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To be excited that my children are coming home!!!

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myexisanasshole · 12/02/2019 17:04

For those of you who read my other threads about my recent breakdown, children living with their dad for 6 weeks and him then threatening to take full custody, I am happy to say that they are coming home for good on Friday and I get to see them tomorrow 😁😁😁 feeling quite good in myself, Lithium seems to be the key for me, even tho there have been some bumps along the way. I'm not 100% there but I feel ready to parent and want to be the beat mum possible for my beautiful babies. I'm so happy I could burst 😊

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MumW · 12/02/2019 17:05
Flowers Congratulations on turning things around.
Doyoumind · 12/02/2019 17:06

That's great news!

Bishalisha · 12/02/2019 17:07

FAB NEWS!

MrsTommyBanks · 12/02/2019 17:18

Thats brilliant news. Id be really excited too Flowers

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 12/02/2019 17:22

Fantastic. Take care of yourself and your children. Flowers

Exhaustedmummy1811 · 12/02/2019 17:43

Are you the lady with the awful woman who's with your ex who thinks she can parent your children her way? I am so glad to hear this news and glad your feeling better, I had a couple of years of really bad depression and often wondered if I was good enough to be a parent to my children but like you I came out the other side and things are great now. I hope your health remains well and you can back to your routines quickly. Well done op x

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myexisanasshole · 12/02/2019 18:04

Yes that's me, apparently now she's lecturing my childminder on potty training now 🙄 I don't care they'll be back where they belong by Friday and I can hopefully remain stable and a good mother to my babies who deserve it after 6 weeks of being apart from me!

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kitkatsky · 12/02/2019 18:06

This is so wonderful and positive for all mums with problems/ problem exes. I bet they'll be so relieved to be home. Good luck lovely x

Exhaustedmummy1811 · 12/02/2019 18:28

How often will the children still have to see her? Your dc will potty train when they are ready, if she had her own dc she would know how out of order she is. I hope when she becomes a mother she sees just how hard it is even without our mental health problems on top. I am so happy for you and this is outcome I was hoping for you, I can't imagine how hard the last 6 weeks have been for you. Be kind to your self and enjoy having your children back

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myexisanasshole · 13/02/2019 11:07

Now childminder has put a spanner in the works as I called her for a lift yesterday as I was upset after a fight with my mum and she told exh! Now he thinks there's something wrong again! I feel like telling him what she's been saying to me about him the last few weeks!

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myexisanasshole · 13/02/2019 11:08

Oh and he also wants 50/50 care which I wasn't told and am not happy with 😢

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Exhaustedmummy1811 · 13/02/2019 11:16

So what will happen from here? I'm sorry this is the last thing you need right now

Queenofthestress · 13/02/2019 11:18

I would tell him about what she's saying in a cool factual calm way tbh

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/02/2019 11:19

Its lovely to hear some good news.
I'm delighted for you and your babies.
I can't imagine how hard it's been for you

DeathBySnuSnu · 13/02/2019 11:21

Lovely news and wishing you all the bestFlowers

QwertyLou · 13/02/2019 11:26

Try to stay focussed on your kids coming back (which is wonderful news) and don’t get sidetracked by any drama Flowers

Is there someone you can vent to safely, who doesn’t have any contact with your ex? I probably wouldn’t vent to my son’s nanny about “my” stuff as I want her to focus on my child... hopefully this is just a minor bump, good luck!

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 13/02/2019 11:29

Keep cool op. We are here rooting for you.
Nothing better than having all your dc back under your roof.
You got this....

QwertyLou · 13/02/2019 11:29

Sorry that didn’t find out quite right - what I meant, because your CM has contact with both you and your ex, it sounds like you need to be extra cautious and professional when speaking to her - easy to say I know!

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myexisanasshole · 13/02/2019 12:49

I know, busy she is also my friend and has been very supportive of me. Apparently she was fighting back tears because I was upset which is sweet. I'm just concerned that now my ex thinks I'm still ill. I have text him as has my mum. I'm just going to be an anxious mess until they are back for good!

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QwertyLou · 14/02/2019 03:13

Hang in there OP, good luck for the homecoming Flowers

FlyingMonkeys · 14/02/2019 04:55

Did your mum inform exh or the child minder? If you're who I think you are then it's great that the medication is helping, but are you addressing your alcohol and drug misuse now? Have SS put a support plan in to help the transition of the kids returning home?

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myexisanasshole · 14/02/2019 11:02

Childminder told him, I still don't know why as I had told her everything was fine later that afternoon and I had made up with my mum. SS are not involved, they closed the case- as for alcohol, I'm not drinking, havent for 2 weeks now, went to turning point and am doing things with them and have a peer mentor. The only reason I had 'issues' was because I was unstable. Now I'm stable I don't want to drink. I don't have a problem with drugs.

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Queenofthestress · 14/02/2019 17:00

Has he directly said that the kids aren't coming back? If not then I would take it as that they still are Flowers

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myexisanasshole · 14/02/2019 18:45

No he has said they are coming back- for 2 weeks- then going back to his for a week and so on. I'm not sure how he thinks this will work, he'll be putting my son in childcare while I'm sat at home, they don't have their own rooms, my daughter doesn't want to, I think it's too disruptive, how will he take her swimming (she hasn't started yet), to Dance (he hasn't taken her the last 6 weeks!). I'm happy for him to have them for a longer weekend and a day in the week when he doesn't have them for the weekend but that's it. He told my childminder this also and ignored it when my mum bought it up. I'm hoping he will accept my proposal as I do t want to involve solicitors unless absolutely necessary.

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myexisanasshole · 14/02/2019 19:33

Can he force me to do 50/50 contact? I just feel it's too disruptive for the kids and I'd also miss them so much. Having them home also helps me with my issues as I then have a routine. It really starting to stress me out 😬

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