second thought?

Sounds fine to me and can’t believe people have got the energy to moan about it to be honest.

I think it's totally normal to phase the opening of gifts, it's just the way it was phrased sounds as though those gifts were unwanted and unappreciated, rather than just being enjoyed slowly

I think your idea is great.

I hate giving more toys as presents knowing they aren't needed and probably will be put aside. I would prefer to contribute towards a ticket like this. It's a great experience for you both.

I think if you’d said “we’re still working though the Christmas presents” or something that would be fine and more what you meant.

I think it's a really sensible idea OP

I think that’s a really good idea; it’s not like you’re asking for a pass to Thorpe park, you aren’t going to be heading to peppa pig world by yourself.
Between the age from 1 to 2 there is loads that my DD would love at peppa pig world

I think your idea is fine and would rather contribute to that so your child can have some nice days out than give something unnecessary.

Our DS is a similar age, with a birthday not too far away from Christmas and all the gifts have been completely overwhelming. We're so grateful people bought him things but there were loads of duplicates and he'll never get around to playing with them all.

I've already started mentioning to family that next year we'd like to buy a family pass to somewhere and maybe people can contribute towards it if they want to. We've said we'll pay for them to join us occasionally if they want to.

No one has told me I'm a CF!

I don't understand people who leave gifts wrapped aside because it's "too much"

You could be sitting on clothes they'll grow out, something they'll really love, something you'll find useful or something you'll end up duplicating because you didn't know it was there

Surely better to sort through the lot and anything that is "too much" is recycled as a gift, goes to charity or eBay

Do people really sit with cupboards of unopened gifts? If it's gone this far past Christmas the child will never know nor care.

I think it's grand. If anyone doesn't want to just say that's totally fine. Maybe suggest a small toy or book from a charity shop if they want to give her something physical. My 9 yo still is happy with charity shop gifts. You can see if she likes it & send back to the charity shop with less guilt (if you're anything like me).

Good luck

I think it's a great idea. There's so much to do there. We love at the opposite end of the country but if we didn't I would be there with the kids every day we could. There's rides, two splash parks, indoor soft play, multiple play parks, sand play area, covered bouncy castle and animals/birds to see. You can take a picnic and have a lovely day.

I also think it is an excellent use of a birthday present rather then toys/books that while appreciated you usually have plenty.

Oh and to answer your OP

I Don't think you're being unreasonable at all and anyone giving you this face in real life needs to be given in return

It seems perfectly reasonable to me to get a pp pass. Well apart from the fact I can't stand that pig. However, if they have an issue with it you did say you don't expect anything. So if they think you're being cheeky just say "Oh, no worries, it was just a suggestion" and leave it at that.

I think this is a great idea, I can't understand why people feel uncomfortable with it. You obviously have to take her, and I'm sure she will have a great time. I took my 18month old niece- she loved it! I also don't understand why people are questioning what your DD would do there? There's loads of kids around 1 running around, going on the little rides.

If I give money as a gift to a child, I think it is up to the parents to decide what it is spent on. Your idea is a good one. It’s much better that your dd gets to spend quality time with you doing something fun, than get lots more toys that she doesn’t need. YANBU, you’re being a good mum.

YANBU

She can’t go without you paying for entry and you’re only going for her benefit.

I seem to be going against the grain, but I think it's a great idea. I hate buying tat for people for the sake of buying it. If one of my friends had an idea like that then I would be more than happy to contribute and, to be honest, delighted I didn't have to traipse around the shops to find something else.

I agree maybe remove the fact she had too much after Christmas and just say she enjoys it and it's an experience that will benefit her. You've been polite in stressing that they don't need to buy anything but if they want to - then this is the way to go. I wish more people would do it.

I don't understand why this is cheeky at all...?! In fact I think it's a brilliant idea. I hate buying gifts for small children that I know they are never going to use or probably have 1000 of at home. It's a total waste of money but there are some children in my family or of close friends that I wouldn't feel comfortable not giving anything at all to.

I'd happily contribute to this / an aquarium or some other sort of amusement pass for them. It's a lovely idea.

You've said you don't expect gifts at all but if people really want to contribute towards her birthday, this is what she'd enjoy.

I've been asked plenty of times for money in a card rather than a gift because little johnny is saving up for something special he wants or whatever. I've never had a problem. I'd rather my gift/contribution go towards something that will be used and appreciated rather than something to be shoved under their bed after 5 minutes.

And who in their right mind thinks you would benefit at all from going to Peppa Pig world.

Let people choose to give gifts, give gifts to charity, take DD to the free play park.

"She doesn't need anything" was the place where your message should have stopped.

I’d much rather do something like this than give someone more toys they don’t need or want and I’d happily contribute towards it because it would also save me going shopping too. Win win imo.

Considering they asked you what she’d like then YANBU at all! It would be different if you sent out a text telling everyone you didn’t want presents only money - now that would be cheeky! But considering they actually asked you then they are being ridiculous. My best friend did something similar for her DS’s birthday. When asked what present he’d like/need she suggested money towards a zoo pass. I thought it was a great idea and gladly put money in a card instead of agonising over plastic crap in an oversized toy shop!

Na you’re not being unreasonable at all. I had the same thing though when I asked for similar for my DD for xmas. (An annual pass but to a different place.) ‘but DD is free so we’ll be paying for YOUR pass?’ well yeah... she’s one, she can’t take herself!! & she won’t be going every week if I’m paying as I won’t be able to afford it! 1yo will love peppa pig world by the way it’s great for young ones & sod anyone else really. If they don’t want to take your suggestion or be offended by it let them buy what they like then be offended when it doesn’t get played with 🤷🏼‍♀️

But there are always going to be people who will buy gifts anyway.

Parents, siblings, grandma's, aunts, friends etc...

I would never not buy my God daughter a present for example. If her mum told me she didn't need gifts, then I'd put money in a card for her to save or put towards something. I'd have absolutely no issue with her mum asking me to do this.

I much prefer experience gifts (what is describe a pass to Peppa Pig World) to unwanted toys. I too pay for things like zoo passes and toddler fun day year passes with monetary gifts and I like to ask for money towards these things and also mention in the thank you cards what we plan to do with the money. My LO is below age for paying for most things so it's my ticket the money buys. I thought it was quite normal and nice and obvious thing to do! If I can afford to pay for my own ticket I do, but if not then I do take it from her money otherwise we'd sit doing very little and she wouldn't thrive in the same way as social, fresh air, energetic enjoyment and basically being a sponge for the world going on around her other than at home or the park or other free activities we also enjoy.